Bf/Gf labels in highschool? |
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 Apr 6 2006, 10:18 AM
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yes i did a search on this
 who here uses boyfriend/ girlfriend labels in highschool and why?? i'm just wondering. Personally i dont believe in the whole BF/GF label concept in highschool cuz comon...its highschool. If you do have a BF its not like the relationship is going to go anywhere. I mean i can see labels in college where ur BF could be a potential husband, but thats different. When guys ask me to be their GF, i just say i'll go on dates with them. I feel anyone who slaps on the GF/BF label is claiming this one person so everyone knows. Does anyone feel the same? Also, does anyone think that girls who have a million bfs are actually insecure? sometimes I think girls go out w/ guys in highschool just to brag to other girls, because getting a guy is like showing other girls that theyre the most beautiful, so they're better. i was kinda rambling there, but if any of you understand what I mean, dont be afraid to post your opinions. 
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Apr 6 2006, 04:40 PM
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 speechless Group: Member Posts: 869 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,564 |
Honestly, I think labels in High School is fine. And its not only okay to have labels in college just because they can be your potential husband/ wife. Have you ever heard of high school sweetheart? Anyways... personaly... I'm bi... in high school... and my boyfriend is twice as old as me... and I kinda see a future with him. But thats beside the point. Everyone is different in their own way. Some people can be mature enough to handle a relationship and the title of them being your boyfriend/ girlfriend just comes with the terroritory.
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Apr 6 2006, 07:13 PM
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 L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
thats stupid. my parents went out since freshman year and now their married and going on their 27th anniversary.
so hush |
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| *Blow_Don't_SUCK* |
Apr 6 2006, 07:20 PM
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QUOTE(L!ckitySplit @ Apr 6 2006, 8:13 PM)  thats stupid. my parents went out since freshman year and now their married and going on their 27th anniversary. so hush same cept my parents met way before high school Um that was like a generalization right there. Not all high school relationships are bullshit. And what do you mean labels? What are examples of a few labels? |
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Apr 6 2006, 07:50 PM
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 banangst ♥ Group: Member Posts: 727 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 237,399 |
QUOTE(Blow_Don't_SUCK @ Apr 6 2006, 5:20 PM) same cept my parents met way before high school Um that was like a generalization right there. Not all high school relationships are bullshit. And what do you mean labels? What are examples of a few labels? indeed generalization. QUOTE Personally i dont believe in the whole BF/GF label concept in highschool cuz comon...its highschool. If you do have a BF its not like the relationship is going to go anywhere How do you know that? A lot of people are getting married at the age of 18, 19, and just because high school students are adolescents doesnt mean their feelings aren't true. Yes, there may be people who have boyfriends/girlfriends for the heck of it, but that doesn't go for all of us. |
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Apr 6 2006, 09:25 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
I don't really agree with you; you are making generalizations. Not all high school relationships end up forever, but not all relationships end quickly and have no meaning. Maybe you aren't mature enough to truly and fully understand what a relationship is and what it means and entails. You don't know that all high school relationships end up going nowhere. My boyfriend and I started dating last year (his senior year, my junior year) and we're still together and going strong and I can really see him in my future.
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Apr 7 2006, 08:09 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 37 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 388,471 |
Look at this
I understand what all of you are saying, but that's just my opinion. I live in a somewhat poor community and go to a public school, and most of the relationships that went on after highschool ended in divorce or fights. Last year, a couple that was dating since highschool broke up, and the guy came to the girl's house and shot her sister and new boyfriend. I really do understand what you're saying, but after highschool, people take different paths. People change alot in college, and if a couple isn't going to the same college, they have different experiences, etc etc. Maybe in depends what kind of highschool you go to. I've never really gone to a school where the majority of the kids are from upper middle class/ upper class families, so I wouldnt really know. aaaand there have many studies on this, so its not entirely a generalization. |
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Apr 7 2006, 03:07 PM
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 Hello There. Group: Member Posts: 1,572 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,673 |
^^the relationship could still be meaninful even if it doesnt last forever.
