asking someone to a dance Options

[CALiFORNiAxBEBE]

so im asking this guy to winter ball. but I get really nervous and red and sweaty and hott. and I blush really bad.
so I need help. anyone have any good techniques or tipss?
lol. I sound like sucha silly girl. but I went up to him and I was suppose to ask him but I got too nervous and I ended up asking him if hes GOING to winter ball.

yes i know. loser.

[seriouslynikki]

Aim? E-mail? Send a note to him?
Those work.

[love-issosweet]

aim is okay but i think the best is in person unless you don't want them to see your reactions and such. just stay cool and go for it.

good luck :]

[*mzkandi*]

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[Chii]

even though asking him for his screenname then asking him is a pretty good solution, i think that you should just face your fears.

this problem will arise later on in the future so you might as well face it now and get it over with. just keep practicing in the mirror. picture asking him though, not your reflection. then practice it to your dog or something, then a trusted friend...don't practice with your friends who you know will make fun of you.

after all that practicing, it won't be as bad asking him. good luck

[NgocQuyen]

^i agree =]

i think you should just relax...just think "this guy is lucky i'm even talking to him" give yourself some credit! lols...if you give yourself confidence you'll feel a lot better. if you don't do it now you might end up regretting it later...lols just do it, good luck

[xoxoxx]

get to know him, and casually slip it in. or you could go by force, like hitler did. tell everyone about a "final solution" and make them follow your lead. Then tell them to force him to go with you. hahaha.

just kidding.

[satisfied-tom]

just go ask him. guys actually want girls to ask guys.

well this is just what i think.

[*liquidize*]

just go ask him. guys actually want girls to ask guys.

well this is just what i think.

yes it saves us all a lot of trouble. and we' also like it when the girls make the first move, and put on the condoms for us! RIGHT GUYS? tell him you're going commando

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I forgot to say that, guys love it when girls voluntarily offer to suck our dicks. It should be really casual though like, " So since we're having such a great time, want me to give you sucky sucky "


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or or or "Do you like how i look today? How are my boobs? Would you like to sneak a grab in? " like everyday casual conversation!

[brakar]

lilxl0ser has a good point. Why shouldn't any guy want to go on a date with you?

But you should also be prepared. Know what to do/say if you start blushing, if he turns you down, if he ignores you or if he says yes.

Blushing is not a problem if you can handle it. I speak from personal experience. Just let it come. Don't make excuses for it or run away. Stay and say what you want to say.

May I suggest a strategy?

Write your name and your phone number on a piece of paper, and add "call me". The next time you see him, walk up to him look him in his eyes and give him the note. Do it slowly, don't say a word and don't worry if you start to blush. When he looks down on your note, turn and walk slowly away.

Thomas

[CALiFORNiAxBEBE]

those are great ideas.

it turns out that i never found him at school and its one day before we can buy tickets so i had to have my friend ask him on the bus home. i know really lame but she told him how i never got an oppurtunity and stuff.

so in the end he said no because he doesn't like to go to dances. but he said if he was going he would go with me.
+ he blushed when she told him about it.

im still sad though. rawr. boys = problems

[*liquidize*]

He was lying about how he'd go with you, thats the oldest trick in the book! Watch you'll see him making aporno one day and then after you watch it, you'll see him come to you like a rebound!

[brakar]

No, no, NO!

Boys are not your problem. You worry so much about getting a date, that you forget what you really want.

If this guy had said yes and held your hand through the dance while you blushed at studdered. Would you be satisfied? NO!

If you like him and want to get to know him, then at least do what I said: Walk up to him and give him your phone number. When he calls, just say that you would like to see him, hang out with him or whatever you prefer.

If you've already found something you have in common, that would be a great place to start. It doesn't matter if it's football, church choir, a mutual friend, guns, music taste or computer games. Anything that connects you.

After all: Why shouldn't he like you?

Thomas

Brakar.com - How to Keep Women

[newyork__lies]

Wow, you sound just like how I used to be.

I think you should do it in person. Guys are like, "Hmm. She had the guts to ask me in person." I'm pretty sure it's a turn-on for them.

And, if you don't do it at all... Trust me! You'll regret it big time later. And it sucks. You'll mope around like, "dang it! I'm a retard, why didn't I just get it over with?"

Be yourself :]

<3

[CALiFORNiAxBEBE]

yeah true. and what liquidize said is totally not true. i considered it but u know this guy is one of those guys that is like sweet at heart if u know what i mean. like he would never do something like that. and plus i know he hates dancess. i went to one of the dances with him.

brakar and newyork_lies are right. i should just do that. eh but i havn't talked to him alot this year. i don't have any classes with him and he already has my number. And he has the least experince with girls. He isn't boyfriend material. and yet i still like him?

[*Programmer*]

just do it..and stop procrastinating...your making a big deal out of somthing that isn't... good luck

[LittleFlyingCow]

I think you should ask him face to face...just walk up to him and say "I was wondering if you want to go to the winter fest with me". And don't think about it before you do...just do it.

ya, I'm not really one to be preaching this kind of stuff but I hope it works out with you

EDIT

ah, the problem has been resolved already, whoops.

[lilith]

come up to him... ask.

[Syar]

You should either wait for HIM to ask you, but you have to ask him in person, if you want to show you're intrested.

[aicilah999]

practice with ur friends if u have to lol...
just go up to him and ask if hes busy that time and then if he isnt, u go ask him!

[newyork__lies]

you're not a silly girl at all. lots of people have the same problem. probably a lot more than you figure. even guys have this problem (trust me, i have a thousand and three guy friends). just, think of how you'll feel if you don't ask this guy at all. you'll probably regret it. don't you hate regretting things? because i know i do! anyways. just be yourself. good luck!

[priyas]

^agreed.