he'll be gone., forever Options

[islandkiss]

I've been dreading this saturday; Since it's going to be the day where we're going to take my grandfather off life support. I guess I should start off by telling you why we came to this challenging and confounding decision. Well, after living with alzheimer's and athsma, our family recently discovered an ambigious bump on the side of his neck which looked swollen but we never would have guessed that it would have turned out to be cancer. It seemed as if each day passed, he grew weaker, and his tumor was growing rapidly and more fatal.

He's unable to open his, once gentle and promising eyes. i'm sure i'll miss them

Because of this illness, he is now unable to eat by himself and he's unable to breathe by himself so he cannot live without the assistance of life support (refers to a set of therapies needed to "preserve" one's body/life".) The reason why we chose to take him off of life support is not because we're "cruel" or "cold"; it's because we know he's suffering but we still don't feel right about it. His cancer is irreversible and it's ebbing away at his life every second; I accompanied my mother yesterday to go see him, we didn't stay for long because I couldn't look at him; he just looked so helpless. I stood there crying, Ashamed. Guilty. Angry. well, I just felt like sharing this with you guys. I just don't know what to do anymore. My grandfather and my grandmother had been helping my parents raise my sister and I and when he dies, i'll just lose apart of myself. i've never lost anyone before; I guess I need your support. <3

[lit0chinagirl]

i'm so sorry that you and your family have to deal with so much pain.
my condolences go out to your family. be strong and try your best to give your support to your entire family. nothing beats the love of family and friends. just try to remember all of the good times that you had with your grandfather, okay? he'll always be there to watch over you.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

I'm terribly sorry. I'm sure your grandfather will find a better life in heaven...

[*lil_chubby_cheeks2*]

wow...
i'm sorry

its not your fault, i hope you feel better and i hope your grandfather gets better.

[MeowGurl]

Wow... I'm really sorry! That has to be the worst thing imaginable. We're here for you if you ever need us for comfort or anything!

[priyas]

sorry..wow thats some tough stuff.
well...hope you feel betta.

[supahstah_luv]

you know, he'll never really be gone.
my grandfather passed away about two years ago
(cancer, too)
as much as i miss him, i know i'm going to see him soon
and the memories can still make me smile
you hang in there.
<3

[NgocQuyen]

eeks i'm so sorry to hear about that...but if don't want him to suffer then this decision was best right? it's okay, i'm sure he'll be fine in heaven, he'll always be watching over you. he's not really leaving, he's waiting for you in a better place, and i'm sure he'll want yu to be happy instead of grieving over him. i hope you feel better ^^

[*mipadi*]

Death is as natural a part of life as birth. It's natural to miss your grandfather, but rejoice that he has passed on to a better place; and remember that as long as you always keep memories of him close, he'll never be gone.

[Mikael]

May He be with him and keep him in peace.

[islandkiss]

thank you for your support, guys. I hope things will work out for the better

[BrokenDream]

I'm really sorry about this.

Hope you feel better soon.

[nightowl89]

My grandpa passed away...(wow its been more than) a year ago from liver failure. It was horrible: basically me and my mom only got to see him when he was skin and bones because all my relatives live in Japan and only my immediate family is here in the US. So we had no idea how bad he actually was untill we got there. My poor mom, it was hell for her.

but don't be ashamed of crying, its unhealthy not to. I cried like crazy too. I really looked up to him and I still miss him and think about him everyday. Its hard but you have to be strong and live your life the way he would want you to live it: happily and healthly. Talk with your parents I'm sure their going to need your support as much as you do theirs.

[islandkiss]

we watched him pass today. i'd like to think that he's in a better place. It was hard watching them take him off life support; I held his hand as he passed through. thanks again for your support<3

[aznxdreamer]

wow...that must be tough for you guys. il pray for you.

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

I am so sorry.. you had to experience the pain of taking someone whom you love off life support.. thinking to yourself your jusst taking their only thing thats keeping them living away from them.. but it's better for your g-pa to be not burden of the pain he's been having on you && your family && to himself.. && he's prolly really proud of how strong his family is && is prolly looking down on you from the heavens.. praying for you && blessing you.. && always looking upon you.. making sure everything in your life is going okayy.. I know how you're feeling.. my g-pa the other say had a heart attack.. && he's not suppose to make it through the night.. It's horrible how we can jusst predict someones faith of life expectancy.. I hate it..I don't think life should be determined through numbers && test.. && experiments done on the body.. Only God can tell someone whether one is going to die or to live.. He blesses his children with miracles everyday!!.. && he can make the impossible happen.. I don't know if you believe in God or not.. but good luck && I hope your family can get past the mourning of your families lost.. && move on from this tragedy && hopefully it'll make you all stronger as a family.. I know every funeral makes me thankful for each family member there attending that funeral that they are also not in a cufin.. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE.. && your in my prayers!!..