The Girl who hides her Face Options

[ParanoidAndroid]

When you go out of your house to go anywhere... do you put your hair down to cover up your face?

I know this girl in my school. She's just your typical goth but she's real nice. Her hair is beautifully dark black (and she hi-lights it with orange, or red, or pink) and she has brown eyes. Her skin is extremely pale from lack of going out to the sun. Her hair is about shoulder length and everytime I see her outside of her house, she would hide her face with her hair.

I can barely remember what her face looks like. She rarely shows it. When I ask her why, she doesn't answer.

After a few weeks of meeting her (she recently moved), I was invited over her house. Once there, she pulls back her hair and brushes it back to show her face. I was extremely awed cuz i just found out how pretty she looks. Damn if I can only describe it ...I was like, "Why do you always hide your face? You look so pretty." (I means seriously she f**king got made fun of for hiding her face)

Before she can answer, her mom came. Her mom was f***ing scary. She looked drunk and was in a hangover. Her eyes were bulging red and and whenever she moved, she looked like she was gonna trip. Then her mom looked at me (damn was I scared). She was like, "Who the f**k is this?" and my friend was like, "She's a friend." And her mom replied, "Well talk about shit if you want but make sure she gets her ass outta here by 4 and get your ugly ass to the bathroom and clean it. It's f**king filthy"



I was so f**king scared. I bet my friend was mad embarrased cuz she hid her face again by putting her hair down (I can't believe her mom called her ugly). Once we got into her room, she cried so f**king much I felt bad. She was like, "My mom wasn't always like this. She used to be so nice until my dad left her for someone else. Ever since then, she's been like this." Then her mom called out from downstairs, "Hey stupid ass, did you do your homework?"





First of all, she's not a stupid ass, she f**king gets A's all the time (there was never a time when I see her with any grade lower than A+).

I also went to the "filthy" bathroom and was awed to see how clean it was...JESUS CHRIST IT WAS f**king CLEAN... Then I found out how hard she tries to impress her mother. She hides her face because she thinks she's ugly, she doesn't contribute to class because she thinks she's stupid, she cleans her whole house because she thinks it's dirty, and she slits her wrists because she thinks her mother doesn't want her there.

Recently she got egged a lot in halloween and i made a promise to be for her all the time. I put my hair down in school and got made fun of. I made sure she never felt unwanted and shit.

man do you guys know a way I can like help her? She barely smiles anymore nor laughs. She cries in the mornings of school and never goes outside in the weekends. She's become my best friend and i am soooooo worried. I try so hard to tell her how much she is wanted and how her life is worth more than anyone else's. But now, she skips school. She was sent to the hospital (her slits apparently got serious), and her skin is craking from not getting any sunlight. I feel so bad for her, I really need advice on what to do...

*edit*

call child protection services. nobody should be exposed to that sort of treatment.

apparently, she's trying hard to impress her mother to proove to her she is a perfect daughter

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Wow. that is horrible.

I think you should just do anytyhing you can to help her. Stay by her side and be her friend and do whatever you can to motivate her and make her happy. Try all you can to make her realize she is beautiful and wanted and loved. Her mom should think about seeking counseling for the drinking and things.

[KissMe2408]

Can I just say, that what you just said almost made me cry. I was sitting here reading with my mouth hanging open. There are girls in the world like this who are being treated like crap and no one cares. She puts her hair infront of her face because she feels ashamed, ugly, not good enough....Probably because of what her mother says to her and her father leaving. I used to be just like her. I even put my hair infront of my face...I can understand with her skipping out on school too. As a friend the best thing you can do for her is just be there for her. Go out of your way to show her that you do care. Talk to her. Listen to her. Pray for her. Keep encouraging her and bring her up with words. I wish i could help her or talk to her. Man :( You should get her outta that house too, take her outside in the sunlight. Let it just be you two at first, maybe at the park or something? But just be there for her, because she needs a friends, and it sounds like you are a good one to her. Stick up for her. Be a light to her.

[*suddenly she*]

call child protection services. nobody should be exposed to that sort of treatment.

[*Solipsist*]

Damnit. This is frustrating.
I wanna make her smile, but I can't.

- Solipsist

[*jooleeah*]

Damn.

All I can say is be there for her. She seems like she needs a friend whom she can trust. Try taking her places, so she doesn't have to go back to all that yelling/screaming in her home. Make her feel loved...make her realize that she's beautiful, inside and out. Overall, just be a good friend. Hopefully things will get better for her soon.

askfhs i wish i knew her.

[coconutter]

Defend her from anyone who makes fun of her at school. Convince her she's wanted and needed.

[ParanoidAndroid]

aww you guys are sweet...i recently got early tickets to see all-american rejects this week and warped tour for next summer... sure it's gonna be long but it's worth a try... plus i'm skipping school with her and taking a walk around a block (but she needs to wear a lot of protective clothes because her skin is very sensitive to sun lgiht)

call child protection services. nobody should be exposed to that sort of treatment.

apparently, she's trying hard to impress her mother to proove to her she is a perfect daughter

Damnit. This is frustrating.
I wanna make her smile, but I can't.

- Solipsist

it;'s REALLY hard to see her smile. The only time I saw her smile when her dad visited and took her to a shopping spree. But the thing is, they can only see each other once a year (for a day) from court order...her mom accused him of child abuse and she won the case

[silver-rain]

Wow, that's horrible. I think you should talk to an adult about this. Make sure she feels cared for and loved. Just be there for her whenever she needs it, etc.

