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 Nov 17 2005, 07:22 PM
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this relationship between me and the guy is quite complicated. lets just keep it simple and say he was once my teacher of some thing. well i found out recently that he has a thing for me. and i kinda like him too. we've been kissing and hugging... and he says he loves me a lot and would wait for me to graduate..
do u think this is right? or nasty? give me some opininons |
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Nov 17 2005, 07:26 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,799 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,450 |
Moved to Relationshipsss
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Nov 17 2005, 07:33 PM
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how old is the teacher?
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Nov 17 2005, 07:38 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
QUOTE(Trumpetman4eva @ Nov 17 2005, 7:33 PM) how old is the teacher?  how old exactly is he? if it's like less than a 12-year gap, then it's alright... |
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Nov 17 2005, 07:43 PM
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hes 24 and im 15
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Nov 17 2005, 07:52 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
QUOTE hes 24 and im 15 uhhh no. He probably just want to use you and all. find someone ur own age. |
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Nov 17 2005, 08:01 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
QUOTE(lilaznb4by @ Nov 17 2005, 7:43 PM) hes 24 and im 15 ouch (well it's less than 12 years). I won't judge your boy friend here. I think love can happen at anytime. But if someone says it's sick and you still want to be with him, be with him (unless your parents say something about it). You should date anyone you want. However, if he pressures you to have sex and you don't want it... just call it quits alright? |
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Nov 17 2005, 08:20 PM
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 Resident Jerk. Is Wade. Respond to PM's! Group: Member Posts: 344 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 289,510 |
Bad news. For your own sake, please reconsider this relationship.
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Nov 17 2005, 08:24 PM
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 you`re undeniable Group: Member Posts: 1,136 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 283,828 |
yea love can happen anywhere... but please be careful. he could easily be a sick man taking advantage. but if you're fine with the consequences and the compromises in the relationship, go for it. but be careful. in the eyes of everyone else, it is wrong.
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Nov 17 2005, 08:53 PM
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he might be taking advantage of you, he might not. just look out for yourself, make sure you don't do anything foolish
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Nov 17 2005, 08:59 PM
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please rethink this relationship. do you trust him enough? do you love him enough?
are you absolutely positive he loves you and isn't using you? |
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Nov 17 2005, 11:16 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(lilaznb4by @ Nov 17 2005, 7:43 PM) hes 24 and im 15 WHOA...honey, there's a reason why things like this are ILLEGAL. this is how these pedophiles get you, they're all nice and get you to trust them then BAM they'll take advantage of your trust and how much you like them and use it against you. back away from the gross man... |
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Nov 17 2005, 11:37 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
What i always say. You cant help what your heart feels/wants/desires.
If you are absolutely positive that he wouldnt take advantage of you, isnt a sicko preying on kids your age, and youre absolutely sure he is worth the risk for what you would say is love then there is a problem [ its illegal ] but you can wait. If he says he will wait for you until you graduate , then maybe he's telling the truth. You never really know. But i recommend you keep things low and be open to more experiences [ meaning try and see if there are any other boys around your age who could mean something to you ] |
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Nov 18 2005, 12:20 AM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
QUOTE(verlorenrivets @ Nov 17 2005, 8:20 PM) Bad news. For your own sake, please reconsider this relationship. I agree. please please reconsider this relationship. First of all it's a huge age difference. It's not good to have a teacher-student relationship, and please don't believe him saying that he loves you. Just because he hugs and kisses you doesn't mean that. I would strongly suggest you break off this relationship fast, and you cut off all contact with him. I don't have a good feeling about this guy. |
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Nov 18 2005, 12:24 AM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
people say age is just a number but....
24 and 15? eckk... hes way to old for you [in my opinion] |
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Nov 18 2005, 12:28 AM
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he just wants some fresh meat.
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Nov 18 2005, 12:31 AM
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 wut wut in the butt? Group: Human Posts: 2,108 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 227,723 |
WAT THE FCUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUK. cradle robber, like ^^^he said he wants some fresh meat lol.
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Nov 18 2005, 12:46 AM
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..isn't it illegal if one person is over 18 and another isn't?
....isn't it also illegal for teacher-student relationships to exist? if it was found out then the teacher would get their license confiscated. its nice to believe in love. but please reconsidor. if hes your teacher and you have a relationship his career as a teacher would end pretty soon. did you watch that episode of Oprah where this 40 year old softball coach seduced a 14 year old girl and raped her? But she thought she was in love....and it was so scary, how he had everything he was gona say and do and at when all planne out....things like this really do happen. so just please be careful. |
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Nov 18 2005, 01:53 AM
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It's definitely a little weird for a 24-year-old to be seriously interested in a 15-year-old, and probably not healthy for either party.
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Nov 18 2005, 02:34 AM
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This is a really questionable situtation. I have been involved with about the same age gap, but he wasn't a teacher. After a while, you really start to notice the age difference. They start wanting more out of the relationship then they suddenly are ready for marriage, but you're still in high school. It's hard. Beyond hard and its confusing. Then they get the hit of the age difference and then it's done. I don't know. I mean, if you really care about him and he feels the same it could possibly work, but from experience, it's not so good. It's just heartache that you could have prevented. Plus he is a teacher. If anyone finds out he can get into alot of trouble. He'll lose his job and possibly get arrest for having relations with a minor/student. I mean, if you're will to take the risk, I gues...go for it.
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Nov 18 2005, 02:41 AM
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clarity: hes my coach.. not teacher teacher and he was always like a brother to me b4 he told me.
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Nov 18 2005, 03:01 AM
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dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(lilaznb4by @ Nov 18 2005, 2:41 AM) clarity: hes my coach.. not teacher teacher and he was always like a brother to me b4 he told me. it doesn't matter what he is. he's 24 and you're 15, no disrespect why would he be interested in you? why not someone who's his age? if he wanted to be your "brother" he wouldn't act like this. he'd look out for you, not come on to you. |
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Nov 18 2005, 04:37 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
^ agreed
I'd say give it a go, but back off immediately when you see signs of him using you. |
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Nov 18 2005, 12:09 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
If you have to ask a bunch of random strangers for tips whether you should date your 25 year old teacher while ur 15, it probally means u dont have the maturity level. Stick to kids your own age, a person in their 25's is like in their prime, hot people left and right, now im not saying u cant be hot but theres gotta be a reason why hes picking a 15 year old over those mature sexy hotties :O
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Nov 18 2005, 02:33 PM
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 hulagurlie413 Group: Member Posts: 83 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 259,963 |
uhh yeah...that's kind of weird. he'll be like almost 30 when you finally turn 18.
haha this reminds me of an episode of degrassi when paige has an affair with her teacher matt...for those who watch the show. |
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Nov 18 2005, 03:26 PM
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i think its best, cause you cant miss what you forget Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 294,893 |
sorry if i offend you or anyone, but this sounds liek bad news. i can understand maybe when you turn 17 or 18 but right now I can't see it being a good situation no matter what.
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Nov 18 2005, 07:17 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
if you've ever read that book that's written in AIM convo format (forgot the title... it's like bright pink with AIM faces on it), then that's what might happen. the teacher seems perfectly nice, but later on...
 you never know.
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