whats your opinion??, long distance?? Options

[icecoldtears1234]

well, recently all of my relationships have happened to be long distance, what do you think of long distance relationships?? do they work or not....

[PrincessAda]

I have never had a long distance relationship and thats because I always thought it was a bad idea and it would never work out.Because you never know if that persons chearting on you.I think it depends on the person and how much you trust them.If you trust them a lot..go for it..if not ehh just find someone in your city/neighborhood.

[ANG33ZY]

i don't know.. it just depends.

[SarahxJoy]

Two very important things in a long distance relationship: Complete trust and communication.

Communication can usually be an easy thing, but trust is an entirely different issue.
Because you don't get to see that person often, you'll only be able to hope that nothing that shouldn't be happening is happening. But that's where communication comes in, where you're an active part in their life, although you can't always be together physically.

Really, those two things go hand in hand.

[*Uronacid*]

jeez im suprised i didn't see this topic...

there are good and bad things to a long distance relationship, altho i dont know the side effects yet... so i really am not good at this subject yet, i will be going down to see my hollyann on july4th weekend so... wish us both the best of luck ;)

[oooitzsharon]

Two very important things in a long distance relationship: Complete trust and communication.

Communication can usually be an easy thing, but trust is an entirely different issue.
Because you don't get to see that person often, you'll only be able to hope that nothing that shouldn't be happening is happening. But that's where communication comes in, where you're an active part in their life, although you can't always be together physically.

Really, those two things go hand in hand.

i agree. i used to be an hour away from my boyfriend, but i didn't like the university, so i moved back home & now i see him almost every day.

back in the day, like in junior high, i kept a long distance relationship for 3 months, but i just ended it becuz it was impossible for me to ever see him again. ehh.

[_sarcastic_]

all my relationships have been long distance too except for the current one. and trust me, it's hard and it'll never or should i say rarely work out the way you want it to. you have to have alot of trust and communication to make it work.

but it also depends usually on how far away you guys are from each other. mine all have been overseas long distance relationships.

[NgocQuyen]

ehhh i could have sworn there was already a topic like this...but yeah, that's not for me to say i guess...but yeah, i think long distance relationships could work, but it depends how much effort the two of you put into it. it can only work if you want it to work, but if not then it probably wont work out....

[wckdspirit4u]

I am very much against the idea of a long distance relationship.

From my experience and from talking to my friends, they just don't work.

People usually need to be given affection and they need to feel their "significant other's" touch and their kiss.

It's just hard.

Usually, in long distance relationships, either the girl or guy will miss the other so much that they will end up meeting a "friend." This friend will then support them as much as possible and with time, it'll grow into more.

[*Zatanna*]

In all honestly, none of my long distance relationships have worked. I think that typically it's just too hard to maintain without the personal (and physical) contact. Eventually too much is left to the imagination (trust issues, what they're doing, who they're seeing, etc) and context (especially if communicating with each other via internet chatting or email) can get really absurd.

Not to say that long distance relationships are impossible, just that I haven't personally seen any success.

[*mipadi*]

I haven't had much luck with relationships in general, so maybe my opinion doesn't count for much, but I don't think a long-distance relationship is really an effective way in which to have a relationship. I'm not a huge fan of the telephone or instant messaging—I very much prefer real-life, face-to-face communication—so I couldn't handle a relationship in which I never actually saw the person. I think relationships work best when people actually have physical contact with each other.

[lexaa621]

long distance sucks. but it depends how far away you guys live from each other. my ex lives in a different state cuz we met during a summer camp. that was really hard. she ended up getting feelings for her former crush before she met me, and things fall apart. its too hard to maintain the relationship unless you can see each other and trust each other. if you guys only live an hour or so away from each other, i think it can work though

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

depends on how much you love the person.

[*This Confession*]

Yes, i think long distance relationships can last...and do work..


