How Do iTell My Mom I lost my VIRGINITY?, Please comment..... Options

[*swtcherriipie*]

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[*mzkandi*]

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[Rachel]

Umm...don't?

My mom doesn't know and thats how I'd like to keep it for a few years.

[aicilah999]

You wait for the "right" time.
You wait for when you think your mom
knows you can handle all this....

Or, like what ^^ rachel is love said, you don't.

[mouse_3k]

well u dont..

[KrunkMuzik]

Lmao...oh man. Since when are we supposed to tell our parents? Lol.

[jEllyBeaNs]

why would u tell her...?:/

-do you feel bad about it, or are you pregnant or sumthin?

[SHORTxSWEET]

dont...unless she doesnt care..but yeah idk how you would tell her :\

[shortiiex]

when she feels happy tell her?

but i don't think you shoudl tell anyone about your sexual life..it's your private life. If you want to tell her you can but if she's an understanding mom, she won't kill you

[silver-rain]

Yeah, don't tell her unless she doesn't care.

[Gypsy Eyes]

don't. Wait till you are like 20

[_sarcastic_]

yeah i agree with everyone else. don't tell her unless you're pregnant or something

[*salcha*]

"HEY MOM GUESS WHAT? TODAY WAS SUCH A GREAT DAY BECAUSE I LOST MY VIRGINITY"

[*liquidize*]

dude dont tell your mom...she might get a lock for your poosay or something or a cage around it to end all your fun

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

I suggest you dont. (:

But i say, when shes dropping you off to school or somewhere, say "bye mom i love you by the way ilostmyvirginity BYE !" Then run out of the car. Which of course you will eventually face her later on that day.

[_suzie_]

teehee^

nah just dont tell her. there's no need

[Mulder]

dont.

[silver-rain]

Besides, why would you want to tell your mom? Unless you were raped or something.

[ParanoidAndroid]

Why do you wanna tell her in the first place? It would be suicide to tell your mom, "Mother, I had sex."

[Latina Babii]

My mother told me to tell her when I'm ready to have sex LMAO but why would your mom want to know that you're having sex? Just a question......unless it's one of those really freak ove rprotective mom's that need to know their kid' every moment but if it's one of those moms whose suppppper crazy like poke you in the eye with a fork crazy i'd beware and not say anything.

[ParanoidAndroid]

My mother told me to tell her when I'm ready to have sex LMAO but why would your mom want to know that you're having sex? Just a question......unless it's one of those really freak ove rprotective mom's that need to know their kid' every moment but if it's one of those moms whose suppppper crazy like poke you in the eye with a fork crazy i'd beware and not say anything.

of course moms would want to know if you're ready. they want to make sure they can give you warnings or a piece of their mind and have a talk about it

[ceara cecilyrose]

*shrugs* I told my mum. Course, I lost it at age 20 and it wasn't a particularly big deal.
To me, a bigger deal is that I fell completely in love with him and he fell in love with me and we're still together.

Were you in that sort of situation?
I just hope you used protection :)
It may not be wise to tell your mum, but really it depends on the sort of person she is.
I have a younger sister about your age though and I think it'd really worry my mum if she lost her virginity. She's too young to fall in love and teenage lust makes people do silly things.

[SimplicityGirl]

Well if you feel comfortable enough to share these kinda things with her, then maybe you can tell her that there's something important you want to talk about with her, and just tell her. But I don't know whyyou'd wanna tell. It's such a private thing...and if it were me, I won't tell. There is no need to tell her that you lost your virginity.

[*mzkandi*]

When you're married.

[seremela_culnamo]

I suggest you don't tell her even though it's the wrong thing to do.

Thing is, she would freak out and stuff. & then she would lose trust in you. But the thing is, if you don't tell, wouldn't it be worse if she finds out one day? I don't know about your mom, but my mom's the type of person who can tell someone is a virgin or not just from looking at them. So let's jsut hope your mom isn't like that or knows anyone who can do that. Apparently you can just tell from looking at their lower part of their bodies. No clue how guys my age can tell, too. Like my friend, he can tell who's a virgin or not (the girls) in my grade. & the only upside of telling her is in case that you got aids or whatever from whoever you slept with.

Let's just hope nothing went wrong and that your mom doesn't know.

[anniepiee]

you just... don't.
it's kinda disturbing if the mom starts to picture things.. =\

[EmmalieV]

" Mother I participated in sexual relations with the opposite gender ".


