i broke it off, but im in tears..? Options

[c4rL4]

i broke up with someone.. and i know he really cares for me.
and it just didnt work out cuz it was just like a daily routine for me.
nothing new and i always have to strike up the conversation..
but why am i in tears?

i dont know whys im crying?
im just soo confused and lost.

[Chii]

that's what happens when you break up, you get emotional and in most cases, you cry. just because you broke up with him doesn't mean that you'll be all "woohoo." you cared about him and invested your heart into the relationship but as much as you wanted it to work out, it just didn't...

break ups suck but things will get better

[c4rL4]

thanks. i just dont know what to do. thats all. =\\
i feel soo bad. he's sorta drinkin. .because of me and its makin me guilty.

[Chii]

don't blame yourself for anything he does. you didn't put the alcohol in his hand and force him to drink. you did what you had to do, you left because it wasn't working out anymore. he can't expect you to stick around when it makes you miserable.

i suppose this is how the healing process begins for some guys, my ex did the same thing and i believe that he's taking up smoking. sometimes boys are just so ugh.

[c4rL4]

yeahss. thank you soo much.
im just talkin to him on aim. and im makin him feel better.
just bein there for him as a friend and sayin if he needs anything.
i'll be there. just a friend. =]

soo yeahss.
thanks soo much.

[topsyturvy]

Breakups happen and they relieve you from your pain, relationship-wise.

Then the real pain begins... (DUN DUN DUN..)

I'm kidding But athough it does seem like the end of the world for a while, it'll end. You're in tears because you cared for him (and still do). Perhaps you ended the relationship because you didn't like 80% of what was happening. But the other 20% doesn't just go away.. and you're probably mourning for that right now.

Someday you'll find someone else who'll give it to you 100% Or you might find it quite relaxing and carefree to be single

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

cuz ur a girl ;]

[KissMe2408]

Breakups are always hard, of course you are in tears. But you had a reason to break up with him and even now you said that it wasn't working and all. Just stick to your decision. Don't worry, the tears and hurt is all normal! Over time things will get better, and you might even start to feel relieved that it happened! so don't worry :)

[_sarcastic_]

it's actually completely natural for you to be sad after you broke it off with someone, i mean breaking up isn't a very easy thing to do is it? you obviuosly still have feelings and still care about him, but that takes awhile to get over. you must've a reason on why you broke up with him in the first place, so don't worry, it's not your fault that he started drinking, it's not like you forced him or anything like Chii said.
so cheer up everything's gonna be fine

[coconutter]

Get back with him.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

^ But she didnt want to be with him because it was routine. Did you read the post ?

Its natural to feel sad after a breakup no matter who ended it with who. Its a good thing youre still there for him, and its a good thing youre making it clear as just a friend. In due time, it wont hurt anymore.

[shortiiex]

you do care about him and it's hard breaking up someone you care about him
even though you repeat the same things everyday..you just want something different

[5ayuri]

That happened to one of my friends.
She didn't like him, but when she broke up with him she was the one crying.
Well hope you get better.

[LittleLulu]

its ok..... i cried when i dumped a guy i didn't really even like that much. and i never regretted dumping him either. even when he started going out with my best friend n got really annoying. just dont worry about it. things will soften out.