what should I do?, guy friend.. Options

[bballchick1]

I just wanted to get some advice on a crush that I have on one of my guy friends. I've liked him for 5 months & we've hung out a lot in small groups outside of school. His locker's right next to mine (I lucked out lol ) and we talk everyday, including on msn (he always starts the conversations everytime I log on).

I really like him a lot but I've heard different things about him. I've heard that he likes me but then he made out with one of my friends (I heard that he really doesn't like her though). Then I heard that he likes some girl but no one really thinks she exists because no one's ever heard of her or seen her before and apparently she goes to our school.

Anyways, it often seems like he likes me back because he flirts with me & a few times on msn he's told me that he doesn't want me to leave when it was really late at night and we were both really tired - some of my friends tell me I should just tell him that I like him but I don't want to ruin our friendship so I just wanted to get some outside advice. Thanks!

[x3Unreachable3x]

Woo hoo, first to reply! Lol. Well... On with the advice.

I think you should just tell him. I understand the whole not wanting to ruin the friendship thing. Which is why you bring it up sort of suttle. Just say "Hey. I just wanted to ask you if you like me or not. Because I have a crush on you, but I'm not sure how you feel about me." Something like that.

As for making out with the other girl that he so called doesn't like... This doesn't sound very good. So just watch yourself with him, he might be the player-type.

But overall, I say go for it. You're never gunna know if you don't try. It's better than wondering "What if?" Good luck!

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

About him making out with your friend ( Supposdly )
Its things youve heard. Unless its fact, you shouldnt base wether you tell him your feelings or not on that. Althought you should still consider it.

About the girl youve never seen or heard of.
She may just be quiet, and unnoticed.

If its seems like he likes you, and you like him, be a man grow some balls and do something about it. Us girls cant keep on waiting around for the boys to make the first move. If you dont want to ask him face to face, write him a note. Over the phone. But try to do it yourself, try not to get friends into the mix. I think you should tell him. So in the future, youre not beating yourself up over what would have happened.

[i_liek_sushi]

how bout you wait until the kid hits puberty..

[illumineering]

Make your own decisions!

[_sarcastic_]

those things you heard, you can't really believe them unless you really saw it happen, well yeah it is still a possibility but still. anyways, it's pretty obvious he likes you too, why not tell him how you feel instead of keeping in it in?! that's the only way he's going to find out.

[bballchick1]

WOW. Thanks for the great advice lol...about me hearing things and not seeing it..I'm pretty sure the make-out thing did happen because one of my good friends was there when it did and she's pretty good friends with the guy I like so she knows that he definitely doesn't like the girl he made out with. Also, I do realize he might be a bit of a player lol - I still like him though.. I'm still thinking about whether I should tell him or not so if there's any more people with advice that'd be great Thank you!

[ParanoidAndroid]

Wow you base all your knowledge on rumors! and even if he likes that girl that apparently no one knows, that shouldn't make a difference.

And if you really like him just ask him out and from what you said it seems he's gonna say yes anyways.

[bballchick1]

Woops..I meant to say that my friend who's pretty good friends with the guy I like and who was there when the make-out thing happened knows he doesn't like the girl he made out with because he told her. And..yea I guess I do base a lot of my knowledge on rumors..I can't really help it lol - I just don't want to ask him out though because even if he says yes it could be just because I'm his friend and so I might be just pressuring him to feel like he HAS to like me that way.

[_sarcastic_]

how would you know that he would be saying yes just because you're his friend and that he thinks you're pressuring him. if you don't try you wouldn't know.

[ParanoidAndroid]

how would you know that he would be saying yes just because you're his friend and that he thinks you're pressuring him.  if you don't try you wouldn't know.

exactly. If he says yes he says yes. You shouldn't doubt his reasons. And if ur afraid about you being right and him dumping you in the future...it's not like you guys are going to stay together forever

[*mipadi*]

I'd just let him know how you feel. If you try to disguise your feelings, your friendship will become stressed anyway. Even if nothing happens, if you let him know how you feel, the relationship will at least be more natural.

[FoxBandCutie08]

I think you sould still hang out with him, but be careful. It sounds like he has a bad reputation, and that might be true about what they're saying. But it might not. Your best bet is to ask him and find out what's going on. If he says that he didn't do that stuff, then het him know that you like him.