trust Options

[oceanblue091]

do any of you guys have any problems with not trusting your gf/bf? cause i do >.<. we broke up cause i didn't trust him...he has this best friend that's a girl and he's always all over her [[from what i hear from 99% of all my friends]] and from what i see in class and stuff i think he's flirting with this other girl...but she has a boyfriend...i get hurt by it so my trust gets taken away... he's the type to flirt with everyone..he calls it just being nice..he always says i flirt just as much as he does...i dunno -.- to much drama

i kinda wanna change cause i don't wanna be jealous/insecure in future relationships

does anyone kknow how to 'cure' this?

[*mipadi*]

I never had "trust" issues per se, but once upon a time, I was very paranoid that people didn't like me and weren't really my friends. I think most issues of trust/paranoia stem from one's own feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. Looking back, it's clear the reason I was paranoid is because I was afraid I wasn't good enough, or cool enough, or handsome enough. I think most people with trust issues feel, deep down, that their significant other can't possibly see anything good in them, and will leave them at the first chance possible.

The "cure", then, is to like yourself for who you are, and be happy with yourself.

[_sarcastic_]

i never really had a trust issue cept that i trusted people too easily espicially my ex bf. i trusted him that he'd never go around and flirt/be all over girls but in the end he pretty much kind of cheated on me.

just make sure your future bf knows his limits. don't worry you're not the only one that gets jealous and insecure easily, i do too.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Its hard and me and my boyfriend are doing fine better then ever.. But I trust him with somethings but other I just dont but in time I think we will get through that. :-)

[*swtcherriipie*]

To be honest with you in my opinion if you dont have a mutual trust at the begining then theres nothing there. About the girl i had a similar issusue but it wasnt trust i trust my BF i just let him know how i felt about this "girl" friend and he fixed the problem Dont worry theres always something better in store for Y O U !

[Chii]

I used to have trust issues and jealousy issues but I grew out of it.

I trust the guy because I'm not doing anything wrong with trusting him, I should have to if I'm in a relationship with him anyway. If he breaks my trust, that's his fault, not mine. He's supposed to be faithful. Plus, if he does break my trust, it will be that much easier for me to get over it because I don't want to be with anyone who isn't worthy of my trust.

[AzNxBaBi]

Wow seems like we are related. I went out with my first boyfriend, one I acturally consider a boyfriend. He was really sweet and close to me but I was really having doubts of my trust for him. Cause he was really close to other girls too. I was starting to wonder. .. if he was my boyfriend and still carry and laugh or touch other girls like that. It means he doesn't really give a damn about our relationship. But anyways, there isn't a cure in that except by trusting yourself and finding a guy who you feel absolutely comfortable with and knows that he will always be there for you.

Hoep that helps

[oceanblue091]

ahh my first bf i trusted him A LOTT..we were both faithful to eachother too...i wouldn't even call a guy cute or hot -.- as time went by i started trusting my bfs less and less i dunno why >.< i think it's my insecurity problem...noo idea how i'm gonna fix that haha..

guess things are better for me since i'm not with him o.O i never felt comfortable i guess?

i feel better now

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

That seems pretty normal in relationships. It's hard to trust your boyfriend when he's hanging out constantly with his other girl friends. Having said that, there comes a time when you just need to... trust him. If you guys are close, then there should be no problem. It's better to have fun with him rather than to worry about who he's talking to while you aren't around. If you really think there's a problem, confront him.