A question for all of you... Options

[bethelsdon]

long distant relationships, do you think they work?

[leenie]

nahh! i don't think they work especially for guys they can't go on for a long time without making out and/or sex if they're use to it with a person for a long time and going for a long period of time without theyre significant other makes them anxious there for i don't think long distance relationships work unless the couple has been together for a long period of time..

i mean come on have you NOT seen the realworld?

[bethelsdon]

nahh! i don't think they work especially for guys they can't go on for a long time without making out and/or sex if they're use to it with a person for a long time and going for a long period of time without theyre significant other makes them anxious there for i don't think long distance relationships work unless the couple has been together for a long period of time..

i mean come on have you NOT seen the realworld?

i have seen the real world and thats a very good point lol

[leenie]

why? are you trying to work with a long distance relationships?
dude guys get horny and easily distracted no matter how much they love a girl they have needs hahahah silly guys!
but girls can be like that too sometimes!!

[*krnxswat*]

Moved to 'Relationships'

It's rare that it'll last long, but it works.

[winterlily]

I think it works... its worth a try. If you really like the person, take chances and try it out thought long distance relationships are a bit difficult at times. It's hard when you can't see the person whenever you want but if it was meant to be, you'll both be together in the end. I'm in a long distance relationship now... and it's irritating at times, but that's the great thing about technology nowadays.

[xstyles]

i kno 2 ppl who r on long distance relationships. it seems that they've been workin things well. goin on over 2 years now

[LoST SouL]

yes definatly im currently in 1 n i was in 1 tat lasted 4 2 yrs... it only ended b/c we gt bored i guess but were still relly good friends

[bluecrystals]

hmm, for some people it might work... but for me i wouldn't really want to be in a long distance relationship.

[conster]

i would never think long distant relationships will work.. but i had a friend.. her cousin met someone through the internet or something? sometimes they talk on the phone and or probably online and then they jus started going out.. i think they been out for a year and something already by now and the first and last time she saw him was this past christmas.. and yup they still together altho in diff states lols

did i bore u guys?

[S0 L0NELY iNSiDE]

No, not really. I mean, how can you tell if the other person is seeing someone else? And usually people are in relationships to have that feeling when they're hugged and kissed.

[conster]

i guess they trust each other? lol umm... kinda personal to the two ppl im talking about before but they went futher than hugs+kisses

[k00alah]

yea.. i prefer long distance coz its easier in life.. you can focus more on school and family.. but trust and honest is the key.. im in one btw..

[k00alah]

ohh yeah.. we're on our way to 3 years..

[COLDasICE]

I'd have to say yes because love is a progress if you can make it last.. either you two are always together in person or without the presense of one another. It's always about trust in any type of relationship.. I mean, it would kill to just have one kiss or whatnot with that someone but later it'll be worth it right? As my math teacher says "Patience is a virtue"...
Oh yeah... Come on, the current season of the real world.. The dude was there for a week and is already doubting his relationship with his gf for 5 years.. Yeah he says he loves her and stuff but if he really does, why doubt?

[nerdish]

it all depends on if the two people in the relationship are loyal and patient...

[casssy]

im in one now.. n i gotta say.. i trust him so much that i kno he wuldnt do anything.. its been 2 years.. n still going on nd i love him more than ever hes comin here soon! n i might be going there with my friend durin spring break

[MiSSiE]

i`ve been in one before... lasted a month, then it just wasn`t working out. we didnt love each other or anything... that`s probably why.

my boyfriend and i only get to see each other once a week, and we`re holding up for almost 9 months. it`s normal for me to see my significant other everyday... but it`s different with him. He proved me wrong that we couldn`t do it.

but I say that if you really love the person, why let distance seperate you? honesty, trust and unconditional love. keywords.

[aj637]

its worth a try but some relationships arent meant to last forever. so if your in a long distance relationship just have fun thats the main point why relationship lasts. if not move on . . .

[conster]

i agree

[politicophobia77]

My opinion, and I say this in simplest terms possible, long distance relationships work if you really want them to work.

