GF's mother problem, short and simple Options

[RoseTRAX]

So here we go:

So today my gf tells me that her mom has found out we go out.
It's all because of her little cousin who won't keep her damn mouth shut.
I mean it's her cousin she should help and support my gf but instead that little b****
just snitches on her.(sorry for the language but im pretty pissed off right now and sad)
My gf's mother is making us two break up.
It seems that her mom doesn't want her daughter to have a bf.
Also her mother told her that if she doesn't break up with me she would send her back to the philippines (yes my gf is filipino.)
As for me i don't know what the hell to do since i've never been in this type of situation.
I really don't want her to leave me.I'm mostly her first everything.Not her first bf and all but first serious bf and im her first kiss.So there is much more i'd like to do in our relationship.
I'm guessing i should talk to her mom and ask her what other reasons for us to break up.
I want to try and convince her to not make my gf break up with me.
Another thought is to fake that we broke up and not tell anyone about it.
So we would still be together with her mom believing we're over.
So anyone? Suggestions...
Help me out please!

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

What mom doesn't know wont hurt her.

I know what you're going through, because its happened to me as well.
But i suggest you get her to talk to her mom about you two. Try and see if you can get introduced.

How old are you ? If your young I understand why her mother would'nt want her daughter dating, but if you and your girlfriend are around 17 or 18, then you really should try to talk to befriend her mom.

[RoseTRAX]

yea well i'm 13 and my gf is 15.
she's old enough to have one.
as for me it's different.
my parents already are okay with my gf and all.
don't have any problems.
but yea i guess age difference would do something.
but the hell with it.
i still can try and convince her mother.
okay need more suggestions!

[anoniez]

yeah i've been in this situation before.. we broke up though cause both of our parents weren't okay with it, i guess in your case it's different
i guess you should find out the reasons her mom doesn't want her to have a bf, and then prove yourself to her.. she's probably just mad that her daughter kept this secret from her, though. she might listen to reason if all of you sat down and had a talk about it and you made it very clear that both of yall are mature enough to do this.. er i don't know though.
if that doesnt work, i would just fake the break up and be very very careful about the relationship in public..

[pinayprincess]

wowowowowowow; i totally understand how its going on, my dad would freak if he found out i hate a boyfriend... yep; hes filipino too... my older sister thinks that hes not gonna talk to me AT ALL if he finds out... so i plan to keep it on the LOW... anyways, you should probably respect her mom's "wishes" although its totally wrong to break you two apart.... you can be friends with benefits [?]

[_sarcastic_]

good for you, you should try and convince her mom to let her have one
maybe it's the age issues, prove to her mom that you can act more mature than your age, she'll probably give you a chance

[*disco infiltrator*]

Definitely talk to her mom. Don't lie about it again. That's probably what her mom's most mad about in the first place.

[*Zatanna*]

I think you're going to have to talk to her mom. Sure, you can have a hidden relationship - but what if her mom found out? Can you imagine how horrible it would be if her mom made true to her threat of sending your girlfriend back to the Philippines?

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

yea well i'm 13 and my gf is 15.

Well break up then secretly get back together and be more cautious this time.


But I suggest you do what Zatanna said.

[RoseTRAX]

any suggestions on how i could say that my gf is old enough and that she should have a bf?
i've worked out mostly on talking to her mom and convincing her im mature for my age and all that.(although i haven't really talked to her mom yet)
so help again please! =)

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Well about your gf being old enough, it's her job to tell her mother that. She needs to hear from her daughter if she's going decide that kinda thing. Have them have a serious talk and prepare your gf REALLY GOOD REASONS. Afterall, we can't stay children forever. Sometimes we have to seek what we want.

[*ranniel*]

Hello! I'm filipino and good at advice. Holy crap, you're 13 and she's 15.

That's like common, Lmao. You lied? Ok, first of all that's what filipinos hate liars. First of all talk to your girlfriend. You should both talk to her Mom, damn.. sending her back to the Philippines, ay nako! Second of all, admit it to the mother. Appologize, and tell her how you feel. yes- you are pass teen, but of course.. this doesn't not give you the right to date someone whose mother doesn't approove of you. Third of all, ask for a chance. Prove her mother wrong about you, that's basically a good start if you haven't done any of this yet.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

yea well i'm 13 and my gf is 15.
she's old enough to have one.
as for me it's different.
my parents already are okay with my gf and all.
don't have any problems.
but yea i guess age difference would do something.
but the hell with it.
i still can try and convince her mother.
okay need more suggestions!

