My best friend, OHH GOD..o_O Options

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

My best friend is in love with a guy. Not just any guy though a salvadorian guy. He's hott, sexyy, has a great personaility, sweet, charming, && absolutely ridiculously funny.. && can have his moments at times.. He loved my best friend && she loved him.. && she still does.. but she's not sure what she should do right now.. She doesn't know how he's feeling.. what he's doing.. or anything like that.. && let me tell you the best part of all..

INTERNET is where she met him.. no to be percise Xanga..lol.. Don't we all love our online journals..lol.. but yeahh she can't get over him.. && they've basically known each other for a year and a half.. which I never thought would be this long.. I mean come on now who thinks people or your best friend is going to fall in love over the internet.. crazy story right?..lol

But yeahh anyways going onto my problem.. I have no clue what to do sometimes to help her out.. at times I want her to move on && find someone else.. so she can go see what's out there.. she's a beautiful girl && she has like the best personaility in the world.. && anyone would be crazyy not to fall in love her.. if I didn't love men so much I would be lesbian.. that's how great she is..

But still she will not let herself get over this guy.. b/c she loves him so much its unbelieveable.. she'd basically die for this kid.. a kid she hasn't even met in person.. this is what they've done

-talked on the phone
-talked online
-saw each other on cam
-&& have send numerous pix to each other..

He recently had a girlfriend && my best friend tried to act like she didn't care && was happy for him, but really deep inside it got to her.. I could see it in her eyes.. she really cares for this kid.. && I guess the old saying is true.. "you may be far in distance && really far apart.. but the distance doesn't matter when the person you love is in your heart..".. so I guess that saying is true with her.. but they live 2 states apart from each other..

They also are still in high school.. which means they could both easilly choose to explore new fishes in the sea.. if you know what I mean.. I mean she thinks she really can't get over him.. && maybe she can't.. but I hate seeing her cry over him.. && he's not even worth it.. I mean I don't kno him like she does.. but she could do better.. I don't care how fine he is.. no one deserves to have their heart broken && for it to remain broken.. for this long of a time.. They still talk kind of.. not really.. sometimes.. well if you count saying hi && what's up.. && then not talkin anymore as conversation then yes.. but if you don't.. then I guess not.. but yeahh what do you think I should do to help out my friend.. she's the best person in the world.. && her talking to this guy.. && not gettin over him is not helping at all...

BTW.. don't tell me to tell her to get over him that won't work.. I tried it a million && one times.. && a million and 2 couldn't even help this girl..lol.. but yeahh also I've tried to find her a boyfriend.. that didn't work.. she didn't want one.. she really couldn't have the heart in her to get over him.. I tried to take her out.. to look for guys && try to get her hooked up.. not like a one night stand thing.. but to get her talkin.. well she tried that.. the guy was an ass.. which leads her to being stuck on this one guy over the INTERNET!!.. o_O.. Yes, it does get annoying.. b/c she talks about him non-stop sometimes.. but she's my best friend && I'm going to be there for her.. I mean I have a boyfriend && I talk about him non-stop.. so we have a 50/50 friendship.. lol..

Well anyways if anybody can help me out here.. that would be great!!.. Thank you so much!!

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Aw I'm going through the same thing right now. I felt pathetic for crushing over someone in the internet but oh well we can't help ourselves.

I think it was brave of your friend for taking the guy's relationship with another girl maturely. I give her props.

But I do find something wrong. She's eager to trust and have something with this guy. Just because they webcammed, talked on the phone, shared pictures, I don't see how she can trust him.

And you're a good friend for wanting to help her out at these times. Just be there for her, comfort her, make her laugh, smile. Tell her one of the sweetest things a best friend could say. Anything to make her feel simply happy.


Hm I am also thinking of one thing that I don't think is going to work. I think your friend should just realize that friendship is all she's going to have with this boy.

[hiromi]

My friend also has a problem with this. I agree telling them to "Get over it" doesn't help at all. This is one of those hard situations which take massive amounts of time and attention to fix, no? =\

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

This is definately tricky indeed. All I have to say is, don't try to force her to get over him if she's not ready to. She'll know when she wants to start moving on. I think all you can do now is be there for her when she needs you most, whether it's listening to her or making her smile. Take her outside and shop, you don't necessarily have to get her to look at some eye candy, but just let her have fun so she can get her mind off of him. They say that when you shop you decrease stress because you're shopping so furiously that it makes you forget about all your troubles. So maybe you guys should go shopping, or even window shopping if you're broke!

[*x____duckii*]

I've met my crush on myspace, but I've met him in person too, so nevermind. ><;

This is definately tricky indeed. All I have to say is, don't try to force her to get over him if she's not ready to. She'll know when she wants to start moving on. I think all you can do now is be there for her when she needs you most, whether it's listening to her or making her smile. Take her outside and shop, you don't necessarily have to get her to look at some eye candy, but just let her have fun so she can get her mind off of him. They say that when you shop you decrease stress because you're shopping so furiously that it makes you forget about all your troubles. So maybe you guys should go shopping, or even window shopping if you're broke!

I agree 110% w/ her. :]

[innocentwinky]

I am like your friend. Sometimes you can not help feeling this way toward someone. It's something the words say or the images do to make you feel like WOOZY.. and all that. I realize that it gives you some sense of false hope that you want to be with this person you never met. I know .. it's pathetic. I think if she had the opportunity to meet anyone better than this guy then she will defintely forget about him. In the mean time ,just give her time . Maybe she will realize that maybe it is foolish .. or let her dream on... never know what this takes her.. but please put in mind.. she is going for something that isnt real yet.. so yeah .. even i understand that . she probably does too.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

This is definately tricky indeed. All I have to say is, don't try to force her to get over him if she's not ready to. She'll know when she wants to start moving on. I think all you can do now is be there for her when she needs you most, whether it's listening to her or making her smile. Take her outside and shop, you don't necessarily have to get her to look at some eye candy, but just let her have fun so she can get her mind off of him. They say that when you shop you decrease stress because you're shopping so furiously that it makes you forget about all your troubles. So maybe you guys should go shopping, or even window shopping if you're broke!

you're the only besides the other WHS members that keep me happy despite my hopeless crush over him My wise Jane.

[Jackieice]

I think that what this girl could use is a nice party or maybe a nice day away from everything... such as a trip to the beach or to a spa....I know that might seem like a lot but if she is your best friend you can definitely find a way to make things happen! what I really think she needs is a break from reality! If she really can't get over this guy she needs to go on a roadtrip(with her bestfriend{you}) and go and see this guy in person and get out all the emotions that she has been trying to send over the internet/phone and hopefully a face to face confrontation can help her get over him! And while I do admit seeing him does sound a bit risky i believe that it is the best way to handle things....

[AngelinaTaylor]

Why does it matter where she met him? The point is she LOVES him, and you said he loves her back.. so of course she won't be able to get over him easily. At all. I know exactly how she feels.. My boyfriend lives far away from me as well, and we don't even know when we'll be able to really be together (as in.. at least live in the same city), if we ever even get there. And SO many people have told me to forget about him and to get over him, but I can't and don't want to.. It's a tricky thing being truly in love, you know.. At one point, you stop caring about anything anyone says.

But if she knows that there's no way they can be together, then she'll move on with time.. It can't happen for a week or a month. Don't try to find her guys either.. She won't listen and it'll only sadden her more. When she's ready, she'll let go.

Taylor``