.... 0__o


Just dont , like everyone else said unless your pregnant.

[Rachel]

I have a younger sister about your age though and I think it'd really worry my mum if she lost her virginity. She's too young to fall in love and teenage lust makes people do silly things.

Argh, I hate it when people say that. I know that I am in love and I had sex with my boyfriend because we are in true love, not lust. Why would I stay with him for over a year if it is just lust. Rawr. [/endrant]

[mzbbc]

don't tell her. she would be really really mad/disapointed, and it's not worth it. besides even though she is your mom, i don't think it's other people's buisness if you have sex.

[*mipadi*]

I bet there's a Hallmark card for this sort of thing.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

if ur mom is the type of person who doesnt get ferious about such things then just go ....

"hey mom i need to talk to you" and then be like me and blah...had sex ... blah blah...."

other wise.... they dont need to know! i bet u she'll find out on her own later....they always find out...... *shakes fist*

[sociallydsoryntd]

Argh, I hate it when people say that. I know that I am in love and I had sex with my boyfriend because we are in true love, not lust. Why would I stay with him for over a year if it is just lust. Rawr. [/endrant]

One year might not be love. xP I know this couple who's been together for two years, but they don't love each other. He cheats on her and stuff. And yes, he did stay with her for two years because of lust =P

But hey, I'm not trying to attack you or anything. Just saying its possible.

My mother told me to tell her when I'm ready to have sex LMAO but why would your mom want to know that you're having sex? Just a question......unless it's one of those really freak ove rprotective mom's that need to know their kid' every moment but if it's one of those moms whose suppppper crazy like poke you in the eye with a fork crazy i'd beware and not say anything.

Actually I know some moms like that, and it's to give them protection lol. They are more open about sex xP I think they had sex at a younger age too.

[ApocalypseAelis]

I bet there's a Hallmark card for this sort of thing.

Haha.

"Dear ____,
Congratulations on losing your virginity!
May your sex life be pleasurable and fulfilling.
Love,
_____"




Don't tell your mom until you are an adult, unless you were raped, are pregnant, and/or have a STD.

[Rachel]

One year might not be love. xP I know this couple who's been together for two years, but they don't love each other. He cheats on her and stuff. And yes, he did stay with her for two years because of lust =P
But hey, I'm not trying to attack you or anything. Just saying its possible. 

Well it has been longer than one year and we don't cheat on eachother. He said I love you first so I am guessing it is not lust.

Anyways, I am just tired of people saying that teenagers can't fall in love. Yes they can. Besides, I am an adult now, I know what I am in lust and love.

[ceara cecilyrose]

Argh, I hate it when people say that. I know that I am in love and I had sex with my boyfriend because we are in true love, not lust. Why would I stay with him for over a year if it is just lust. Rawr. [/endrant]

Only a teenager would say that :P
Its not all teens, not by a long shot. But then there are people who are young and people who are _young_
Its a simple developmental fact that peoples emotional makeup takes a while to develop and their brains aren't fully formed during most of adolescence.
This doesn't mean that you can't fall in love, but it does mean that its less likely. Even the simple fact that a lot of younger people have no idea where their lives are going yet means that it can be really hard for some to know how they can share their lives with someone.
This isn't always the case. I have a brother who has been with his girlfriend for about 4 years now and it started in high school.
But... I don't think that is always the case.
I still stand by my statement that some young people are too young to fall in love.
Or do you really think that all the teens who get into a new relationship every few weeks and have sex with each guy before dropping them because they're too emo or whatever... Is that love? Some teens will swear black and blue that it is, they'll say how much they LOVE their boyfriend and then within a couple of weeks have decided that they LOVE someone else. It's bullshit.

[Mikael]

don't. Wait till you are like 20

yeah um... im 20... wait till your 25. cause man, your mom will become an ultimate UFC fighter on you.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Why dont you just procrastinate on it until you are pregnant, sounds good eh ?

[Just_Dream]

It really depends what kind of person you are.

Although I COMPLETELY agree with others in saying that you shouldn't tell her, you should think about her reaction.

Also, ask yourself these questions:
1. Are you close with her?
2. Has she every talked about other people losing their virginity?
3. If so, how has she reacted?