For some, they work out very well. For others, they can be difficult and disappointing. The most important criteria is that both people must be completely committed to the relationship, and they must trust each other. If one person isn't committed, they may be easily distracted by other people. And if the people don't trust each other, they're likely to fight often about what one person did or didn't do with so-and-so at the party last night.

as well as..

Think about it: When you're a few hundred miles apart, you can't see each other that often. So what do you do? You talk to each other! Get on the internet, pick up that phone, write a letter or email. It's all communication. If you never have anything to talk about, you will NOT survive a long-distance relationship. All you can do is talk; so if you can't talk, your relationship is officially on hold!

Of course, to make long-distance love successful, you must also have honesty, trust, and dedication. It's very difficult not to be able to see your love very often, so you must make sure neither of you has a wandering eye - or worse, wandering interest. If you know you'll be tempted by Mr. or Ms. Right-here-right-now, as opposed to wanting to wait for the person you really love, do NOT try for long-distance love! You'll never make it. It's obvious that you both must be willing to wait until you can be together, and that you both must truly love each other. You have to be dedicated to such a difficult relationship because you love each other, despite the situation.

[xmoon_lightx]

long distance doesnt normally work out but its worth a try if you think you have feelings for each other

[mytangerine]

For me, No they do not work at all & they are a complete waste of time & emotion. My relationship with my ex was long distance & it really seemed like we loved each other & stuff but it just didnt work out.. in the end he cheated on me by having sex with one of my frends who lives near him & dang it really sucked when i found out about that. so yea.. also we barely ever saw each other.. i suppose it all depends on exactly how far apart you are tho..

[*This Confession*]

^true in a way
in one of my long distance things
he cheated on me with 3 other girls
and well i found it all out
because i have more of brain then he figured.

Anyway, also it matters how well you can
take having a bf/gf that isn't always going to
be there to have the physical side of the relationship
because you can have plenty of the emotional side

[xCrys]

I think Hollyann took the words right out of my mouth.... I agree with everything she said, haha.

[xmy_sweet_reveng...]

i think they work well, the person above this is my girlfriend i live in uk she lives in us lol =D

[absinthe]

from personal experience, THEY'RE B.LLSHIT. imo anyway. ;D

[Itsa_Pnay]

Heyy well it depends who you are....i mean my last relationship was amazing but it was to hard for me to stay faithfull with him 3 hours away...but some do work....like my cousin is in one and him and his g/f have been dating for about a year....so like just see if you can last with the relationship.

[*This Confession*]

3 hours away?!

3 hours..

wow.
and it was hard on even that..
try thinking of people that are states away.

[xCrys]

Only 3 hours..?

Imagine how much I could see Mike with the three hours....

Hes in the UK, thats a whole plane ride away =(

Like 4,000+ Miles...

[*This Confession*]

yea i feel so sad about that.

i dislike planes
they make me sleepy
and then kids kick the back of your chairs
and you just want to rip their legs off of them so you can sleep again

haha


hmm
seems like more people can't deal with long distance stuff.

People I guess people can't live without seeing their other everyday
or atleast a few times a week.

[NERDFACE™]

yeah.
I hate plane rides,something always happens including me,a small child,and ice cream in SOMEBODY'S HAIR.
*SNERK*
but yeah.
I can't really do long distance relationships for the sole purpose it wouldn't work out.
all because of me.
I know it's bad and all but I'd really rather have the person near me,
and if not....
well......
I'm not very faithfull,to say the least.
:/

[xCrys]

I guess it just depends on the person, everyone has their own way of dealing with things I suppose, right?

&& yeah, I hate planes too, thats why mike has to come see me, haha :]

--haha, pg2 =)

[nightowl89]

in a nutshell: some people can handle it, others can't. Talk with the other person...sometimes even with all the communication, visits and strogn feelings, it may not be enough and u sholdn't have to settle for something unfurfilling at this age...

[chasingvictory]

long distance doesnt normally work out but its worth a try if you think you have feelings for each other

but its not worth a heart break