opposite, of what happens to most? Options

[brokenskys]

hmm. okay so i havnt posted anything on cb in ages. but i come here too much. definatly need a life -_-. but anyways. i guess i just want to know if anyone has the same problem as me.

you know how most of the time. its the boyfriend that is scared to death of the girls dad, because of him being overprotective and things?

well with me, its quite the opposite. we've been dating for 7 months or so, and my parents dont know. but they like him a lot. however, his parents seriously hate me. for awhile they forbid him from seeing me, i'm not entirely sure why. possibly because of one bad impression... but that was months ago. he told me they've never treated any of his past girlfriends this way. so i really dont know what to think. anyways. yeah.

any advice? i've tried writing them letters. but i always end up writing them, then throwing them away, because they never seem quite right. how do i convince them that i truly care about him when they wont let me near him?

[shortiiex]

maybe you should just have a face-to-face conversation with them. It might be scary but you should just do it for the sake of teh realtionship.





If it doesn't work out..you can elope.

[ceara cecilyrose]

It depends... Why do you feel they have something against you? What happened?

[brokenskys]

yeah... i know a face to face thing would be best. but i'm so scared of them. i guess i've known all along what i have to do. but i don't know what to say, or where to start.

i'm not sure exactly what they have against me. but im not imagining their hatred towards me -_-. i'm assuming its because they dont want me to be a distraction to their son. and his past girlfriends havnt had such an affect on him before. and they think i'm a bad influence because i'm a year older? something like that

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

^ Yeah. Face to face is the best way. Try having them come over for dinner at your house. Let your parents drone on about how much of a good student, person, and daughter you are.

Then try and see if you can go for dinner at their house. Now, be blunt but nice. Ask them plainly, " Is there any reason to why you dislike me ? " And see what happens from there (:. Good luck.

[jamieus]

Um.....does it have something to do with "Ethnic/Race" or watever?

[brokenskys]

nope. we're both asian. and i dont think they'd come for dinner at my house ><. its weird. they live about 4 houses down. and our parents have never seen each other.

[_sarcastic_]

i'm kind of in the same thing, his mom can't accept the fact that we're together, she keeps trying to hook him up with someone else or that's what he says. his dad is fine with us. but our families are family friends, they are pretty much very close

[Fade to Black]

nooooooooo, dont talk to them!! u'll die!! just stay away!!! =O

[misoshiru]

bring him along, sit down with your parents, and talk.

[Chii]

try talking to them like what everyone else suggested. but if all that talking doesn't work then whatever. just because they're your boyfriend's parents doesn't mean that they can like have such control over you and force you to slave yourself for their approval.

i bet it's probably something stupid, my ex boyfriend's mother hated me because i didn't say hi to her, she didn't say hi to me either! some people are just ridiculous.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

just make other good impressions when ur around his parents and just leave the rest up to your boyfriend. even if they dont like u its his job to tell them "HEY! SHES MY GIRLFRIEND LIKE IT OR NOT!" and then its all good ;]

[mzbbc]

they probably don't like you because for whatever reason they feel that you aren't good enough for their son. it's f**ked up, but parents can be weird like that, you know? just try to be polite but don't let them get between you and your guy. he should stand up to his parents and tell them how it is between you two.