My boyfriend wants to go further... Options

[APseudo]

Hi, my name is Abigail and I thought I'd get some of your guys inputs and opinions..my boyfriend wants to take our relationship a bit further (sex) and I don't know what to do. I'm kind of nervous, too. Would it hurt? I mean, I am kind of horny, too..

[Comptine]

o.O;; to the last part

there are other things a couple can do besides from sex.

yes it hurts for most girls. yes you should use protection. don't do it just cause you want a fix or your boyfriend thinks you should. think if you can handle the consequences if something goes wrong.

[agirlnamed_aly]

^^ Agreed.

Make sure you are both ready, and there are other options besides sex. If you're positive you want to, maybe you should get tested first and always be properly protected. Also - being straight up here - during sex you should be sexually aroused enough not to feel your membrane down south tearing. If you've worn a tampon, it might already have been torn, but if not there is a chance of experiencing some pain.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Shouldnt this be in relationships ?

If youre ready, and you think he should be the one whom you give your virginity, then go ahead and do it. But if your nervous because youre unsure that you want to have sex with him, and go a step farther, then wait until you are ready. If he respects you as a person and as his girlfriend he should understand you dont want to be pushed onto the next step.

[sadolakced acid]

screw your boyfriend.

you can take that either way.

but i recommend doing what you feel you should do, not what anyone else says.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

Lol, sorry, I thought you last statement was funny "im horny too..."Ok, anywho, the fact that you are kind of doubting it should give you some hints that maybe you really don't want it. If you are just scared of pain and only the pain(as in no other doubts because you arent sure of you love him or not), then.....well, your gonna do it sooner or later just depends if you are willing to do it now.

[mzbbc]

it's not really all about the pain, i mean, is he worth it? do you really wanna lose it to this guy? think about it... that's my advice. don't make a decision that seems right at the moment, but one you know you will not look back to and think "wtf was i doing?"

wake up with the right guy at the right time.

[KissMe2408]

The fact that you are posting about your insecurity in this subject should be a sign for you. If you were ready I think it would of happened already, and you wouldn't be asking us if you should.
Don't do it if he is trying to push you into having sex. It's not worth it. He's not worth it. I don't think i've dated a guy that really respected my body...which is a shame. So don't let him pressure you into this.

[gr00vyswordsman]

it's not really all about the pain, i mean, is he worth it? do you really wanna lose it to this guy? think about it... that's my advice. don't make a decision that seems right at the moment, but one you know you will look back to and think "wtf was i doing?"

wake up with the right guy at the right time.

awesomely put!

[silver-rain]

Ok, it says you're 15... that's really young to be having sex (even though people still do it that young.) My brother is 15 and I can't imagine him having sex...
But, if you're not sure if you want to have sex yet, it usually means you aren't ready. You should only have sex if you feel emotionally able to handle whatever will happen after you have sex, especially if you two break up, and if you feel that he is the right guy. Also, your boyfriend should not be pressuring you to have sex, if he does, then you definitely shouldn't give your virginity to him.

[coconutter]

If you feel ready then go for it. Just be aware of the consequences, like STD's, Getting pregnant, using a condom, and AIDS/HIV, Genital Herpes, blah blah blah

[fameONE]

How old are you?

[Ington]

I was going to ask Don's question.

You shouldn't even ask us. Nothing we say is going to influence what you do, unless we tell you you'll die or something.

[_sarcastic_]

only do it with him when you know you're ready don't just do it cause your bf said so or you want to please him
and if you do have sex, use protection

[MiiSZ_P3NGUiiN_x...]

love isn`t always about sex

[NgocQuyen]

wow in your prof it says your 15...hmm...and you're going to risk this one special moment because you're "horny, too"? ARE YOU NUTS?!?!?!?! are you EVEN in love? is he EVEN right for you? how do you know once he gets what he wants he wont leave you?! you crazyy.....if i were you...i would wait it out...

[*xcaitlinx*]

^i was thinking that too.

a lot of guys are dicks and just want sex. how long have you guys been going out? if he's a good boyfriend and is in the relationship for the right reasons, then he won't force you to have sex and will respect your decisions. i

[boobooxpp]

when you are ready + you are positive that you want to lose it to THIS guy. is he worth it? think before you act. he could be fake.

i'd say no till marriage :P

[ParanoidAndroid]

well if you don't want to have sex..then simply say no (who cares if he breaks-up with you for saying no? that jsut means he wants to run your south seas and not because he likes you). but if you do trust him and want sex, remember to get protection... am a virgin so idk anything...but i always hear that it hurts the first time...well like i always say, "Better now than later"

[topsyturvy]

love isn`t always about sex

^ haha.

and you're going to risk this one special moment because you're "horny, too"? ARE YOU NUTS?!?!?!?! are you EVEN in love? is he EVEN right for you? how do you know once he gets what he wants he wont leave you?! you crazyy.....if i were you...i would wait it out...

