Am I crazy?, =/ Options

[flc]

Okay, so my current boyfriend has broken up with me four {Count it, FOUR} times in the past because he wasn't sure about how he felt anymore, blah blah, the same old saying. We've been on and off since 8th grade, and I'm a junior now. o_0

He has always found some other chick that he likes and then drops me like a hot potatoe, and basically ignores me for the duration of his new relationship. But I keep taking him back. And everytime when he wants me back he says that he'll never treat me like that again, he's sorry, he was stupid and didn't realize how important I am to him, etc.

I guess I keep taking him back because I have a bit of false hope that maybe this time it will work..and maybe I'm right. He's been so sweet to me, and he's really been paying attention to me this time. It hurts him everytime I talk about how nervous/scared I am, and he understands that I have reason to be. But he keeps telling me to relax and instill some faith in him.

I told him, after about six months, that I'm finally not afraid anymore..

But I still am.

I love him..so much. I'm a bit of a romantic and I keep thinking about how sweet it would be to tell my future friends in college, "Oh, we've been together since the eighth grade." Plus I'm forgiving. Being with him is sometimes like a drug. When he pays attention to me, nothing else matters {As clichéd as that sounds.}.

What do you think? Am I too forgiving? Should I keep trying to make it work?

[Levy2k6]

Funny cuz i know couples like that my junior year..

in my senior year, for some weird reason. they broke up (i knew 2 couples like that), and they aren't back together....

i say you do what you think inside...

[BOLIN_Vee]

i think you should give him another chance. just 1 more. maybe he was just going through a phase and wont do it again but for sure if he does it again dont get back with him.

[Chii]

i know how you feel about that great story to tell your kids and friends. but what sounds better? a real story that came with a really great guy or a great story that comes along with a not so great ass?

he's using you as his safety and that's a horrible assh*le thing to do. this is what those kind of people do. they find someone who will be with them no matter what (you). then when they know that the person will be with them ride or die, they take full advantage of it. when they see someone they want to get with, they drop you and get with them. when that falls apart, they go back to their safety. it's a vicious cycle.

don't let him do this to you. he's done this to you too many times. it's like, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. how many times do you want to be fooled? you really need to break the cycle and drop him. sure, right now you feel like he's all you want and all you need and fairytale story, but after awhile when you get over it. you'll realize that life is much better with out him.

just get it through your head, he's a liar. relationships are built on honesty and trust. how can you trust someone who has lied to you over and over again? if you were really important to him, he'd be devoted to you and not dump you whenever some new chick catches his eye.

[_sarcastic_]

don't let him do this to you. he's done this to you too many times. it's like, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. how many times do you want to be fooled? you really need to break the cycle and drop him. sure, right now you feel like he's all you want and all you need and fairytale story, but after awhile when you get over it. you'll realize that life is much better with out him.

I agree with Chii
forget about him, you're putting yourself through the pain one too many times already. there are much much better guys out there for you. he's not worth it, if you keep taking him back, he'll think that whenever he has a relationship with another girl and if it goes wrong, he'll have you as a back up and i don't think you'd want that. think about it, what happened before that caused your relationship with him to fail, as much as you would like to think that the next time will be better, the same thing will happen again.
stop trying to make it work, cause it might never work

[pinayprincess]

there are more fishes in the sea!! drop his ass and find somebody new & good enoguh for you! instead of him telling you these guilt lines

[Mikael]

theres 6 billion people on this planet. hes not your soul mate. how lucky is it that you both are in the usa. just hypathetically thinking. i killed that word. spell it for me. anyway, um, find another guy to fall in love and obsess in. works like a charm. or face total damnation of putting put with your current situation.

[i_liek_sushi]

you're f**king psycho

[voguelove]

well, you have to understand that if you keep taking him back, hes going to keep breaking your heart.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Why do you let him do this to you? Keep taking him back the way you do and he takes you for granted. I bet he feels that since you're ALWAYS taking him back that he doesn't have to worry about you rejecting him when he needs someone to be with. Dump him. You're better than that and you know it.

[alphanumeric]

Most people do that to test their partner's love. But if it's done many times, like in this occasion, dump him. Don't listen to his excuses, don't let him tear you down, leave him cold & move on.

[SimplicityGirl]

I think you've given him way too many chances. I'd give him TWO chances and leave it. I get the impression that he's your first real boyfriend, and yes, I know first real boyfriends are REALLY hard to get over and forget (took me about half a year to get over my first real bf and we were only together for about a month or two), but you should stop giving him chances. He's using you as his rebound after relationship, and his safety net. He knows that if he falls out with another girl, you'll always take him back. He knows that no matter what, someone will always want him. But you shouldn't let it drag on. You can't keep on being his rebound and safety net. You need to get a life of your own where it doesn't involve him. Tell him that you can't be with him anymore.

[novemberwind]

In his eyes, you=backup.

Stop it.

[*incoherent*]

sounds like my brother and his ex. they got back together over 15 times since she was in 8th grade til this year. shes a junior now and he graduated last year. their relationship was weird, but they both finally moved on.

just give it time, if he does it again, dont go back. move on. thats all you can do especially since itd be the 5th time and thats freakin crazy.

In his eyes, you=backup.

Stop it.

you have a point.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

You remind me a lot of myself. Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for about 6 months (I know it's not much compared to yours) and we've gotten back together about 3 times. Even he tells me I'm too forgiving, and that if it was him in my position he wouldn't have taken him back. I agree with novemberwind. He probably sees you as a backup, when he can't get the main thing he wants, he'll use you because he KNOWS he can.

[FATALxKiSSES]

I know people like that. Like me and my -ex. We were on and off for three years too. I think that you need to let him go though. I let go of mine and I feel so much better about everything. He's probably afriad of being single and like they said, he knows he can always have you back. turn the tables around and say no to him. Trust me, you'll feel mucho better. =)

[flc]

It's SO hard. Easier said than done.

I know that if I break up with him, I'll keep regretting it and thinking, What if this was for real? What if he was finally serious?

My uncle used to be like my boyfriend. He even got a girl pregnant. But then he finally settled down and got married at 40. But maybe my guy will mature long before that..I just don't know.

[NgocQuyen]

sorry, but i don't think you should have forgave him the first three or four times...he dumpt you once and you got back with him- you're forgiving. the dumps you again and you forgive him AGAIN...--sorry but that's just plain stupid. and you didn't do it TWICE...you did it MORE than twice! come on....you can't even TRUST him...theres no relationship without trust. YOU might as well be the one to end it this time. it's no use...the only reason you think you're going to regret it is because well, YOU'RE THINKING...stop thinking! the future holds so much more than you can imagine...stop thinking about "the one" and what not...just live life..and one day you never know, you might meet someone MORE amazing and one that will actually treat you right.

[islandkiss]

oh hun; let him go. no guy like that deserves a girl's time. I think you should think things over, it could be infatuation. our horomones are so crazy and they're acting up now so we're unsure of what we really want. I don't think it's right for you to keep on forgiving him. He knows that you're accepting/forgiving and he'll take advantage of that. you need some space to think things over; "do you really love him?" "is he worth your time?" You might just be in self denial; well, give yourself time and try someone else for awhile. see how you feel. take care<3

[aicilah999]

if you really love him, give him ONLY 1 MORE CHANCE.

but i really think you should let him go if he goes off to another girl again.

[flc]

I know. I will.

[wickedvampire3]

dont you think 4 times is too much.....? you must love him but i think you should look for a new person to love.......what will happen in the future? you two must be divorced and remarried like a thousand times...