feeling a little guilty..., opinions? Options

[nightowl89]

So I asked this guy (ill call him A) to my junior prom. I used to like him at camp but he liked my friend (i always end up in this situation....grr haha) but there was something there. We're pretty good friends now.

I know its kind of a bad thing to do...but I'm thinking about asking the guy I really like to go too. despite already inviting A. There's a slim chance B (guy i really like) could come anyways, so would it be terrible just to ask? I'm thinking on the very off chance he says ok...I can make a decision then. But I still feel bad about going behind A's back... A does know that I really like B tho, and we're just friends.

Also, my parents are very hard to deal with when it comes to guys...I think I've solved this problem tho: crash a friends place. Paying for tickets might be tricky...tho I guess A and B would both understand (they would send $ and stuff)...I feel werid tho not being able to say like, stay over. But my bro's first reaction when I told him about A having to sleep over was, and I quote; "Ohhhh gooood" They're great parents and i love them...but we just never tlak about these things. soooo yeah...

thoughts? I think my main quesiton is, is it bad to ask B on the off chance...but I really really like him and I think I might regret not asking.

[Trumpetman4eva]

well if you already asked A, shouldnt you only go with him?

how can you have 2 dates?

[Chii]

You should have asked B first. But right now, you can't back out on A. You already asked him to prom and he's your friend, you'd be a really bad friend for taking someone else to the prom. Just try to talk to B and get to know him.

It's just the prom, not a wedding so it's not like you completely lost your chance of being with B.

[_sarcastic_]

^ i agree
you've already asked A, just go with him and have fun.
that doesn't mean you have to stop going after B

[-sincerely]

You should have asked B first. But right now, you can't back out on A. You already asked him to prom and he's your friend, you'd be a really bad friend for taking someone else to the prom. Just try to talk to B and get to know him.

It's just the prom, not a wedding so it's not like you completely lost your chance of being with B.

I agree.

[*chaneun*]

If you really want to go with both equally, and A doesn't mind if you go with B, then do a coin toss.

[Smoogrish]

^ Haha Christine is that what you do?

I really wouldn't back out on A- if you back out on him now, he'll feel, as an easy way to put it, dumped. It doesn't really matter if he knows you like another guy, but the truth is, he said yes. You can't expect he won't care if you say no. And for guy B, there's always a next time.

[*mipadi*]

You already made a committment to A, and it would be dishonest to ask B now; plus, you'd likely hurt A's feelings. If you really want to go with B, you could tell A you can't go with him (and risk hurting his feelings), and take a chance with B. But you shouldn't do so in a sneaky way.

But I'd just stick with A. You'll probably have a fun time, and you can always do something with B sometime down the road. And this way you won't hurt anyone's feelings.

[silver-rain]

Yeah, I agree with everyone; you already asked A so you should go with him. Maybe B will be there too so you can dance with him if you want, I'm sure A wouldn't mind since he knows that you like B.
But, if you really like B and really want to go with him, you should tell A that even though you would have enjoyed going to prom with him, that you do like A a lot and wish to go with him. And if it were OK with A if you went with B instead.