Jealousy, how do you deal? Options

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

So, let's talk about jealousy. How do you deal with it when in a relationship, or even when watching your crush like someone else?

[mzbbc]

i start bashing on the person that he's with to whoever is around me and listening.

[yummy_delight]

I try to hide it, but I'm not too good at it. Girls can tell when I'm scamming on their man because I get really frigid toward them even if I was really good friends with them before.

[silver-rain]

Oh boy, I can get really jealous. Eugh, but I try to remind myself that my boyfriend is with me, that he loves me. Then, I try to find bad qualities about the girls to make myself feel better...

[timeflies51]

unfortunately, i get jealous extremely easily. i wish i could help it, but i can't.

usually when i get jealous i overanalyze a lot - like if a girl was talking to my crush and i was jealous, i would immediately assume that they liked him too.

as for my crush liking someone else - i am able to control not immediately dislike the girl just for that reason, because that's completely stupid. (however, i will dislike them if there's a good reason for it, of course.) i mean, i'm jealous, but i usually don't do anything crazy because of it. in fact, if the girl is really nice, i'll usually forget all about my crush when i talk with her.

[lit0chinagirl]

1. trash talk about the person
2. dig up some good dirt
3. wish them no future together whatsoever
4. BUT!...i usually let myself die inside as i watch it all happen-- sucks i know

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

I get insanely jealous. And i really go crazy inside. But i never do anything, cos i cant control who he likes or who hes with and i would never do anything to jeopordize.

[dahding]

i try my best not to show any emotions and i just go along with the flow. i've never been jealous in any relationship because i've never had a reason to be, and when i see my crush flirting with some other guy or whatever, i just basically let it go. it's not like i can just tell them, "stop, i don't like it." they're perfectly entitled to other people, so yeah, big whoop.

[Ington]

I kill the person I'm jealous of, and steal all of their stuff.

[dahding]

I kill the person I'm jealous of, and steal all of their stuff.

good times eh ariel.

i wouldn't sleep if i were u...

[Chii]

when i was with my ex, i just got really upset and like b*tched at him about it. if it's with a crush...i just get hurt and upset but i let it go because he's not my boyfriend...

but now, i think i've kind of gotten it under control. i don't get as jealous and i let things go.

[NgocQuyen]

lols i really don't get jealous that often. but for me when i DO get jealous i just brush it off and tell myself that he made a mistake by dissing me or whatever...haha likee...umm...how do i say this...like he was lucky i EVEN acknowledged him...

[silver-rain]

Well, I didn't get jealous with my first boyfriend. But when he broke up with my because he like flirting with other women (...), I started getting jealous whenever my current boyfriend is around other girls, especially if I think they're pretty.

[yourfriendsteph]

I act really awkward around the person im jealous of without realizing it. I'll purposely look away when i see them and im just a snob. I DONT MEAN TO BE THOUGH...just human nature i guess?

[LittleLulu]

well im most definately one of the most easily jealous-ed person EVER!

and what i do about it?
1-immediately start to have negative feelings for whichever little bizatch that got on my guy
2-confront my guy
3-still not working then confront her
4-STILL not working then get her friend to talk to her about it
5-if all fails i would go ballistic. all out WAR!!!. j/p =P

when im pissed off i dance around my room to very loud music.
If things dont work out then its better to end it. and if its a crush..well..then you can't do anything about it...but like give dirrty looks or something XD creep the poop outta them! hah!

[lakerfever2476]

It hurts.. but most likely you'll get over it.

[lilxroxy]

hrmm.. generally it's me acting weird, and he will ask. ( atleast that's what has happened everytime so far ) and yeah.. we just talk about it.

but i usually fume inside and let it out by writing in my xanga or diary or talk to close guy friends..

[misoshiru]

i run over, take a large rock and bash that person's head in *bambambam*

i keed.




actually? i keep it all inside.

[mouse_3k]

My boyfriend is not allowed to hug another girl. If a girl comes up to him and talks to him, i have to know who she is. If she is just a random girl, shes on my death list. He is not allowed to touch another girl as in like hitting or any sort of flirting. if so, he got sh!t to pay.

but i aint that overprotective one. w/e rules i set, i follow them myself so it would be fair

[steezahh]

I get insanely jealous. And i really go crazy inside. But i never do anything, cos i cant control who he likes or who hes with and i would never do anything to jeopordize.

thats how i feel, i get sooo jealous but knowing that he likes someone, or that hes talking to some `chic in front of me while we are on a two on two place =] [shh]. yeah. man. i wish sometimes the guy i liked realized how much i like him. that would be awesome. i tell him all the time I LOVE YOU. but i never get a response. oh well .. hes like my best friend too.. so whatever.

[hulagurlie413]

Oh boy, I can get really jealous. Eugh, but I try to remind myself that my boyfriend is with me, that he loves me. Then, I try to find bad qualities about the girls to make myself feel better...

hahah that's sad about the finding the bad qualities about the other girls, but i do the same thing. lol. i get jealous very easily, unfortunately. can't help it though. i don't want any ho to come along and steal my man with her whorish ways. haha.