[aera]

you could take another case up to court with her mother and accuse her of child abuse. then maybe your friend can live with her father.

for the time being, take her out every weekend, if possible, talk to her, and just be there for her.

[Lightner]

whowa.. thats intense... i feel really bad for her... its like a story with no good ending, at least not yet. You should help her find ways to get away from her mom maybe...

[demolished]

Jesus Christ. Rare mankind. Anyways, there's only you that would brighten her up. I mean, she's your bestfriend right ? treasure her to realize that she's special and not pathetic. I'm glad you're willing to help her out. =) However, just be careful with her mom. She sounds scary and evil. Well, you can make up jokes and make her laugh ...hm. The point is to simle alot to get her to simle and laugh.

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its good that you care about others feelings =)
thats a great thing
i think you should be there for her and show her that you are and you want to help her

[ParanoidAndroid]

^aww thanks you guys... i'm gonna get her a christmas present from hot topic...she hasn't gotten any since her dad visited...alright and welcome to CB

[_suzie_]

ok, you need to keep talkin to her. dont let her slip!!

ask her round to your house at weekends and take her to the cinema/shopping on saturdays or something. it'll boost her confidence and maybe it'll help her enjoy life a bit better. this is real bad, i know a kid like this but not as bad. tell her how much u wana help her, ask her to ur house for dinner n stuff. tell her not to listen to that crap her mum says to her

this will deffo boost her confidence, try and get her out a little bit more.

[malimars]

U gotta get her out of that house and fast before worst things happen like suicide she needs to get away from her mother till her mother learns shes her daughter not her f**king slave what so ever no child should be treated like that...if shes gone for a bit her mother will most likely realize what she had you never realize wut u have till its actually gone and i dont mean GONE as in dead but thats what it could lead to.....Convince her to move with you or something till things get better do something for her..it seems like u might be the only one who can do something before it gets to late

[xmkaex]

her mom should go to counseling and let her anger out there..
people who let their anger get in the way of their children are not good parents
..or sometimes she should talk to her mom.. it maybe difficult...but its a beginning of a fresh new start..then maybe things will get better

have self-confidence in yourself...even when others put you down

[ParanoidAndroid]

^Yeah, right now, I'm risking my friendship by trying to counsel with her mom.

[angelrevelation]

try to make a deal with her to not hide her face for an... hour. see how it goes. and you'll... dress goth in exchange! (unless you are already but...)

i think you should go to the school counselor. and bring her to hang out with your other friends, maybe just 1 or 2 at a time so it's not so uncomfortable.

but most importantly just be there for her (of course you are already... which is great). but you seem like the only person she can count on right now. so try to bring her out to do fun stuff- shopping, park, concert, etc. and she'll see that it isn't that bad to be 'out there'.

[NgocQuyen]

^aww thanks you guys... i'm gonna get her a christmas present from hot topic...she hasn't gotten any since her dad visited...alright and welcome to CB

awwhs its good to see that you care about your friend so much..seeing you do so seriously makes my heart ache..lols....it makes me think of me and my friends and sometimes i wish someone cared about me like that you're a good person..hehe you should get her something from hot topic, but maybe you could surprise her a bit and add some color to her? hahah....she's obviously gorgeous...perhaps you could influence her somehow..

[ParanoidAndroid]

^aww if you want I'll be your internet friend! Friends are genuine presents of life. They help you know the joy of living in this world. I want to cherish all my friends! That's why I care about her so much. Sometimes, it's for a selfish reason, but I want her to be happier than I am. It's unfair to think that I am complaining about my life when all she's doing is trying to make it better.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

That is very tricky, I say be there for her. Stand up for her when she gets picked on. Listen to her when she needs someone to talk to. And in the meantime maybe schedule an appointment for her to see the school councler (sp?) well find something she likes to do and do them with her.

[ParanoidAndroid]

try to make a deal with her to not hide her face for an...  hour.  see how it goes.  and you'll... dress goth in exchange!  (unless you are already but...)

i think you should go to the school counselor.  and bring her to hang out with your other friends, maybe just 1 or 2 at a time so it's not so uncomfortable.

but most importantly just be there for her (of course you are already... which is great).  but you seem like the only person she can count on right now.  so try to bring her out to do fun stuff- shopping, park, concert, etc. and she'll see that it isn't that bad to be 'out there'.

LOL I already dress in goth, I'm trying to look more extreme to be there for her though. And I am making my sponsor, sponsor her too so we can go to skateboarding competitions. thanks you guys!

[xmkaex]

i dunno why but i think the reason why her mom treats her that way is because maybe when she looks at her daughter she sees her husband...and all the pain comes rushing back

[ParanoidAndroid]

Yeah the thing is, they don't look alike. None of them. it's just that her personality is mroe of her dad's than her mom

[Soleil]

Omgosh thats soo weird at school last year this girl would do the SAME thing. Cover her face with her hair. Until recently she became goth and got a hair cut..so now she shows her face. I still dont know why she was hidding it in the first place it makes me sad seeing girls hidding themselves because they think theyre ugly.

[boobooxpp]

that's a horrible thing. you should go do her hair or something that'll let her keep her hair from her face (braiding......curling......and such) +be like, "if you don't keep it like this, i will be angry!!" of course, not in a mean way..but...you get it, rite? lols