Friend Problem, Advice asked for Options

[SSJ Kenshin]

Alright. I've noticed a change in one of my closest friends. He lost his mom about two months ago, and ever since he's been the same person, but he's completely abandoned his morals.

He's started smoking cigarettes, he's been having more than a few drinks, and earlier today, he was talking about scoring some weed.

I finally figured out that this may have something to do with his mother passing, but now I'm stuck.

What can I do? What should I do?

[illumineering]

Alright. I've noticed a change in one of my closest friends. He lost his mom about two months ago, and ever since he's been the same person, but he's completely abandoned his morals.

He's started smoking cigarettes, he's been having more than a few drinks, and earlier today, he was talking about scoring some weed.

I finally figured out that this may have something to do with his mother passing, but now I'm stuck.

What can I do? What should I do?

Tell him straight up that you've noticed some changes in his behaviors and say what they are. Ask him why he's doing those things. If he doesn't give you an answer, don't push. If he does, the most helpful thing you can do is listen. Above all else, be his friend. If he starts doing stuff you don't want to, just bail and say you're not into it. Be supportive without compromising your values.

[_sarcastic_]

talk it out with him, tell him what's bothering you, he might or might not understand. if he doens't listen to you then don't force him to quit that might just want to do it more just to spike you. just be there for him if he needs you

[HelplessCry]

Yes...hes going through some rough situations right now and the best thing i think for you to do is to talk it out with him. He uses all the things he's doing for escape. Even though its hurting him more inside. Tell him how if your mother was still alive would you still be doing these things...she doesnt want to see you in more pain. stuff like that.

[SSJ Kenshin]

Well, I got him to abandon his weed ambitions, and he stopped smoking on his own accord. From what I know, he doesn't drink anymore either.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

You should tell him how you feel about it. Tell him that you're worried and that if he ever needs anything you'll be there to listen. I guess you can help him get out of the habit by bringing him outside for walk or even doing something productive that might help him let lose.

[sprezzatura]

Make him feel loved. Be supportive for whatever that happens to him. Make his other friends feel the same way towards him too.

[FoxBandCutie08]

He did those things to help him get away from the pain and memories. Hang out with him, be there for him, so he doesn't use substances to get away.

[priyas]

talk to him.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Well, I got him to abandon his weed ambitions, and he stopped smoking on his own accord. From what I know, he doesn't drink anymore either.

It's good hes done that. But you should have understood from the start, he wanted to be numb. He lost the person, most dear to him ( Im assuming ) in the world.

Just let him know youre there. For whatever and whenever. And you cant just say those words to him. You have to mean it. You have to really, really mean it with everything in you.