How far would you go?, ..oral sex & then sex?.. Options

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

[font=Century Gothic]Honestly I don't want the opinion of people who haven't had much experience in sexual relations.. I don't mean this to be mean or anything it's jusst that people who've gone through what I've gone through can probably relate more && I think they'll give me a better understanding.. Anyways going on..

I have this problem.. Me & my boyfriend of 5 monthes have been getting deeper && deeper into our relationship.. not jusst personally, but physically.. I feel like my body is saying yes, but my mind is saying no, because I've been the prude girl ever since 8th grade.. && wouldn't you know I'm in 9th grade right now...&& I have no clue what to do.. I haven't given him head or anything, but he's eatin me out before.. it doesn't feel good.. but alot of my friends says it's suppose to.. so he must be doin it wrong or something.. the only thing I've done with him is make out with him && give him a hand job.. When you're in the heat of the moment it doesn't sound as bad as it does..

But yeahh anyways.. we're getting closer && closer to that point where I might not be a virgin for long anymore.. I mean soon he's going to be a senior && I'm going to be a sophmore next school year && then he'll be going off to college.. && he already knows that he wants to marry me && have a family with me.. but sometimes I think he's not the one.. but then at the same time.. He could have gone to Cali, but he decided not to because he's in love with me.. idk.. but yeahh at times he seems like he's the most perfect guy in the whole world.. but then at other times I feel like I don't even know him.. && then the age difference gets to us && he calls me immature like when we get into fights.. Also btw my friends hate him, but I really think it's one of those things where they have to get to know him before they can really judge him..

But the only reason why they don't like him is b/c what I've told them.. && the only time I talk to my friends alott about him is when me & him are going through tough times && I need them there for support.. but don't get me wrong I try to explain to them the good stuff to... && that he can be a complete sweet heart.. This year with me && him has been a bumpy one.. but this is also the longest relationship I've ever been into && it's the same for him...

I feel like if I give this up I could be doin something wrong like being scared of commitment like I did in the past.. Then at the same time I feel like maybe I'm jusst holding on to him, b/c I want to prove to myself that I don't have commitment problems.. Then it's like holding onto him for the wrong reasons..

What I'm really asking is.. if I should get over the whole commitment stage && stay with him.. or jusst maybe try seeing what else is out there.. but we've broken up three times this year && got back together.. && I think if I break us up a 4th time they'll be no gettin him back.. && he's the only guy I've actually trusted with my body && some of my really personal thoughts... Also I really want to know if it's safe for me to take it to the next level.. like I'm a freshman && I'm about to be a sophmore.. && basically.. all my friends in high school are not virgins anymore.. but then I don't want an unplanned pregnancy to happen.. && thats the only reason holding me back from doing it with him.. && I could never get an abortion if anything..

Also my best friend has been by my side through all of it.. She's kind of disappointed in me II can see it in her eyes.. b/c we used to both be the cute girls together.. && the prudest girls alive that all the guys wanted to try to get into their pants but we wouldn't let it happen.. && now I've basically broken that.. I don't want to lose my purity.. but then it's like I've already lost it... I'm confused.. I jusst need some feed back..a comment or something would be nice.. Thanks.. && if you need anymore details like when we weren't together for about a week he kissed the girl that I absolutely hated.. keep that in your thoughts too.. && guess what?.. He still talks to her.. soo yeahh.. We jusst had a fight about last week about that.. b/c he kept it a secret from me.. soo..

Thanks for taking time to read a bit of my sad life..

[dani41790]

lol wow. mmm thats a tough situation... well you know, i think that you should see what else is out there. when you said that you two have broken up a few times already, that was a sign to me that you shouldn't go further... i mean, what if you guys break up again? and this time permanently? plus you're young, you should explore whats out there.

[Chii]

you didn't see each other for a week over him kissing some girl he's still talking to when it upsets you, he doesn't seem trustworthy.

in all relationships, especially ones at your age you both think about marriage and kids and blah. that's the kind of stuff i talked about with my ex when i was a freshman. now that i think about it, my ex was the same age as your boyfriend is now when we dated. our relationship only lasted 8 months but we didn't have any real problems. we you know, did stuff too. a lot more than you two have so don't feel too bad. no one knew about it but us anyway because i looked pure and innocent.

i spoke to an older female friend, she told me that most guys are bad at going down on girls, they always miss "that spot" and quite frankly, i kind of agree with her. plus, she's been down the block way more than i have so she should know much better than me.

you're a freshman and you've only been dating for 5 months, that's a bit soon to lose your virginity. though yada yada, people say that there is no real length of time you should wait and you should decide by how you feel blah blah. i disagree in certain circumstances. when you're "in the mood" it's hard to say no but since your mind is telling you no, that's a big sign that you should keep your legs closed. plus, this guy doesn't seem to be worth it.

your best friend shouldn't be disappointed in you. you're making your own decisions. just because you're not "prude" anymore doesn't mean that you're a different person. you just matured a little faster. no harm done.

