prom date timing, when is the right time to ask someone? Options

[cheerbee07]

i searched this topic, and didn't find anything. i apologize if i missed it though.

background info:
i like this guy. he's a sophomore (i'm a junior), but he's less than 10 months younger than me. he's basically been my closest friend for the last few months. (and i've liked him since late september) however, he also likes one of my best friends, but i know for sure that she doesn't like him (she's also in a long distance relationship that she didn't tell him about.) btw, he's also really shy.

i asked him to prom on monday, because everyone has been gearing up for prom around here. (our prom isn't until april 29th though). he basically said that it was too early to decide. i'm kinda unsure whether he really meant that, or if he was just hoping my friend would ask him. since then, he's barely talking to me ( i think he's only said one sentence in my presence since then, and never anything directly to me)

therefore, my question is:
did i commit a faux pas by inviting him to prom now? and if so, when is the proper time frame to ask someone to prom? (if there is such a thing)

i'm curious so that in the future, i might have better timing haha.

[i_liek_sushi]

I hate it when underclassmen go to senior proms, go watch porn instead or something.

And yeah, who the hell asks people to prom now?! Wait till later Feb or March. And don't guys make the invitation?

[*mzkandi*]

Moved to Relationships

[*mipadi*]

The protocol of prom is not my area of expertise, but I don't think it's too early to ask. Better than waiting until it's too late.

[Anime_gurl_4eva]

why would you ask so early? besides, if your best friend doesnt like him, then make your move. talk to him a lot, and ask to go to the movies and whatnot. then.. once you got him all alone RAPE HIM just talk. and yeah. w/e you think. eventually he`ll forget about her, and move on... TO YOU!


i dunno, it could work, but hey i`m just the optimistic happy girl, so anything can happen.

[sweetabandon]

I don't think it's ever too early to ask. That way you can prepare. I know that some people won't go shopping for a single thing unless they know what color their date is going to wear.

Anyway, I have a feeling that your friend isn't talking to you because he's probably waiting for his crush to ask him. Maybe you should tell his crush (who's also your friend) that maybe she should confront him about this. It's very unfair of her to lead him on into thinking that he might have a chance with her..espeicially when you're ready and waiting on the sidelines.

Hope your prom turns out well!

[misoshiru]

generally people ask around a month or so earlier.

actually, i agree with i_liek_sushi. i don't like it when underclassmen go to prom.

[Chii]

I don't think it's ever too early to ask. That way you can prepare. I know that some people won't go shopping for a single thing unless they know what color their date is going to wear.

i agree, it is never too early to ask.

personally...by him saying that it's too early, that probably means that he doesn't want to go with you...

oh well, who cares, this is just one setback. besides, younger guys are most likely not for you. women mature much faster than men.

[Levy2k6]

i don't like it that the junior is asking out a sophomore.. they aren't even seniors! does ur school let you do that? you CAN't do that at my school unless one of the partners is a senior....

but yeah.. ima ask in late march/early april... or after Spring Break

[seremela_culnamo]

I don't think it's too early to ask. Better ask now rather than waiting and then the person you want to ask will already have a partner or something. Or if they aren't planning to go and you really want to go with them, you have a long time to make them change their mind.

Heh, it's like the other way around for me. But I don't know what's going on with my crush. Semi-formal is on the 2nd of Feb and he has been telling me to go everyday. I don't know if he wants me to just go or if he wants me to go with him. Then the topic about prom got brought up and he said he will make me go since I don't want to. Stuff like that. I don't know what he wants

We are both seniors.

[NgocQuyen]

wahhhh!!!!!! who says its too early to ask for a prom date?! that means you are well prepared!! durhh...i don't think that you did the wrong thing in asking him at this time...but why does he have to be an ash about it...lols..i mean barely talking to you? if your friend CLEARLY doesn't like him then you should tell him to move the heck on!

[lit0chinagirl]

pshh! it's never too early for anything! i'm a sophomore and i've been joking around with people about being my prom date, ahaha ;]
it's better to start early because you never know when someone will take your date before you and if they say no, you still have plenty of time to go around looking around for a better catch
hopefully your guy will see that it isn't worth waiting for your friend and go with you but remember to get some back-ups just in case

[DaTru KataLYST]

Isnt april for Junior Proms

and May for Senior Proms?

[*mipadi*]

My school only had one prom, for both seniors and juniors.

[cheerbee07]

My school only had one prom, for both seniors and juniors.

it's the same for us. basically because the juniors host the prom for the seniors.
(but the prom court is all juniors)

and x_sign here, i'm not she meant to lead him on...because she told him that she just wanted to be friends.

thank you for all the advice, i do appreciate it...i think that i'm just going to go with the flow haha. =)

[misoshiru]

i don't like it that the junior is asking out a sophomore.. they aren't even seniors! does ur school let you do that? you CAN't do that at my school unless one of the partners is a senior....

but yeah.. ima ask in late march/early april... or after Spring Break

there ARE junior/senior proms.

[_sarcastic_]

maybe he doesn't really want to go to prom

[FoxBandCutie08]

I do think it's a little early, but I mean girls have to go and pick out their dresses and things, so girls probably appreciate the invitation early. I think that means they're either waiting for another person to ask them out, or they are unsure of their feelings toward you and are thinking about them before they answer.