to be or not to be.., that is the question! (advice anyone?) |
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 Jan 8 2006, 07:31 PM
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A guy I knew for a year and I just hooked up, on christmas..
but I'm not too experinced with relationships I know what I want, but not sure what to do.. This is kinda like my best friend I'm with here.. I want whatever will work out for us, (and mostly him..  )So I'm trying to decide Should I make this a playful relationship and just do cutesy things with the guy.. Joke around, hugs and have fun.. So when things end we can easily go back to what we were? And laugh about it? Or should I be serious about us, and if a problem should arise try to work things out, and show how much he means to me/ deeply care about him and do what I can for him? It's so acward, it's like ever since we been together we've been less of best friends and more of strangers.. Should I give it time or is it best if I leave it as it was before? S.O.S! 
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Jan 8 2006, 07:50 PM
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 Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
well, it really depend son what you want, and i certainly cant tell you.
if you feel you want a firm relationship, then persue it as such. if you do not, persue with that in mind |
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Jan 8 2006, 09:25 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
why not both?
have fun and when you need to be serious then be serious. i mean you can't just be serious all through your relationship, it's going to be boring you need some fun in there too. once in awhile do cute stuff for him to show him you still care for him. but if you guys are becoming more of strangers, then you should talk it out with him and see what you both want in this relationship. but it's really up to you on how you want your relationship to turn out |
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Jan 8 2006, 09:33 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
So, what youre asking is if you should be friends with benefits, or have a serious relationships.
I think FWB ( friends w/ benefits ) arent a good thing. When you are FWB with someone else, no matter what, feelings will start to happen and someone will get hurt if the other doesnt want a relationship. I think if you like him, try to have a serious relationship. But if you dont like him, dont mess with his heart. |
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Jan 8 2006, 09:34 PM
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let him buy you expensive shit, and leave
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Jan 8 2006, 11:13 PM
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I say both. Be playful, like you were when you were only friends. But make sure you let him know that you do really deeply care about him, especially when a problem arises.
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Jan 9 2006, 10:59 AM
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You asked us if you should die or live.
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Jan 9 2006, 10:07 PM
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Ahahaha thanks for the advice guys but err..
I can see being playful isn't going to cut it anymore.. It seems like we both secretly desire a serious relationship.. And we're in quite a pickle because I seem to have doubted him when he said "you're special.. I wouldn't want to do anything like leave you.." and err it took a lot of guts saying something like that and I just offended him by somewhat telling him "I don't believe you".. I think he's a bit mad.. But I'll try to handle it on my own from here.. Thanks again! 
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Jan 9 2006, 10:24 PM
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QUOTE(creamyxlicious @ Jan 9 2006, 10:07 PM) Ahahaha thanks for the advice guys but err.. I can see being playful isn't going to cut it anymore.. It seems like we both secretly desire a serious relationship.. And we're in quite a pickle because I seem to have doubted him when he said "you're special.. I wouldn't want to do anything like leave you.." and err it took a lot of guts saying something like that and I just offended him by somewhat telling him "I don't believe you".. I think he's a bit mad.. But I'll try to handle it on my own from here.. Thanks again!  awwhh!!! you did the same exact thing i did awhile ago...gosh..that skrewd my life over big time....if you really care about him PLEASE tell him! hehe i guess its all up to you ;] hehe good luck! 
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Jan 13 2006, 04:30 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(creamyxlicious @ Jan 10 2006, 10:07 AM) "you're special.. I wouldn't want to do anything like leave you.." and err it took a lot of guts saying something like that and I just offended him by somewhat telling him "I don't believe you".. I think he's a bit mad.. Oooh that must've hurt. I think you should apologize. |
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Jan 15 2006, 03:12 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
Ouch. I think you should definitely explain why you said that to him, maybe he will understand and not be mad at you for it. That had to hurt.
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