QUOTE Maybe you aren't mature enough to truly and fully understand what a relationship is and what it means and entails ^^agreed. also, my parents went out in highschool. their still together.!! |
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| *Blow_Don't_SUCK* |
Apr 7 2006, 06:08 PM
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QUOTE(swimgirlarc @ Apr 7 2006, 9:09 AM) Look at this I understand what all of you are saying, but that's just my opinion. I live in a somewhat poor community and go to a public school, and most of the relationships that went on after highschool ended in divorce or fights. Last year, a couple that was dating since highschool broke up, and the guy came to the girl's house and shot her sister and new boyfriend. I really do understand what you're saying, but after highschool, people take different paths. People change alot in college, and if a couple isn't going to the same college, they have different experiences, etc etc. Maybe in depends what kind of highschool you go to. I've never really gone to a school where the majority of the kids are from upper middle class/ upper class families, so I wouldnt really know. aaaand there have many studies on this, so its not entirely a generalization. You know, just because relationships don't last doesn't mean you shouldn't take on it. If you like someone, they should be with that someone (if the relationship is mutual). Who are you to judge people's decision based on statistics? Even though a lot of people got divorced, there's still a majority who lasted until they died. I don't want to live my life alone and basing my love life on data that had a lot of people get divorced. |
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Apr 7 2006, 06:33 PM
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The emotional impact of a relationship (beit high school, college, ect) can be just as intense as a relationship one might be involved in later in life. I don't think it's fair to rule out the potential seriousness (or value) of a high school relationship based soley on the fact that two people are in high school at the time.
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Apr 7 2006, 07:12 PM
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banangst ♥ Group: Member Posts: 727 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 237,399 |
These "bf/gf" are the ones that give you memories, and most of all, experience. Experience for further on your life, it teaches you lessons that you can never learn through school. Even though you might not end up married, you'll always remember what you went though, the good and the bad, and carry them with you all your life.
many are offended because your post was a statement, but what you intentionally just wanted to give an opinion. Maybe it would be better if you made your post clear next time =] |
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| *mipadi* |
Apr 7 2006, 10:01 PM
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I agree with the original poster, to a certain extent (and it looks to be a dissenting opinion we share). Speaking from the point of view of a college student, you really learn a lot when you finally leave home. College is mainly about finding yourself, and people change a lot when going to college because they are finally learning (and finalizing) who they are. So yes, even though there is protest, face it: Most high school relationships do end after high school, no matter how "in love" you think you are at the time. Yes, some relationships do persist, but those are by far the exception, not the rule.
Having said that, I do think that relationships in high school are valuable. They really do help a person mature and figure out who they are. Relationships in general serve that purpose. If nothing else, they help teach kids how to deal with relationship issues. I didn't have any serious relationships in high school, and I often feel that this has disadvantaged me as an adult. So I do think that relationships in high school are valuable, even though—let's face it—most of them don't last long after high school. |
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| *xcaitlinx* |
Apr 7 2006, 10:07 PM
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umm, from my past relationships and my current one i can tell you that high school relationships aren't pointless. who says that there's no possibility that they'll go anywhere? i think that you're ignorant.
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Apr 7 2006, 10:25 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
who says high school relationships can't go anywhere? i would have to totally disagree with that. i mean i know there are a lot of young people nowadays that like to play with love and everything, but theres always a possibility. you just can't say that it CAN'T happen because it can. i mean it's not like i have a boyfriend or anything of that nature but still its not like i can't have one. is the reason that you say that high school relationships can't go anywhere is because you haven't experienced it yet? every experience makes you a little wiser and a little stronger. no matter what you go through. it's just how God makes thing out to be. everything happens for a reason.
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Apr 8 2006, 12:14 AM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
My TX History teacher got married when she was 17 with the person she'd been dating since the 8th grade. They've been together for 17 years, half her life. But she's getting a divorce, so ... yeh.
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Apr 8 2006, 08:55 AM
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QUOTE(L!ckitySplit @ Apr 7 2006, 8:13 AM) thats stupid. my parents went out since freshman year and now their married and going on their 27th anniversary. so hush Amen - except my parents are going on their 20th. In fact, my parents met when they were around eleven. ._. So there - haha. |
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