Is he really worth it?, friend problems over a guy Options

[*~*SHy*~*]

Note: Sorry, this is a very long story


Two weeks after school started my friend who is a freshmen in highschool started liking this Junior guy. For the sake of this story my friend name is Eliza and the guy name is Shaun. Ok any how, she barely knew him and all of a sudden she considered him her prince charming, and kept saying how she is in love with him. At first he had feelings but they were not at the same levels as her. According to him they had a bet to see who was going to ask who out first, and that they were only friends. But to her, she considered him her boyfriend and was all over him. Since this was her first time with a guy she didn’t really know what to do or react to certain doings. From what i heard from him, he had been in a few relationships in the past, and was more advance than her mentally, emotionally and sexually. Then one random day i went over her house to talk about her relationship with him and how she wanted to go further. We went out side to talk and he was walking home from school; she invited him to stay. So from that moment on, she started pushing him towards me, and i start getting the feeling that he liked me. Then a week later both of them and a couple of my other friends went to play football. On that day something came over me, and i was flirting and cuddling with him. My friend Eliza got mad and just left. I went after her and told her i had no feelings towards him whatsoever. She forgave me and gave me a second chance. Then over the week i started developing feelings for him, and i did my best to avoid telling her about this. Until recently when i told her about this. I told her that i was sorry about this all, and that i never really meant for anything to happen. I been thinking that i should just leave him/ end this because no friend is worth losing over a guy. I told her that being detach from people is not going to solve anything. She told me that her detachment from people left her unemotional and she just wants someone to love her. I believe that this who problem just got out of hands and is so immature. Now the problem is that she ending our friendship over him? Should i stay and build a relationship with him, or should i leave him and try to rebuild the friendship?

[_sarcastic_]

well if you think he's worth losing a friend over then go for it.
but she should be glad that you told her the truth and that you had feelings for him. she doesn't realized she's losing a friend over a guy she barely knows

[sadolakced acid]

he's not worth it, trust me.

[silver-rain]

Well, I don't think he's worth it. Friends are usually worth more than boyfriends, since boyfriends can come and go while friends stay with you forever.

[HelplessCry]

She wants to break up with you? Because of some guy!? is that what your basically saying...well if shes a true friend she wouldnt need a guy to make her feel loved and that your enough as a friend to make her feel loved. And you can't help it when love falls into your lap. It just happens. she should understand that, it happened to her. But I think this is so childish no offence but its true what these other people are saying on how, friends are forever... but sometimes you do lose friends... and thats just how life is.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Well, it all really depends on who youd want in your life in the longrun.

That saying " Boys may come and go but your girls are forever " is stupid and sometimes wrong. Smoe of your friends may backstab talk shit and not even like you sometimes, While boys may be the ones who would stick by your side through it all.

So i guess it all comes down to who you value more in your life. Shaun, or Eliza.

[ParanoidAndroid]

you know... i wonder why people try to preserve friendship with people who can't even trust you or vise versa

i mean it's not like you're gonna stay together until college

maybe you can

but it's not likely