[me1issaaaa]

Okay, I hate to point this out, but you're only in the 9th grade. I know, you think you're in love or you'll fall in love. I've been there too, but you're pretty young to be doing things like this. And if it doesn't feel good, it's a sign saying that YOU'RE NOT READY NOW. 5 months may seem like a long time, but it's not... just don't do anything you'll regret. It's SO easy to screw things up when you never meant to in the first place.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well, I'd have to agree with all the others. Perhaps you're just not ready for all of this sexual stuff. Maybe you should put all the physical stuff a side for a bit and just really sit down and talk it out with your boyfriend. Trust me, it helps if you're willing to work things out.

[DUkk]

I would say stick together, try new things. Don't be afraid. If you got rid of him and tried to look out for other things, I'm sure he would not be happy. He's giving up so much for you, and I'm sure he's having a tough time communicating to you with your friends swarming around you with negativity. It's crucial that you think of it through his shoes. Our help wouldn't be of much use to you.
At the moment, I'm pretty sure that he is worrying whether you're going to keep him or not. If he wants to marry you at this point, I'm pretty sure he's a solid guy. I'm like that too :)
Don't listen to your friends because they don't know anything about what you're experiencing. Yet again do not take our advice. Let it all carry on and soon you'll figure out what a fool you've been for even thinking about it.

-- Onto the sex part --
<>Oral sex, do you not enjoy it? Or is it just him?<>
-- Well, that is a very tough question. He MAY be doing it wrong, or you could just be the type of girl who just doesn't like getting eaten out. If you don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it. Try new things. If you don't want to move onto the intercourse part just yet, then don't. There are plenty of fun things to do before you actually get into the sex. Try dry-humping. It's plenty of fun, and most people do it. :P
<>Handjobs.<>
-- Handjobs are a lot of fun to the guy. Just make sure you don't dehydrate the penis, cause then it'll start hurting. I'm sure it's fun to see him in pleasure. And I'd say that he likes it when you're in pleasure.
<>Virginity<>
-- Sometimes, it's not a bad thing to lose your virginity. After you lose it, there are a lot less things to worry about. To this point of your relationship, you should know quite well what kind of person he is. Whether he is the clumsy, accidental type. Or the really delicate and careful type. Unexpected pregancy is a very easy thing to prevent. Use protection when having sex for the week right in the middle of your menstrual cycle. Whatever happens, do not let him do the creamcream inside you. Make sure of it. I'm very sure he does not want your parents ripping his testicles out because he loves you. :)
<>Overall<>
-- Overall, just give it some time. Explain to him what you enjoy and what you find not so enjoyable. Once you find yourself in a looser position, every piece will come into place. The relationship will stable. And your friends would love him.

Please don't be mad at anything I said, as I am looking at it only from a stranger's prospective.

[anniepiee]

if you're hesitating, then dont do it. dont give him up though, you've mentioned several times that he's the only one you trust with your body and etcetc. proves that you do have feelings towards him.
you cant completely rely on your friend or us to make this decision for you.

Tell him how you feel, if the only thing that's keeping you from having intercourse with him is pregnancy, use protection, go on pills or something.

Think carefully though, your virginity is the only thing you actually posess.

Best wishes =)

[DUkk]

if you're hesitating, then dont do it. dont give him up though, you've mentioned several times that he's the only one you trust with your body and etcetc. proves that you do have feelings towards him.
you cant completely rely on your friend or us to make this decision for you.

Tell him how you feel, if the only thing that's keeping you from having intercourse with him is pregnancy, use protection, go on pills or something.

Think carefully though, your virginity is the only thing you actually posess.

Best wishes =)

So true, so true.

[voguelove]

well..youre only 14/15. do you really wanna loose your virginity to a junior who may leave you for "college partying girlfriends?"

[da_SALSA]

If you're confused then you aren't ready to give him all of you. This may be hard to accept but, you need to think if maybe he's just saying all those sweet things to you to get into your pants. You'll be stuck in highschool while he's out living the college life with girls his age. You're going to get jealous and get sick of it. Please think about it. I'm pretty much in the same situation as you, but he's the same age as I am and we've gone out longer than you. I'm still gonna wait though.