[casssy]

My opinion, and I say this in simplest terms possible, long distance relationships work if you really want them to work.

exactly :D

[jeppu]

My opinion, and I say this in simplest terms possible, long distance relationships work if you really want them to work.

definetely

[*Podomaht*]

nope doesnt work

[annabebz]

i doubt it.. you never know who your gf/bf are doing behind your back. you know?

[aakash27]

if u love eachother everything can work

[xjjajeengx]

well... i would say they dont work, but then... if i had to be in one, then i would hope they work. i think it doesnt really depend on if you love that much or not. of course it matters, but i think that it depends on how much you have faith it will work, and how commited you are to making it work. also, if the couple has good coordination meaning it isnt just one of them that is putting effort into the relationship, i think that definetly, it'll work.

[KGRL1]

i think they work if u put work into it. if u have time u guys can plan on meeting up and such. well for me, my relationship didnt start off with it being long distance buh then 2 months into tha relationship my bf left to tha mothaland and i havent seen him since :P

[anglazncutie911]

yah i gotta say...i mean they can cheat on ya even if its a long relationship..buts it ur life

[LadyJade]

i really don't think it works well. u don't kno if he/she is cheating on u or not.

[jen b0 lee___x0x]

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[Baptismapyros]

I've seen it work and I've seen it not work. My friend's girlfriend moved to Texas for work and for a while, he'd fly down there every now and then. Eventually he proposed and they're happily married. What it really depends upon is the maturity and commitment of both parties. Unfortunately, it’s usually the guy that backs off and starts cheating. It works if both people want to make it work. Yeah, it’s commonly known that guys do cheat physically, but girls cheat emotionally, I don’t know which is worse. If you want to hear me rant on people who cheat and its sociological implications, just let me know.

[xxxlilazngrlxxx]

if the people are extremely dedicated and loyal to each other then it would probably work. but a lot of people arent like that these days

[Dr3aMeR]

NOOOOO!!!!!!!! F***ING NOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Will only work under two conditions?
1) Obviously if both the people are in love. Most likely kids, teenagers, etc do not know what love is from slight obsession to longing to companionship. Two people at a young age do not know "love".
(So this condition cannot be met)
2) The people must "NOT be in LOVE" or more specifically they both must not like the other "that much". They key word is "BOTH". It must be both because if one likes the other more than the other he/she will sacrifice to get the relationship to work and the other will just bum around and do nothing. Yet, if both like the other just "so and so" to the point where they won't cheat on each other the relationship will just draaaaaggg onn annnnd ooooonnnn aannnddd onnnnnnn until the day they finally will be able to meet and have a "not long distance but short distance relationship". Then during this time they might start to like each other more and actually have a good relationship. But, this is only after it has been a dull and boring time until they get "closer".
(Possible, but why bother to wait and not find someone you really like?)

[Baptismapyros]

I'm in agreement with Dr3aMeR for 99% of the cases of long distance relationships. Haha to be honest, I’ve only seen it work once. Didn’t want to destroy all your hopes, but Dr3aMeR’s right.

[soul4star]

only with trust can that work well

[colorsarenice]

they should work if you guys are really in love or you guys trust each other enough. my friend's ex girl broke up with him after a few months since they went to different school. he really loved her, but i guess she didnt. my other friend has been going out with this guy for about over a year now. its been a few months they havent seen each other since she moved schools, but theyre still together. so i guess it really depends on the relationship you have.

[lexion]

If both of you trust each other enough and love each other enough, then it will work. It's rare though.

[aj637]

hasnt this topic already been said? well if you ask me long distance relationship can work and cant work. it depends on the people. if they want it to work then they will let it work but if they dont they it wont. thats how simple it is.

[geeitzphuongee]

i went on a long distance relationship once..last for about one month and half...long distance relationship doesnt work out for everyone...but it does sometimes..

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

yes they can w0rk .. but it inv0lves a l0t 0f time, dedicati0n, patience and trust 0n b0th sides .. i've been in a l0ng distance relati0nship f0r well 0ver 3 years n0w .. it's p0ssible =]

[himynameismike]

i'm in a long distance relationship right now and all i can say is pffft.

its no good.

and like leenie said, sex/making out is pretty important. although that may be shallow, the relationship will get boring with just talk.

unless that person is very, very interesting.

mike.

