Breaks, how long do you think they should be? |
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
 Nov 23 2005, 07:13 PM
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Okay, I asked my friend this question. If you and your boyfriend/girlfriend decide to go on a break, how many days would be exceptable? And how many days would it no longer be considered as a break?
 EDITED + 112305 7:18 If it passes the day of your ___ month. Would it still be considered as a break? |
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Nov 23 2005, 07:15 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians  Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
You shouldn't have a deadline for breaks. Breaks should be as long as how many days the significant other can handle.
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Nov 23 2005, 07:26 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
^ Yeah. Breaks shouldnt have a deadline. It should be whenver both the peopel think they are ready to be back in the relationship. If it passes any anniversarys, then it passes them.
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Nov 23 2005, 07:27 PM
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First ask why you are taking a break. Then ask if that reason is resolved. When the answer to the second question is yes, the break has been long enough.
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Nov 23 2005, 07:30 PM
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QUOTE(Hiphop d[-_-]b @ Nov 23 2005, 7:26 PM) ^ Yeah. Breaks shouldnt have a deadline. It should be whenver both the peopel think they are ready to be back in the relationship. If it passes any anniversarys, then it passes them. ^ What exactly do you mean by that? It passes them?
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Nov 23 2005, 07:34 PM
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i hate it when people say they want to take a break because it could just be a lame excuse to be a way to break up with someone. then again, breaks could make you realize how much you need the person. all and all, breaks could be as long as you two want. the both of yous may decide to see other people before you realize that you'd rather be with them. so, if it's meant to be you'd just let time take its course and see what happens.
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Nov 23 2005, 07:51 PM
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Well me and my boyfriend (ex?!?) are on a somewhat break. I think. We do everything that we used to do, we're just not official anymore. And today would've been our 2nd month. So I'm not sure if this is even a break anymore.
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Nov 23 2005, 08:04 PM
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whoever's boyfriend tolled them they needed a break, there aint gonna be another time when ur officialy goin out again!
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Nov 23 2005, 08:10 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Breaks don't have a deadline. They're usually because one person just needs some space or a little free time. My boyfriend and I kinda went on a break, but it didn't really last or take form....
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Nov 24 2005, 12:00 AM
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 Jus Sweet Chocolate Group: Member Posts: 739 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,959 |
uhh...i think BrEaks are stupid! who does that? thats like sayin..."uhh lets break up and see other ppl, cuz im tired of you right now, but we cand get back together later!" how DuMb!
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Nov 24 2005, 10:52 AM
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^ not really. Some couples actually take breaks because they need a break from each other. It doesn't nessessarily mean that they're tired of each other. And me and my boyfriend took a break
 and we're stronger than ever.
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Nov 24 2005, 05:30 PM
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hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
QUOTE(iNyCxShoRT @ Nov 24 2005, 10:52 AM) ^ not really. Some couples actually take breaks because they need a break from each other. It doesn't nessessarily mean that they're tired of each other. And me and my boyfriend took a break and we're stronger than ever.True, some couples just take a break because they need their space to do their own thing. Doesn't mean to date other people or something. My boyfriend and I were thinking of taking a break, but we worked things out. |
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Nov 24 2005, 05:40 PM
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^ Lucky for you guys. The weird thing is that me and my boyfriend have been on about...2 breaks. One before and the 2nd one is now.
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Nov 24 2005, 06:08 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
Meh, I personally am not a fan of breaks. I think if you are having issues, work them out. Don't just take some time off, if the relationship is worth it/strong enough, you can make it through.
That said, breaks don't have a time limit. |
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Nov 24 2005, 06:12 PM
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I don't think there should be such a thing as breaks. They are pointless. Like Rachel said, if there is a problem, work it out. It's not really gonna do any better to spend time apart from each other. I guess though, if you still decide to have a break, there is not really a time limit. Like Mipadi said, if the reasons why you took the break are resolved then there really is no reason to be on a break.
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Nov 26 2005, 01:03 PM
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guys, can you explain what exactly goes on in a "break"?
is it just like breaking up with the hope of possilby getting back together one day? |
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Nov 26 2005, 01:15 PM
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 Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
..I've never been on a break before in any relationship but...
...from what I think, there should be NO limit and timelimit on breaks. You go back when you're ready.. People go on breaks for a variety of reasons, the most common being a relationship break...either you did something wrong or he did something wrong etc. etc. arguments, etc. I don't know why you're on a break but... All I have to say is..and this has been my philosophy of handling life itself, just follow your heart ; go back when YOU feel you are READY and 100% comfortable to go back... ...if anyone puts a time limit on your emotions...just kick them in the ass and tell them to grow up. You feel the way you feel for a reason. LHHRS Kevyn @-)-------- edit: QUOTE("") guys, can you explain what exactly goes on in a "break"? is it just like breaking up with the hope of possilby getting back together one day? That's the most common break yes. Breaks are also caused by parents not liking someone, arguments and they need time apart, or the worst case scenario they're just getting tired of seeing each other and need time apart lmao. But there are several reasons why someone goes on a break...emotionally unstable ; the possiblities are endless...just a conjecture though, and based off of experience from my friends. This post has been edited by Kneuklid Romance: Nov 26 2005, 01:19 PM |
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Nov 26 2005, 01:28 PM
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hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
QUOTE(lit0chinagirl @ Nov 26 2005, 1:03 PM) guys, can you explain what exactly goes on in a "break"? is it just like breaking up with the hope of possilby getting back together one day? Well, my boyfriend and I were thinking of going on a break. What that would have entailed was us just not really being together physically (ie, not seeing each other) or not talking as much, etc. We weren't exactly broken up, it was just that we would have needed our own space to do whatever we wanted to do. We wouldn't see other people, and did plan on getting back together once our lives were straightened out. But, luckily, we managed to work things out and didn't go on a break. |
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Nov 26 2005, 10:44 PM
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 Oh the insanity! Group: Member Posts: 53 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 296,302 |
I think it depends on the type of break. Personally though, I hate the idea of a break, especially when you can see other people during the break. A committed relationship shoudn't involve you seeing other people. Sorry if there are any polyamorous people here but being involved with one or more people while you're still in some sort of relationship with another person never seems to work out well at all, at least from what I've seen.
My boyfriend and I have a lot of time apart. We HAVE to since we live interstate from each other. But just because we are getting plenty of space to ourselves and aren't in each others company constantly, it doesn't mean we're having a 'break'. To me, thats just like saying 'well, you're ok but I want to find someone better but if I get bored of looking, I might come back to you' I don't like it. |
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