Pathetic, pathetic Options

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

My friend is a year younger than me in 7th grade (he's 13), he's dating someone 6 months younger than him. Twp days ago on AIM, I said hi and I asked him what was going on, and he told me his girlfriend wanted to have sex with him. ...I wasn't shocked that SHE wanted to have sex with him because she wasn't so smart in the first place (if you know what I mean), but he doesn't want to do "it". Unfortunately, he's kind of a pushover so he told her he'd have sex with her 4 nights from now.

I do NOT know how to help him out of this situation. I believe he should tell his girlfriend himself, but he's asked all of our friends for advice and they all said to tell his girlfriend he wasn't ready.

then today, he told me he actually wanted to lose his virginity . I can't talk him out of it, despite the facts I told him about underage sex (consequences and all). He's stubborn as ever... give me ideas on how to convince him to at least wait till he's 18!

[radhikaeatsraman]

Well, it sounds like you've already tried talking him out of it, so there's really nothing you can do. Sure, what he's doing is stupid, but they'll eventually suffer the consequences. Learning the hard way is sometimes the best way. If I were you, I'd give up and just tell him to use protection.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Well, it sounds like you've already tried talking him out of it, so there's really nothing you can do. Sure, what he's doing is stupid, but they'll eventually suffer the consequences. Learning the hard way is sometimes the best way. If I were you, I'd give up and just tell him to use protection.

yeah I know I know, but he's my friend. I don't want that to happen.

[*digital.fragrance*]

That's WAY to young - wow... tell him that even soap operas, sit coms, and movies agree with you - I just watched a show called "Fifteen and Pregnant" on Lifetime last night, and having sex cost this girl almost everything.

Ask him what good could possibly come out of this - does he really want to? 13 year-olds are not mature enough to handle this, and the fact that TV shows agree with me (which is rare) must mean something.

If all else fails, tell him this: Sex brings a lot of maturity to a relationship - and at his age, it always tears the two apart because the maturity can't be handled. Actually, hardly anyone can truly handle magnitude of emotional consequences (good and bad) that fall out.

It will ruin his relationship. Especially now. (Plus, guys are supposed to be the driving force behind physical touching, not the girl .....)

[BrokenDream]

Oh wow. That's just pathetic. I would just say that, "if you do get your girlfriend pregnant, you could get into some serious trouble. You are way too young to be having sex."

Tell the friend's parents! If you know them...
Heck, I would tell any trusted adult, and maybe they'll talk them out if it.

The girl is seriously stupid. HAHA. She doesn't know what she's got herself into.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Rachael, I never brought that whole tearing them apart thing up. I'll make sure to tell him thanks.

Oh wow. That's just pathetic. I would just say that, "if you do get your girlfriend pregnant, you could get into some serious trouble. You are way too young to be having sex."

Tell the friend's parents! If you know them...
Heck, I would tell any trusted adult, and maybe they'll talk them out if it.

The girl is seriously stupid. HAHA. She doesn't know what she's got herself into.

I don't want to tell an adult on my friend...

[juliar]

Whoa. Ew.

Anyway, four nights from now you have to have your friend AWAY from her. Do whatever you can. But if worst comes to worst, give him a lifetime supply of condoms.

[iDecay]

Wow, that's like me saying I want to have sex.. Hm, tell him he could get her pregnant, which would lead to disaster, probably since they're too young to have sex, or even be parents. Try keeping hem away from each other.

[Shahin]

I wouldn;t tell a parent cuhz snitches are scum.

I'd continue pounding in the messages about the consequences. But if it comes down to it, make sure that he uses protection.

[silver-rain]

Hmm, that is really too young. And, they both don't seem mature or ready enough to handle it anyways. You should definitely tell him the consequences, about how he could get her pregnant, etc.
I agree, try to keep him away from her as much as possible.

[BOLIN_Vee]

wow 13 ... damn
im 13 too. and i know that 13 is too young.
in sex ed, the guy took two peices of foil cut into hearts and he tolled a story:
there were 2 popular kids in the school a boy and a girl.
people thought they should go out so they did.
the popular kids fell in love
then they decided to have sex.
(and then he mashed the hearts that were in perfect shape togeather and wadded them up in a ball)
but then they broke up after having sex
(then he undid the wadd of foil and took the two hearts and tried to straighten them out but they were still screwed up nomater how heart u try)
and the moral of the story is that when u break up after having sex, ur heart can never be the same.
or something like that.
the end

[sillakilla220]

oh wow i hope your ex doesnt turn this P**sy down! if he does wats wrong with him?

just make sure he wraps up! let him know this is a great opportunity to knock out some practice b4 high school b/c then he will be experienced and things will be even easier. damn sum kids get all the luck and dont kno wat to do with it

[_sarcastic_]

just keep reminding him about the consequences that he'd have to go through if something bad happens.
but if he doesn't listen, well it's his choice.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

oh wow i hope your ex doesnt turn this P**sy down! if he does wats wrong with him?

just make sure he wraps up! let him know this is a great opportunity to knock out some practice b4 high school b/c then he will be experienced and things will be even easier. damn sum kids get all the luck and dont kno wat to do with it

he's not my ex. Learn how to read...friend...friend.