Okay, if you answered yes to the first two, then focus on #3. If she's reacted negatively (which in all honestly, I would too, if I was her!), then perhaps you shouldn't. Just know that you have to be careful. But if you're really close to her and you're scared she'll find out, maybe it's better to tell her? It really depends on the situation..

[Tribal J_Rome]

you could spend a couple nights at a friend's house and send ur mom a letter sayin "i lost my virginity, write back when it's safe to come home"

[dahding]

"mom, did u get some last night?"
"er.......no?"
"well, I DID."

what the deuce. if ur very comfortable with ur mother and u know she won't explode in a fiery mass, then go ahead. otherwise, follow rachel's advice and mums the word.

[moorepocket]

you: remember when you told me to have safe sex?
mom: yeah?
you: ummm uhhhh...

i see your dilemma, hope everything works out.

[*Weird addiction*]

One year might not be love. xP I know this couple who's been together for two years, but they don't love each other. He cheats on her and stuff. And yes, he did stay with her for two years because of lust =P

But hey, I'm not trying to attack you or anything. Just saying its possible. 
Actually I know some moms like that, and it's to give them protection lol. They are more open about sex xP I think they had sex at a younger age too.

What do you mean by one year might not be love? That's bullshit. You know ONE couple. ONE in a million...don't go assuming if you don't know that much.

Sorry...someone told me the exact same thing today and it pissed me off...

EDIT//
I don't think you should tell her.

[Chii]

Umm...don't?

My mom doesn't know and thats how I'd like to keep it for a few years.

i agree. why would you need to tell your mom anyway? unless she's one of those cool moms. mine would most likely kill me if i told her i had any relations with the opposite sex.

[Mr. Slowjamz]

dont ....its just better that way .

[hulagurlie413]

that's an easy one...DON'T![B]

[steezahh]

this is an interesting topic.. i have no suggestions though. im sorry. wait till your older maybe? wayyyy older?

[Rachel]

What do you mean by one year might not be love? That's bullshit. You know ONE couple. ONE in a million...don't go assuming if you don't know that much.

Sorry...someone told me the exact same thing today and it pissed me off...

EDIT//
I don't think you should tell her.

Anyways, to the topic starter, can we get an update or a reason why you must tell your mother?

[aznxdreamer]

"hey mom, i had sex"

[sociallydsoryntd]

What do you mean by one year might not be love? That's bullshit. You know ONE couple. ONE in a million...don't go assuming if you don't know that much.

Sorry...someone told me the exact same thing today and it pissed me off...

EDIT//
I don't think you should tell her.

I just said one couple as an example =P Duh. Why argue with no examples? Want another? I for one, am another example. I felt strong emotions, a bit of love but more of infatuation and lust. I know, because I've experienced it, so YOU don't assume that I don't know =P. (And no, it's not one in a million. There are more.) Hold your tongue before you go off on others. Don't displace the anger you have on that someone else towards me

Btw, I wrote that not to attack her, just to address my opinion. If I attacked her, I would have used more derogatory terms and a bunch of cussing.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Is there a good reason why you should tell her? o_O Other than that; what your mother doesn't know can't hurt.

[AMBERLY07]

are u pregant if not than say nothing unless she finds out

[SSJ Kenshin]

You want to...WHAT?!

Tell her on February 30th A.K.A. Never.

[BabiiPeachesx3]

uhhh u don't

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

I bet there's a Hallmark card for this sort of thing.

Unfortunately those were boycotted for parental units found them disturbing.

by the way SSJ Kenshin, February 30th can happen at that..um what's it called, that 4th year happening...lunar....activity...

Anyways if you want to tell your mom just because you feel like it's a last minute choice to improve your relationship with her, I suggest you go shopping in Victoria's Secret with her instead.

[*Zatanna*]

Well, how does your mom react? Ok, that was badly phrased. Is your mom liberal? Really conservative? I think it depends. I don't personally like keeping secrets - even one as huge as this. I certainly hope someday my son will feel comfortable speaking to me about things likes this. We are out of the age where you have to hang your soiled sheets to prove your chastity.

There's no guarantee either way. If you decide to tell her, just spit it out. Speak in bullets.

[*Programmer*]

--...you are not to bright...

"what people don't know.... will not hurt them"

and by posting it here...makes it seem like you want everyone to know...

[lit0chinagirl]

now where's the fun in telling her?! if she ever asks if you're a virgin though, feel free to stammer a little so she gets the idea or you can just straight out confess.

