she's taking advantage of me!, What should I do?? Options

[Spec_R]

I'm not going to lie to anyone, I love my girlfriend a lot. So much that I would do almost anything for her and she knows it too. The last time we hooked back up from a breakup I asked her what are your feelings for me like? She told me that she care and like me a lot. Also love me but not as much as I love her. Just a little. She told me that she know my weakness and my weakness is her. She takes advantage of me because she knows that I will always be there for her no matter what even if she treats me bad. She broke up with me before saying that I don't love her, I'm obsessed about her. Well I think that's called unconditionally love... She talk crap about me to her friends, broke up with me for another guy before, when i'm there with her and when her friends are around she act like we arn't even dating. Friends of mine said she's a bitch and I should get a better gf but I don't know I am so in love with her. I am one confused/stupid lil boy...ain't I?

Well now....what is the right thing to do? For a girl like that....what are the options to get her to truly love me or there is NO other ways?? I am really confused right now and don't know what to do so i'm asking you guys to help me out please...thanks

[dani41790]

It's just not right how she takes advantage of you. Honestly, I think you deserve much better. Even though it's hard for you, you should end it. You deserve someone better, and the sooner you end it, the sooner you will find someone you will love more than her, and who will love you back.

[baconstrips]

I think you deserve someone better than her. If she talks crap about you to her friends, I personally don't think she is giving you respect at all. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are, and treats you with respect, which unfortunatley, I don't think she is giving you. But if you want to work things out with her, your best just sitting down with her and having a talk about where the relationship is going, and hopefully you'll be able to express how you want to be treated with more respect.

[mylittleMiracle]

i think you should leave her as shes a bitch,end this relationship.
she was just treating you as a doll.also she doesnt be serious of this relationship btw u and her sure later you will find someone who love you more than she loves you:) good luck!

[imnoxonesmemory]

for a girl... if they really don't feel the same way anymore it's hard to get them to change their mind =S
it's wrong she's taking advantage of you. you sound like a nice guy.
it's wrong for her to talk crap about you to her friends aswell. girls can be evil bitches.
and you said she left u for another guy. -ouch!
i think you should try to move on from her :)
hope that helpd!

[_sarcastic_]

i don't think she should be treating you that way, taking advantage of you
i agree with everyone that you should end this relationship, you deserve much much better than her.

[Paradox of Life]

Firstly, you are NOT stupid. You are LETTING her take advantage of you by being so vulnerable to her! You can't just give her everything she wants.

So much that I would do almost anything for her and she knows it too.

Don't give her the opportunity to take advantage of you. What do you look for in a girlfriend? What are things you don't look for in a girlfriend? Are you sure you really love this girl? Because apparently, she doesn't love you back if she's putting you through this much mental stress.

[*mipadi*]

You can't get something to love you, no matter what you do. Either they do, or they don't.

You know she's taking advantage of you. And I think you know what you need to do. I'm sure you might feel lonely without her, but think about it: Will your situation with her be any worse if you break up with her? Probably not. Now that you've found the problem, it's time to take action on it.

[moorepocket]

teach her a lesson. Don't return her calls, be undependable, and be the bitchiest bitch she ever seen. In other words, don't be you, be a self-center, passive-agressive, seflfish person.

[demolished]

how old are you?

You sounds so immature for a relationship.

anyways, i think you really need to get over her. she's turning you into darn slave. You gotta stop it. dont listen to her. she doesnt even like you. she's using you for her resources, not love.

[crazeegirl411]

In a way, I know that feeling. You can't just stop loving someone (no matter how bad of a person he/she is) and move on. Breaking up is so much harder than it seems. Do you feel like you'd rather be taken advantage of if it means you could be with her?

If that's the case, there are several choices.

Try to make her realize that you're the greatest guy for her...but girls are just like that. Either they fall for you and love you unconditionally (like you are for her) or they are heartless no matter how you feel towards them. Sometimes there is just no way around it.

So...I would just have to suggest the hard way. To stop your love from going any farther and end the relationship. It may be really really hard and you may not want to. It is hard, and you probably really don't want to. But you can't hurt yourself like this forever. Maybe this would be a chance for her to realize how great of a guy you are. Maybe this would be a chance for you to realize that there are other girls more worth it to go for. Maybe this is a chance for a break. Or maybe this is a chance to really end the hurt in yourself, and new relationships (or none) for both of you.

If there are so many good possibilities besides the situation you are in right now, then why not go for it?

[silver-rain]

Yeah, like what everyone has said, you do deserve better. Sure it's not what you want, but she doesn't deserve you. You should break up with her, because who knows, you might find someone who will love you back the same way you love her and treat you right.

[Spec_R]

how old are you?

You sounds so immature for a relationship.

I am 18 years old, do i really sound immature?

well usually people have told me that i'm a mature guy but after what she've done
to me I don't know what got into me, I think I'm not myself... I hate this. She's my first love that's why it's so hard to let her go. I always imagine that my love life could be perfect but she messed up everything. I know leaving her is the best options and I did that already. But she called me and asking me how I am doing.. I thought she changed so i came back but I guess she still act the same. sighzz....

[Chii]

Listen to the people who care about you (your friends, us here at cB), you need to get away from her.