Thanks everyone for advice. Bolin that was a nice story...wise teacher. I'm searching more consequences about pregnancy and a little more on STD's and how it can impact someone's life emotionally. And the whole repeating consequences thing is kind of working. I think he's becoming more unsure of doing this. Thanks all.

[anniepiee]

The only thing you can do is continue to get the message in his head. If he wont listen, it's his choice. He will have to handle the consequences. Keep trying, you're a good friend :)

[Rachel]

Personally, I don' t think his sex life is any of your buisness, let alone ours. If you tried to talk to him and it didn't work, oh well.

Let him do it and suffer the consequences, if there will even be any.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Personally, I don' t think his sex life is any of your buisness, let alone ours. If you tried to talk to him and it didn't work, oh well.

Let him do it and suffer the consequences, if there will even be any.

He's ONLY 13. He shouldn't even have a sex life. True it's not my business, but I care of what's going to happen to him. Someone already mentioned about letting him learn the hard way, and my answer was no because I don't want anything bad to happen to him. What if he gets some kind of STD or if the girl gets pregnant? Do you expect me to say, "Oh well, we all learn the hard way." I'd be irresponsible as a friend if I let anything like that happen. Beisdes, aren't we all taught to help our loved ones no matter what? I'm trying my best to.

[*digital.fragrance*]

He's ONLY 13. He shouldn't even have a sex life. True it's not my business, but I care of what's going to happen to him. Someone already mentioned about letting him learn the hard way, and my answer was no because I don't want anything bad to happen to him. What if he gets some kind of STD or if the girl gets pregnant? Do you expect me to say, "Oh well, we all learn the hard way." I'd be irresponsible as a friend if I let anything like that happen. Beisdes, aren't we all taught to help our loved ones no matter what? I'm trying my best to.

Yes, you should seek to be his friend most importantly, and in being his friend, you should care about him (kind of how friends don't let friends drink)... friends don't let friends do stuff that would cause them harm. I'll pray for him, and for the ditzy girl.

Unfortunately, some people do have to learn the hard way, but in this case it's aviodable. Keep talking to him - show him you care most of all about his physical and emotional state - as a friend being the chief phrase. If he can understand how much you are concerned about him, and his future (because sex affects that), and then back up your statements with solid facts, that should at least jar his mind into some good sense.

Once again, I'm praying for you, for him, and for that girl. I do hope you keep us updated on what goes on.

[*mipadi*]

You seem to have a good handle on why you're concerned; I think the best option is to sit him down and have an honest heart-to-heart talk with him. Let him know why you're concerned. You can't make the decision for him, but you can help him out a bit.

Personally, I don' t think his sex life is any of your buisness, let alone ours. If you tried to talk to him and it didn't work, oh well.

Let him do it and suffer the consequences, if there will even be any.

It's never a bad thing to show someone why they might be making a bad decision. The decision is still his; but a friend is a person who keeps us from doing stupid things. Sex at such an early age can cause a lot of problems, and there's nothing wrong with trying to show a person those problems.

[AngelinaTaylor]

If I were you, I'd tell his parents. That should do it.

Let him do it and suffer the consequences, if there will even be any.

Are you kidding me? No consequences of a 13 year old CHILD having sex? Please, I'll go throw up now. Since when do kids have sex? It's absolutely and truly DISGUSTING.

Cheers,
Taylor``

[Rachel]

If I were you, I'd tell his parents. That should do it.
Are you kidding me? No consequences of a 13 year old CHILD having sex? Please, I'll go throw up now. Since when do kids have sex? It's absolutely and truly DISGUSTING.

Cheers,
Taylor``

Where the hell have you been? Living under a rock much? Society is changing and although it is awful that young children are having sex, they do. I don't say I am for it, but you bitching on an online forum is going to help.

[EddieV]

13 is really young. I lost mine when I was 17...

[Shahin]

Where the hell have you been? Living under a rock much? Society is changing and although it is awful that young children are having sex, they do. I don't say I am for it, but you bitching on an online forum is going to help.

Props.

[xmkaex]

wow 13 ... damn
im 13 too. and i know that 13 is too young.
in sex ed, the guy took two peices of foil cut into hearts and he tolled a story:
there were 2 popular kids in the school a boy and a girl.
people thought they should go out so they did.
the popular kids fell in love
then they decided to have sex.
(and then he mashed the hearts that were in perfect shape togeather and wadded them up in a ball)
but then they broke up after having sex
(then he undid the wadd of foil and took the two hearts and tried to straighten them out but they were still screwed up nomater how heart u try)
and the moral of the story is that when u break up after having sex, ur heart can never be the same.
or something like that.
the end

^great story of the two hearts.

tell him he could be a father at 13.

[*digital.fragrance*]

By the way you guys - she told me that her friend decided not to have sex. Just to let you know.

[aicilah999]

well tell him the consequences, and if he still won't listen, then i guess u cant really do anything except tell him he`ll regret doing it someday.

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nvm.....

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Perhaps he doesn't get the fact in his head that once he loses it, he won't ever be able to gain it back again. So I guess you can ask him how much does this girl really mean to her and if hes ready to take care of a child that is not too much far apart from his age.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

By the way you guys - she told me that her friend decided not to have sex. Just to let you know.