[psychoticangel]

It depends I guess... If you know and trust each other pretty well then, its got chances to work out... buh sometimes you just really need to be with a person physically so LDR kinda sucks.. coz some people having LDRs tend to pour all that "Affection" on those people near him/her so yah.. third parties and all those happen =/ oh wellz...

I'm in one btw... 5 months and going.. and welp.. he wubz me *i can tell o.o I mean, if someone calls you and messages you thousands of times a day.. what else would that mean? xP* hehe~

[iloveyou07]

they can if both ppl try to heep it going

[nearly sam]

i hope they work..i really REALLY hope they work.cause i might probably get into the long distant relationship too. but i guess it all depends on both couple. if they still want to be together even if it's a long distnat i think it'll work out. hopefully. but if they arn't sure.. than i'm not sure

[*AngelicEyz00*]

I moved from my home city to San Diego, and I had been w/my bf for 1 yr and 1 month before I moved. Then 4 or 5 months later, my bf cheated on me and broke up with me. I don't think long distance relationships work and i wouldn't be willing to try one again

[x1049]

how much distance are we talking?

i'm not one for long distance myself.

[-sincerely]

Yess. I know somebody who has had one for about a year, they visit during breaks, and he gave her a promise ring (they're getting married).

[priyas]

yes.

[Annabella Lee]

i don't think so. i wouldnt even want to think about how it would be if i didn't get to see my boyfriend every week.

[nightowl89]

it totally depends on 3 things: what you need in a relationship, what he needs in a relationship and whether there's enough love/trust and commitment between you guys to make it work. But I've definetly seen a bunch work. One is aproaching 2 yrs and its trans Atlantic. Its easier when ur older and can go visit without having to deal with parents, etc.

[myrebelliouslife]

for me... it only worked out for awhile...

[imnoxonesmemory]

i think people who say "no they don't" are just thinking about themselves. i know a lot of people who've managed LDRs for ages. one friend for even over 3 years. it' hard without seeing them for a while.. and like one of the other ppl in here said...

dude guys get horny and easily distracted no matter how much they love a girl they have needs

it's true... so your guy will probably start thinking of someone else for a while no matter how mch he loves u.
but, if u both really want it to work, it will. i'm in one now, and have been for 1/2 a year

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

I was in one, got to see him a few times. But it didn't last forever. Not seeing eachother just hurt more and more each day.

But I don't NOT belive in them, if you have the ability to make them work then more power to ya!

[whenALLelsefails]

yeah ive been in a long distance relationship before. we didnt get to see each alot but we talked on the phone alot and talked on yahoo messenger.

[adurf]

I guess it depends on people, but you'll eventually need to see eachother. People have their needs.

[pinayprincess]

of course....NOT

[AngelinaTaylor]

I'm in a long distance relationship, and we've made it work for a long time.. (year and a half) It comes to what you want to do, and if you think it's worth it.

We broke up for a while because the distance was getting too hard. But after dating a couple of other people, we just got back together.. because we realized that all the other people weren't worth it. And we don't care how long we have to wait until we live together, because we'll do it. We do see each other every once in a while, and I wouldn't trade that for anything..

It depends on many things. If you truly love each other, and if there's a way you could live together after a while, it'll work. But it won't work if you get tempted to cheat, or if you're impatient..

And by the way, you can't just say "NOOOO there's no way it could work" or "OF COURSE it can work, don't be stupid" - it depends on each couple.

Taylor``

[gelionie]

I don't think they work.
Yes, you can contact each other through the Internet (webcam/Skype/IM/whatever) or on the phone, but I think what improves a relationship and makes two people closer is the actual experience of being with each other.

[oOKittyKatOo]

yea... i agree with most people.. it depends on the couple.. how much they love/trust/committed to each other..

i think if a long distance relationship lasts.. in the long run, it'll make the relationship a lot stronger than just a "normal" relationship.. =)