Polygamy?, Or is it Life? Options

[benedictkenny]

I've come to a point where I basically haven't liked any girl genuinely in a long time, and I haven't been in an official relationship in almost a year.

I can look at people and go, she's attractive, and I'd wonder what she kisses like, or how her skin feels.
I meet other girls who I'd just liked to talk to, but am not interested in physically. Like, I'd want certain aspects of a relationship.
Thinking it over last year, I didn't see why people go for "relationships." It makes no sense that you can only get something or be close to one person by excluding yourself from the rest of the world, or pretending you don't have active interest in other people, curiosity of what other people are like, and human desire, which is natural and foolish to deny in the name of "standards and society". It's a large world, with many people. Why not experience it? If I have curiousity, and some bit of information that is unfilled, that I'd like to fill, logically, I will try to fill it.

See...people associate restricting themselves from human nature with "class"
ehh, restricting is a bad word to use, but still, surprisingly, most girls are all about class.
Many of them are so concerned with "looking good in society" and "restricting themselves." They would NEVER do anything that makes it seems like they have NO CLASS, when any real person can see this, and can tell that instead, it just means that they have no self-confidence or value of their decision making ability, and ability to trust their own desires and feelings.



It's like, when you enter "relationship" territory, you're supposed to restrict yourself from achieving a closeness with other people of the opposite sex because one person is insecure, or for jealousy...and in the name of a decency...a decency which is just a ridiculous restraint created by "society".
I see why people'd subscribe to it, but it's not...great to me. Not Natural. There's more, but I talk too much for now.

Thoughts?

[Chii]

when you get into a relationship, you're not really closing the whole world out. you can still look around, most people should realize that they're just in a relationship, they're not dead. you don't know who "the one" is if there is such thing so it would make sense to keep your eyes open.

but people restrict themselves, not only because of society, but because they feel obligated to their significant other and they feel that they need to be loyal.

it sounds logical that you should let things flow naturally by fluttering to whoever attracts you and will fulfill your needs but if that's really how life was, how would it feel? you're in love with a girl and she loves you too but then one day she meets someone else, falls in love with him, and runs off with him or she keeps you both because she can't decide. what would she do? keep it all a secret and let it slowly eat away at her conscience? keep both relationships going while hurting you and the other guy? break up with one and hurt herself and the person she left? or break up with the both of you which would leave everyone hurt?

that is a very difficult situation so people probably practice monogamy to avoid it. or maybe people practice monogamy because they believe that if they're being unfaithful, their significant other will be faithful too, so they sacrifice chances to be with other people for security.

i'm not sure what i'm saying anymore, and i'm getting a little confused at what i'm trying to say and what i said so i'll just leave it at that.

by the way, happy 22nd birthday

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

but people restrict themselves, not only because of society, but because they feel obligated to their significant other and they feel that they need to be loyal.
happy 22nd birthday

exactly,

besides, going into a relationship means you just don't have any interest in other people. You just want to focus on that one person...

[benedictkenny]

1. Ugh, don't wish me anything like that.

2. "when you get into a relationship, you're not really closing the whole world out. you can still look around, most people should realize that they're just in a relationship, they're not dead. you don't know who "the one" is if there is such thing so it would make sense to keep your eyes open."

Honestly, how many people fall in "love", and become the most jealous people, foolishly obsessed with their mates, ignoring their flaws and becoming territorial and defensive over said person?

7."that is a very difficult situation so people probably practice monogamy to avoid it. or maybe people practice monogamy because they believe that if they're being unfaithful, their significant other will be faithful too, so they sacrifice chances to be with other people for security."

In life, feelings are hurt all the time. Disappointments happen, and unpredictability and variety are what make life worth living.
It certainly seems foolish to ignore desire and experience because everyone will feel "happier".
If everyone pursued what they wanted, keeping in mind what I just said, then they just may actually end up "happier".

It just seems they'd be less satisfied, and also less experienced in life, because they are too scared to take a "risk". Wasting "potential"

Oh, and I've seen people fall in love with other people and run off with them plenty of times. In just about every case, everyone involved got over it, and realized that's how life is.

Once again, never wish me a happy birthday AGAIN! I love you!

exactly,

besides, going into a relationship means you just don't have any interest in other people. You just want to focus on that one person...

I can't say I've felt that way after thinking about life, love, and the statue of liberty. How can you focus on one person, when there is so much to do, see, learn, and love?

In closing, it is you that I DON'T love!

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

^Well that's the..."thing"...about love. And when you focus on one person, it means you focus your care and love for them. You can go experience the world with that loved person. Focusing on that one person doesn't mean, "Oh I love him, I'm going to stop going to school and base my life on his daily routines" (sadly, some people actually do that).

[doom_diver]

gd for u, u have finally seen through all the rubbish of society.

I can guarentee u 95% of relationships are pointless and generall have the lifespan of 1 month or less.

But as I say, its not abnormal not to like anyone. It just means you arent being attracted to people in this moment of time.

Being honest here, I havent liked anyone for 2 years cuz yea they are pretty but so what when they are missing half a brain?

Dont force youself, it will come

[benedictkenny]

gd for u, u have finally seen through all the rubbish of society.

I can guarentee u 95% of relationships are pointless and generall have the lifespan of 1 month or less.

But as I say, its not abnormal not to like anyone. It just means you arent being attracted to people in this moment of time.

Being honest here, I havent liked anyone for 2 years cuz yea they are pretty but so what when they are missing half a brain?

Dont force youself, it will come

ehh, I've liked people...and I've been involved with people.

I just no longer see the need to play games of jealousy, nor do I feel the need to pretend that not being honest with myself in my desire makes me a good person.

I like you. I like you A LOT!

[*mipadi*]

Ah, a refreshingly different, cynical take on relationships, and in this forum, no less.

I don't think relationships are about "excluding others" and sequestering yourself from the world. Relationships in general, be they friendly, familial, or romantic, are about improving oneself and enjoying life. If you're way of enjoying life is not engaging in an exclusive relationship with a member of the opposite sex, than that is perfectly acceptable. Life is meant to be enjoyed, and the method of enjoyment is unique to each person. I don't think a person should have to bow to societal demands to "settle down", find a single mate, get married, have a bunch of kids, and so forth.

Likewise, though, I think romantic relationships are valuable. I think they can really help a person grow and discover himself. And I think they can help a person enjoy life as well. There's some fun and exciting about being with the one person you truly want to be with.

I also think that, as people age, the jealousy and other relative immaturity of relationships goes away; or, at least, those ugly things are merely symptoms of an unhealthy relationship. A couple who is truly in tune with each other will be above such nonsense.

Of course, two people need not feel like they have to have a romantic relationship with each other; being friends is perfectly acceptable, even in instances in which society pressures such a couple to make it something more.

Overall, I've never been very cynical about relationships. I think they're pretty cool, and I think they work out well when each person puts an equal amount of effort into them--which is an easy task if the relationship is natural and "meant to be", as they say.