^ No, she's not nuts or crazy, because if she was, she would have rushed off to her horny boyfriend without second thoughts about asking somebody about it. Relax, dude.

[APseudo]

I love him..but he never said "I love you" back to me..

[Comptine]

then you really shouldn't

[*krnxswat*]

wow you're pathetic

[IIIIIIIIIIIIIIII...]

You're horny thats why you wana have sex with him? tsk tsk, thas a bad idea. Keep in mind about the risks. You're young and not ready enough so dont let your horniness lose your virginity. Once its gone, ITS GONE!!!!!! lol

And i bet you, he will still try to convince you to do it. If he really cares then he should understand you.

[*liquidize*]

omg kris..you just killed the guys chances!

[jEllyBeaNs]

I love him..but he never said "I love you" back to me..

wow!!! that should tell u sumthin. he must want u for one thing. if he cant even tell u he loves you, but he wants to have sex with u, he's just a puNk. DONT DO IT! thats a bunCh of crap!

just tell him you dont want to, its not that hard! like adam sandler says..."You Can DOO ITT"!!! *just say NO lol

[lit0chinagirl]

then forget it.
waking up with the feeling of regret will slowly tear you apart.
don't be stupid-- save yourself.

[APseudo]

I think I'm pregnant....?
I don't know.. Ever since I had sex with my love, I've been throwing up all the food that I've eaten..
What should I do!?

[funbobby]

Girl, you're 15 yeah? At your age most of the girls in my school were pregnant - for the second time. I say it can't hurt doing it once, and if it does then we can only truly learn from our mistakes. Plus its great.
Oh and dont forget, no matter what any one wants to tell you, you cannot get pregnant on your first time and after that as long as you stand up when you're doing it you can't get pregnant. Street fact.

[*not_your_average*]

^Wrong, Bobby. You can get pregnant anytime the sperm and egg come together.

If you think you're pregnant, please, please, PLEASE buy a pregnancy test. Then, tell someone you trust. Tell your parents. If you can't do that, tell your doctor. Tell someone. If you think you're pregnant, buy a pregnancy test. Did you use protection? Even then, GET A PREGNANCY TEST. Protection isn't 100% effective.

If you're pregnant: Think about your options. What do you want to do? Get an abortion? If you do decide that, what would be the laws in your state? Would your parents have to consent to it? If you don't want them finding out, could you go to a judge and ask for permission from him or her?

If you want the baby to live: Consider giving up your baby for adoption. Would you be able to break it to your parents that you are pregnant? Would you be able to carry a baby around for nine months while still going to school? Would you be able to give up your baby after nine months of it being in your body?

Or you could raise it by yourself. Would you be able to drop out of high school? How would your parents react? If you got kicked out of the house, how would you support you and your child? Would your boyfriend bother to pay child support every month?

[coconutter]

If you feel okay with it, then go for it.

I frown upon pre-marital sex though.

[mzbbc]

Girl, you're 15 yeah? At your age most of the girls in my school were pregnant - for the second time. I say it can't hurt doing it once, and if it does then we can only truly learn from our mistakes. Plus its great.
Oh and dont forget, no matter what any one wants to tell you, you cannot get pregnant on your first time and after that as long as you stand up when you're doing it you can't get pregnant. Street fact.

you're so f**king annoying. i thought you left.

[chaoticchrissy]

hmm, don`t do it if you really don`t want to you know, jsut cause its okay for your boyfriend doesnt meen its okay for you.

there are other sexual things you can do if you horny, DUH

[*mipadi*]

Girl, you're 15 yeah? At your age most of the girls in my school were pregnant - for the second time. I say it can't hurt doing it once, and if it does then we can only truly learn from our mistakes. Plus its great.
Oh and dont forget, no matter what any one wants to tell you, you cannot get pregnant on your first time and after that as long as you stand up when you're doing it you can't get pregnant. Street fact.

Did you hear that street fact from some of the girls in your grade?

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

The last part was a bit too much information. But, like the others said. If he's pressuring you and you're not ready. Then don't do it until you're comfortable.