[pinayprincess]

i cry.. who doesnt? but really, i try not to talk about it at all.. bringing it up just makes me feel worse...

[dahding]

i cry.. who doesnt? but really, i try not to talk about it at all.. bringing it up just makes me feel worse...

i don't.

[shortiiex]

you can't do anything about jealousy..you think the green monster goes away but it's still somewhere there
you just have to learn how to handle it

[gnawxela]

i get pissed off and fume

and then i get tired and sleep

and afterwards, i just let it go cuz something happy usually happens =D

[twistedxmindz]

unfortunately, i get jealous extremely easily. i wish i could help it, but i can't.

usually when i get jealous i overanalyze a lot - like if a girl was talking to my crush and i was jealous, i would immediately assume that they liked him too.

as for my crush liking someone else - i am able to control not immediately dislike the girl just for that reason, because that's completely stupid. (however, i will dislike them if there's a good reason for it, of course.) i mean, i'm jealous, but i usually don't do anything crazy because of it. in fact, if the girl is really nice, i'll usually forget all about my crush when i talk with her.

i get really jealous really easily too..andd if my crush talks to other girls i assume they like him and he likes them and blah blah too. it's horrible and i wish it could stop. ahh. okay. i'm not much help but js had to get that out !. =)

[*StanleyThePanda*]

I'm not the jealous type, never have been.....
So uh yeah, if you are jealous because of something maybe discuss it with the person.
But dont be too over jealous, like "Not allowed to hug other girls" or w/e because if you are overly jealous, they are most likely going to cheat on you.

[anniepiee]

run behind her and smash a snapple bottle on her head. >=)
nono.
jealousy? either keep it inside or complain to friends. they usually end up complaining with me, when we finish i'm all good.

[silver-rain]

I'm not the jealous type, never have been.....
So uh yeah, if you are jealous because of something maybe discuss it with the person.
But dont be too over jealous, like "Not allowed to hug other girls" or w/e because if you are overly jealous, they are most likely going to cheat on you.

Yeah, that's what my boyfriend told me, that by restricting him, it would make him want to rebel and cheat or something. Sigh, it's hard not to be jealous, but I always try to reassure myself that my boyfriend loves ME and no one else.
I agree about not being overly jealous. I used to be like that and tell him not to be with other girls, etc. But now, I'm more accepting I guess since I'm always hanging around guys so my reasoning is if I can do it, he can to and vice versa. Just as long as we both know that we love each other.

[BrokenDream]

unfortunately, i do get jealous easily. when i watch my crush talk to his girl as a friend (yeah they are friends, not together) it feels like my heart just died. hah. it's kind of funny how i can get that way. i just wish i was that girl walking with him..

i hate it when i get jealous.

[nopattern]

I'm a really jealous person, but people really don't know that because I tend to hide it. I just act like it doesn't bother me and I eventually (if I'm lucky) get over it.

[hulagurlie413]

run behind her and smash a snapple bottle on her head. >=)
nono.
jealousy? either keep it inside or complain to friends. they usually end up complaining with me, when we finish i'm all good.

LMAO!!! i love that.

[_sarcastic_]

i have negative feelings about the other person
or i start to break down and cry
or my mind starts to wonder, as in what will happen

[topsyturvy]

Scream into a pillow or punch something hard.

[kayemo]

Jealousy can get kind of ugly with my and my boyfriend's relationship. When we get mad, we tell each other what the problem is and then compromise. There has been a couple of instances where we each had to give up talking to certain friends who were practically throwing themselves in our relationship. (I wasn't well-liked or respected in terms of some of his girl-friends...just because they were jealous.)

As far as being jealous over a crush liking someone else, that's just something you'll have to eventually get over. You can't make them like you instead, so you just have to step aside. Also, if you decide you don't like someone just because your crush likes them, don't talk bad about them. That will just make the jealousy worse.

[aznbaby405]

yah that would suk and i would just talk to my friends about it but dont worry you'll find someone else =]

[angelrevelation]

if you're in a relationship, you should trust the person to know they won't 'do anything'. and if they do, just dump them... they would have done it eventually even if you monitered them.

if it's with a crush, you just have to remember they can like who they like... it's hard

[xo maerissa]

i am notorious for gettin jealous also. i cant stand to see an ex get with another person lol. its sad but i still want to think that they're still in love with me.. even if they arent. but usually i just get my friend and we go mess with the girl online.. its wrong but fun and rewarding.. lol i deal with my problems weird.

[teeners4]

woahhh last relationship. i got jealous a lot and well it ended. haha i was wayy to paranoid and didnt even act like a girlfriend....yea not good

[Simply_unique]

well it never happened to me.. but if it did I;m sure I would be jealous.. I'd be jealous of the girl but I wouldnt hate her or something. I mean even if I am in love with that "crush" i just got to deal with the fact that hes in love with someone else. You can never defy your own feelings toward one person. If you like someone then u just like someone theres nothing u can really do about it until u get over it. I;d probably be sad because he doesnt like me but i'd try to think that if hes happy then i should be happy for him.