^

Anyway; I can see why her mom might not trust you and her together. She's older than you and you're younger than her...maybe she still thinks her daughter isn't ready to date yet. Well...what her mother doesn't know won't kill her - like Bella said. How often do you guys see each other, and will you guys be able to keep the relationship a secret without making it obvious. Trust me a talk with her mom isn't going to go too well.

[RoseTRAX]

^
She's goes to my school so i see her everyday.
Although it seems she is growing distant from me.
She is very cautious now that her mom found out.
She is grounded also.
So everytime after school i try to talk to her except she just wants to shove me away.
Like "I can't talk to you.Don't talk to me! Go home!"
i felt very bad when she said that.
The next day she says sorry and all that.
I told her to talk to her mom by herself so maybe her mother would listen to her.
From that nothing else has been happening yet...

[*incoherent*]

anyway, just talk to her mom. it kinda seems as if she doesnt want to be with you though because she always pushes you away. its not like her mom has hidden cameras in the school and can see everything so the fact that she is paranoid is stupid.

[Jackieice]

I have been in this same situation!! I was dating this black guy and I am white and I live in Alabama so anyways on with the story.... He was afraid to go anywhere with me or take me to meet his parents or to meet my family b/c his parents had threatened to move away when they found out he was dating a white chick and he didn't want to leave me or my family so he lied to them and just flat out told me no he wasn't gonna see my parents!!

To make a long story short we broke up after 7 months of dating b/c I got tired of feeling like he was ashamed of me and sneaking me around!! So I believe that you should just both go and confront her parents!! (I was a Senior/Junior in highschool when this happened(May-Dec)!! And if it takes you should even get your parents involved!!

[priyas]

yeah..iono what to do.

[demolished]

yeah..iono what to do.

Then keep your dam pointer away from clicking the reply button. Stop SPAMMING and leave.

[xforgottenlove]

aww... this is such a sad situation i think it would be good for you to go talk to her mom and give her all the reasons why you're a good guy and all. i mean my parents won't let me have a bf either but i have one now. but i'm deciding that if they ever find out, i know my bf will go talk to them. cuhz mainly parents won't let their daughters have bfs cuhz they don't trust the guy. so i'm just suggesting that you go show your gf's mom that you can protect and all that stuff. hope things work out for the both of you

[d00kie]

talk to her mom and show her that u are a good guy and maybe break up with her or atleast tell her mom that and show her what a great guy u can be and maybe just maybe shell let u guys go out

[*ranniel*]

How long has this been?! Have you taken at least a minor action. do something.

[RoseTRAX]

well it's been going on for almost 2 weeks.
a week and a half really.
but yea my gf's mom isn't mad anymore.
although she is just mad about being lied to.
my gf is just trying to find the right time to talk to her mom.
so all is good for now i guess.

[*ranniel*]

well it's been going on for almost 2 weeks.
a week and a half really.
but yea my gf's mom isn't mad anymore.
although she is just mad about being lied to.
my gf is just trying to find the right time to talk to her mom.
so all is good for now i guess.

thats a relief.

[dani41790]

holy crap thats the exact same situation i was in! well anyways, what my boyfriend did was talked to my mom, he told her how he would be good to me and never do anything wrong blah blah blah stuff like that... if that doesnt work then you're just gonna have to sneak around or just only hang out in school or something

[xhidethedetails]

I'm in the same exact situation as you are. Me and my bf are just keeping it on the down low.

[DenialofReality]

I'm filipino, but i don't think that makes a difference lol.
I think nothing is going to happen, i bet her mom will procrastinate about her going to Philippines, or either she's to cheap to buy a ticket for her flight. Most likely her mother is mad because she has a boyfriend (a duh) and her mom only wants a few things from her.
Money and a nursing major. i think.

others suggested to keep it DL. I suggest that you should talk to ze mother, and try being a sweet boy. Kiss her feet XD