[Gerifan04]

I agree with everyone else. Just don't tell her. Unless you were raped or you're pregnant I wouldn't tell her. Most parents don't know how to deal with that type of information. Usually its because they don't want to think about their child losing their virginity. Also, if your mom might get angry because of it that could really ruin your social life. I mean I know if you're feeling guilty about this you might think its right to tell her. But as long as you're practicing safe sex and don't have any STDs or you're being raped, then its really none of her business.

[sharpandcuddly]

Unfortunately those were boycotted for parental units found them disturbing.

by the way SSJ Kenshin, February 30th can happen at that..um what's it called, that 4th year happening...lunar....activity...

Anyways if you want to tell your mom just because you feel like it's a last minute choice to improve your relationship with her, I suggest you go shopping in Victoria's Secret with her instead.

..uh
there can only be 29 days in february on leap year.

duh.


yea, dont. XD

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

^Oh really? My science teacher sux

[EddieV]

A girl from school told her mom she lost her virginity by being raped. The parents pressed charges on the guy that "raped her." Here's an example of what NOT to do.

[AngryBaby]

does swtcherri not read her own topics?

....maybe she's dead, because she didnt read our advice quick enough

[lilnatcat]

omg............. u should never tell ur mum that!!

Just leave it till when ur married, she'll be expecting that u would lose ur virginity not long after u got married, THEN its ok!!! Infact, u would'nt have to tell her!!!

But anytime before that, heck no! She'd kill u!

[*chaneun*]

"Hey mom, I did it!"
She might think it was something else..

[full:O:beans]

lets see...don't? why do you need to anyway? Unless you're pregnant or something like that. It's not really needed to ever tell her...the only time appropriate (in most mom's views) for losing your virginity is after gettign married, but really once you start having babies and stuff? I think that would be kinda obvious

[*Zatanna*]

Before anyone throws tomatos at me - All the "don't tell her" responses make me a little sad. I realize I'm one of the elders here, but is there really that much fear or distrust (and I'm sure plenty of other emotions I'm neglecting to mention) between your parents and yourselves? I guess I just always imagined my son being able to tell me these things. (I do realize that I'm considered a liberal parent).

Ok, sorry for the off topic.

[priyas]

when you fell comfortable. tell her quickly if your like pregnant or if you think you have a STD.

[funkayyfreshhh]

wait until she thinks ur the right age to lose it. & then be like... yadaaa

[AngryBaby]

"Hey mom, I did it!"
She might think it was something else..

haha and she'll be like "good job honey "

[mylittleMiracle]

u can tell this to muun after u are an adult...or ur mun will kill you.(just i guess dun worry:])

[585Nella]

i think that when every girl starts to have sex should go see a gyno!!!!! if you are uncomfortable about telling your mom im sure a friends mom would be more understanding. but i cannot stress the gyno factor enuff. so many young girls start to have sex and get pregnant and keep it from their mothers and never go to the doctors and that is so dangerous. i never told my mom, she just kinda figured out on her own. me and my bf have been together for 5 years. but yeah, like everyone else said, if you dont feel the need to dont tell her. BUT GOSH DARNIT GO TO THE DOCTORS!!!!

[love_angie]

is it necessary? do you have to?

[XqUiiSiiTxMiiSz]

For everybody it's different. It depends how close and comforatble you are with your mom. I have friends whos parents know. But personally. I'm 19 years old and my mom still doesnt know that Im not a virgin, and I wouldnt dare tell her. If you are concerned for any reason, you should go to planned parenthood. www.plannedparenthood.org they are very helpful and everything is confidential. They are really nice really helpful, they do all kinds of testing and its pretty reasonable, if not free depending on your financial situation.

[AnnahhbeL]

dont tell her.
like everyone else said, unless you got pregnant or something. =/

[megan_x3]

i mean - to the point that you got pregnant ? yeah- you should tell her.
but ... i wouldnt ...

[FoxBandCutie08]

I would never tell my mom, but I mean if you really REALLY want to, and you don't think she will ground you until you're 76, then you have to handle the situation with maturity. You have to speak calmly and be prepared for her to freak, just don't freak back. Stay calm, and she will react to you. Just be prepared for your whole family to know too though, like your dad, and if your siblings overhear. They might go tell other people...blah blah. You get the point.

[AlexusD]

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