Why does sex seem to be.., more important to guys? o.O Options

[AngelinaTaylor]

I may be wrong.. but why is it that sex is so much more important to guys than to girls? Meaning, why do guys demand sex so much in a relationship? Is that the main thing they strive for? Or is it just because they get more horny than girls?

I'm not sure whether this has been posted.. but I don't think it has.

Taylor``

[NoSex]

1. I don't think your premise is exactly true in the first place. I think girls want sex just as much as guys, if not more. So, yeah. I would say you are wrong.
2. Basic societal construct seems to state: "Men want sex. Women want love."
3. Societal stigmas follow: "Men who don't have sex are p**sies or gay. Women who do have sex are sluts."

I have never demanded sex. In fact, I have had to turn down sex on several occasions from girls that "demanded" it. Some girls of which, I was not even in a relationship with. You can imagine, many people, for a very long time, seemed to have the conception that I was "gay" for such decisions. However, I do not know of any male friends that I associate myself with "demanding" sex from their girlfriends or any girls in general.

I would propose that the societal constructs and stigmas that follow are false. I may be tempted to suggest that men want sex just as much as women want sex and women want love just as much as men want love.

Note that right now, you are just making a generalization which serves to perpetuate said above contructs and stigmas.

[*Zatanna*]

^ Wonderfully stated.

While I'm sure some men absolutely employ the idea of sex good relationships bad, not at all men do. From the female perspective, I've seen the same from our gender as well.

Having said that - a stereotype is not always an actuality (in fact, they're commonly not).

I am not sure if you are having a personal experience with this, or if your question is merely hypothetical. (Not that that's bad. ;) )

Also - I do not think that men are "hornier" than woman. I do, however, think that physically they are unable to hide it as well as females (and perhaps control at a younger age, but that's a conversation probably better homed in debate).

[Jackieice]

Personally I find that women want to have sex just as much as men! It is simply a matter of self-control and moral background that determines who ends up having more sex. However on demanding sex I realize that this is just a stereotype and totally agree with what was written above!

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

. You can imagine, many people, for a very long time, seemed to have the conception that I was "gay" for such decisions.

I hope you're not talking about me.


And to answer this person's question/topic w/e. That's not really true. I'm more perverted than I should be at my age.

[*chaneun*]

1. I don't think your premise is exactly true in the first place. I think girls want sex just as much as guys, if not more. So, yeah. I would say you are wrong.
2. Basic societal construct seems to state: "Men want sex. Women want love."
3. Societal stigmas follow: "Men who don't have sex are p**sies or gay. Women who do have sex are sluts."

I have never demanded sex. In fact, I have had to turn down sex on several occasions from girls that "demanded" it. Some girls of which, I was not even in a relationship with. You can imagine, many people, for a very long time, seemed to have the conception that I was "gay" for such decisions. However, I do not know of any male friends that I associate myself with "demanding" sex from their girlfriends or any girls in general.

I would propose that the societal constructs and stigmas that follow are false. I may be tempted to suggest that men want sex just as much as women want sex and women want love just as much as men want love.

Note that right now, you are just making a generalization which serves to perpetuate said above contructs and stigmas.

What are you, a homo?



Well, um, guys aren't the only ones "striving" for sex, and not all of them are. Actually, a lot of girls at my school are willing to do "it" with anyone, and a friend of mine recently told me that she had sex with someone she didn't know at a party. So, as a conclusion, you're stereotyping guys.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

^It's kinda funny though. When a guy has sex with a slut, people blame the guy for going along with it.

[*My Cinderella.*]

Correct me if I'm wrong, for I am no guy. But in my point of view, men see it as, if you do the deed, you are the MAN.

[*xcaitlinx*]

i don't think it's that sex is more important to guys necessarily, it's that they're usually the ones that bring it up. i bet girls want to have sex jsut as much as guys do except they don't show it as much. i guess guys are more open about things like that while girls seem to keep it to themselves.

[crazi_in_love_08]

i think that guys are more open about that kinda of thing.when guys have sex with girls alot .. his friends say " good job" when girls have sex alot peope say ew.. slut.. thats why girls dont bring it up .. i say that yea guys think about having sex all the time .. but if they truly care for you they will be willing to wait ... thats how my boyfriend was .. he told me he wanted to have sex with me .. but he would wait till I was ready .. im 16 and hes 19 .. you would think that i 19 year old wouldnt want to wait ... you'll be surprised.

[AngelinaTaylor]

I don't know.. It's just that many girls have told me that they don't need sex to have a good relationship, while a lot of guys tell me that sex is one of the most important things.

And yes, it may be a stereotype - and that's precisely why I asked ;) All of your replies make sense.

Taylor``

[sillakilla220]

men have a higher sex drive than women. its fact. not that SOME women dont have a higher sex drive than SOME men, but overall thats why. Men have the natural urge to reproduce, its in the primitive section of the brain known as the reptile function. women have a natural urge to comfort and care. Society does put pressure on men also, but for the most part its just nature. and sex makes your penis feel really nice

[AngelinaTaylor]

and sex makes your penis feel really nice

Sex can also cause HIV and a whole lot more diseases. It can also get people pregnat when they want it least.. It's amazing how many people don't even consider these things before they have sex

Taylor``

[flc]

It's just because they do, in fact, get hornier than girls. Usually. I know in my case I'm usually the one who wants to mess around first. =P

But I think you'd be surprised..I think a lot of guys these days are also pushing for the relationship ALONG with the sex..heh.

Just because they want to have sex with you doesn't necessarily mean that they're treating you like an object. They might actually think you're beautiful and couldn't imagine giving themselves up to anyone else.

Just the way they go about it, sometimes, makes it come off like it's all they think about.

Anyway, that's just my opinion. I'm probably talking out of my ass again.

[TAiNTEDxMEMORiES]

more perverted than I should be at my age.

Haha me too. Guys say that I'm worse than them sometimes. It's really funny. But yea, girls can just hide it better, trust me I know alot of guys who turn down sex.