As you said, she's using you, you can't possibly want that forever. What is there to love or like about her? She treats you differently when she's with her friends, she dumped you for some guy then when that didn't work out went back to you, she accuses you of not loving her when you do, and she keeps hurting you while not caring.

I know it will be hard to get over her but you have to. This is not good, this girl is only going to bring you down. Stop letting her walk all over you. She doesn't love you, she doesn't care about you and I doubt she ever will.

My psychotic ex treated me like that but I finally got rid of him after way too long. I'm a lot happier now and he's probably the same assh*le but I can care less. After I broke up with him, I really realized how stupid I was and what a jerk he is. You'll see the light too, and after you do it will be a lot easier to get over it.

M ex used to "change" but always reverted back to his assh*le self within days, sometimes hours or minutes. Just cut her out of your life. Leave her and don't look back.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

That's not unconditional love. Unconditional love is when you make sure you do the best and right thing for your girl. So far all you are is being a pushover to her (not meaning to be harsh..if that even was). I say break it off. If she can't love you back then maybe she doesn't deserve it.

[megan_x3]

If you are willing to do so much stuff for something that you love, why don't you find someone that will treat you the same way. My boyfriend and I, have something called .. 50/50. Where we would always split things. Most of the times, he would do it all .. but .. if she is going to treat you like that. I would break up with her if I were you. You deserve someone so much better than someone who treats you like dirt.

[d00kie]

i know what it is like to unconditionally love someone and truthfully i think that u should go out with someone else maybe she isnt the one if she treats u like shit then ignore her and try to forget about her i know its hard but thats the only thing u can do

[xforgottenlove]

mmmkays first of all... how can you love someone if they treat you that way? you seem liek a really good/caring person and you deserve much better. not saying that you should listen to exactly what i say, BUT i think you should break up with her. sooner or later she'll realize what she lost and if you two are meant to be together, it'll happen (: hope things work out for the best

[priyas]

Leave her. She clearly does NOT respect you. Treats you like dirt.

[xklipse]

ah, wow. I don't know what kind of advice I should give you, forget her-that might be impossible for you. I think you should at LEAST TRY to move on. You may never get over her, but you should start looking for someone else.
The love and comfort of another person can be the best way out. AND, since she seems to KNOW that you're crazy for her, start ignoring her, that'll drive her insane. Believe me, I speak from experience. It gets worst for her if you put all your attention on another girl.

[shaimack]

You need to talk to her one last time. Tell her how much you love her, ( which she already knows), and ask her whether she would love you the same way. Tell her that if she likes you, she should treat you with respect. Believe me, any girl would be lucky if they had some one who loved them as you do your girl friend. So if she's not responsive, leave it as it is. It would only cause you more pain continuing it. Its very difficult 2 forget some 1 but 2 live in pain is worse. She will understand your worth when she loses you. Just treat her like a friend and move on.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

You can't win somebodys love if you've lost it, or if you've never had it. It's up to that person to fall in love with you, theres nothing yo ucan do to convince her to fall in love.

It sounds like shes treatin' you like sh*t. Even though you say you love her, is she really somebody you'd like to stay with forever with the way she acts ? Think it over and talk to her about why she treats you the way she does.

[moorepocket]

are you talking to me Spiritual Winged Aura?

she's treating him like crapped, why not make her feel like crap herself? Otherwise, she will keep doing it.

[babiexmuii]

its great that you love her..but you should never ever think how can i get someone to love me.
its a feeling and action they need to take and decide for themselves. if you 'find a way' for her to love you more then its not real.
keep it going a while longer and then ask her again the same question.
if she still only loves you a little...then reconsider everything

[demolished]

well, the reasons i thought of that way is because anyone might knew better to break up.

now, i understand that ... she was your first gf. that makes more sense.

are you talking to me Spiritual Winged Aura?

she's treating him like crapped, why not make her feel like crap herself? Otherwise, she will keep doing it.

Nope.

[AngryBaby]

Welp! she must be pretty hot

[*corizzle20*]

how far is this relationship? did u guys make out? sex? its important. i need to know to give u advice. trust me im an expert at this.

[Spec_R]

now, i understand that ... she was your first gf. that makes more sense.

She's my first love. We started 5 years ago when she was 12 and I was 14. Yes, very long time and I can't let her go.. It's been on and off a lot within those years

Welp! she must be pretty hot

lolz, what give you that idea?

how far is this relationship? did u guys make out? sex? its important. i need to know to give u advice. trust me im an expert at this.

Let just say that I lost my virginity to her and so did she to me. I am a meaningful kind of person and I do things for meanings. When i do it with someone, I want to be with them for the rest of my life. But I've heard that she just want to have fun and not on my level of serious yet.

[Paradox of Life]

^ He thinks that she must be pretty hot because you're sacrificing so much just for her.

If she's not on your level of seriousness, what will become of your relationship?

[Stephan]

i was in this exact situation last year (all of last year) and u need to get over her, even though it may take a while. she will never change. ull find someone else and when u fall out of love with her u will realize that she is one of the most evil and annoying people uve ever met. lol

can read a little bit about it in my post called: PLEASE I need some help!! (lol i like a diffrent girl and its driving me up a wall so please any advice will help)