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 Oct 31 2005, 07:31 PM
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 <3  Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493  |
ok..more bf problems but this time it's scaring me
what happens if you find out that your bf looks at porn but he claims he doesn't? how would you react, or ask him my bf does, like i saw his xanga subscriptions(i was looking for my friend's site cause i forgot what it was) i clicked on a few and they turned out to be like p*rn-ish pics.. i want to ask him about it but don't know how to bring it up |
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Oct 31 2005, 07:57 PM
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 A.K.A. Simplicityxx Group: Member Posts: 1,878 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,813 |
Well, its normal for a guy to look at porn. If he claims that he doesn't, maybe hes too shy to admit it to you?
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Oct 31 2005, 08:31 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
yeah i know guys look at porn, i can accept that, but the fact that he was like NOOOO I'M NOT GOING TO LOOK AT PORN, I PROMISE YOU. and he was like it's really disgusting, trust me i won't look at porn.
i just wanna make sure he is, but dont know how to ask |
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Oct 31 2005, 08:34 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
Maybe thats from when he did look at porn and hes outgrown that ?
Well just casually ask him about those sites. For an excuse just say you were browsing and came across that site on his or something and ask playfully " i thought you said you didnt like porn` ? " or something. |
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Oct 31 2005, 09:43 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
well maybe he doesn't know that ur okay with him looking at porn?
make sure that its clear to him thats your okay with it. maybe he is just sorta embarrissed to admitt that he looks at porn or maybe hes really telling you the truth. does he share his comp with other ppl? like an older brother or something? theres always the possibility that hes telling you the truth. after all, innocent until proven guilty, right? |
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Oct 31 2005, 11:06 PM
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 unrequited love Group: Member Posts: 1,007 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,788 |
yeah if he really is your boyfriend then he wouldnt lie to you... but at the same time you should ask him confront him say to him that if you want a true relationship we should be honest with each other. don't make to to rash on saying i found porn stuff and what not because then he'd probably think that you went snooping around. but its the number one thing in a relationship trust. =/ if thiers no trust thiers no love i say... hope it works out.
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Nov 1 2005, 06:21 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i guess you guys are right, but he has lied to me before
no he doesn't share the comp with anyone else, he doesn't have a brother. i'lljust wait and see i guess |
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Nov 1 2005, 10:14 AM
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I highly doubt he'd admit to looking at porn, especially to you. I don't really see what the big deal is. So the guy looks at porn but isn't proud about it--big deal.
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Nov 1 2005, 11:32 AM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
its normal, hell I look @ them and my BFgets mad at me for it lol but it doesnt matter. its called freedom, he can look at porn if he want, he just betta watch it wit me
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Nov 1 2005, 11:33 AM
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Actually porn addictions (assuming he has one) have been known to ruin relationships, especially if the partners is in denial so it is kind of a big deal. I really only see it as a problem if it stands in the way of the relationship. Like he is watching porn most of the day and isnt productive in doing anything else or he'd rather watch is porn that spend with you (some porn addictions have gone that far). Pretty much he lives, breathes, sleep porn. Most guys are casual porn watchers and dont like letting their girlfriends on that they watch it because a lot of females find porn offensive. And if the latter is the case, then yes, of course he'll deny it. There are signs of porn addictions you can look for in your partner, just google for some more information if you think its the case. I kind of doubt it may be an actual addiction but the possiblity still exists.
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Nov 1 2005, 11:56 AM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
egh, personally i hate guys that look at porn. (so i guess i should just state i hate guys in general, haha) no but i know there is a guy out there that isn't into porn or sex or anything. i want a guy that is pure. i know that might sound crazy to you. But i want a guy that will respect me, and there aren't many guys out there that understand that, you know?
If i were you, i would probably bring it up to him, and bring up the fact that he kinda lied to you about it. I mean i understand that alot of guys won't admit to looking at porn or something, but still...i think you deserve a guy that doesn't have to lie about it you know? |
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Nov 1 2005, 04:04 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
QUOTE(KissMe2408 @ Nov 1 2005, 11:56 AM) egh, personally i hate guys that look at porn. (so i guess i should just state i hate guys in general, haha) no but i know there is a guy out there that isn't into porn or sex or anything. i want a guy that is pure. i know that might sound crazy to you. But i want a guy that will respect me, and there aren't many guys out there that understand that, you know?  i know what you mean. i guess i'm just being paranoid |
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Nov 1 2005, 06:25 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
Guys who look at porn , its normal even I ( a female ) do it.
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Nov 1 2005, 08:00 PM
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to hell with you Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 |
just go: HAH, YOU LOOK AT PORN!
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Nov 1 2005, 09:35 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
it's just porn
it's like asking do you maturbate..you don't really want to say yes if you do he's probably just embrassed to say he watches porn |
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Nov 15 2005, 05:56 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(KissMe2408 @ Nov 1 2005, 11:56 PM) egh, personally i hate guys that look at porn. (so i guess i should just state i hate guys in general, haha) no but i know there is a guy out there that isn't into porn or sex or anything. i want a guy that is pure. i know that might sound crazy to you. But i want a guy that will respect me, and there aren't many guys out there that understand that, you know? Yeah, i know. For some reason it bothers me. I don't know why. |
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Nov 15 2005, 09:27 PM
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 "my girls rock balenciaga and smoke mad marijuana" Group: Member Posts: 2,089 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,049 |
learn to look past that; if he really liked you ... he staying with you.. if he liked those pictures more..he woulda left you by now. i had that same problem.
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Nov 16 2005, 05:11 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
it's just porn.
 he probably just doesn't want you to know, and lying about watching porn isn't that big of a deal. and if you "accuse" him or ask him about watching porn, he'll probably just tell you that you were snooping around on his computer. |
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Nov 16 2005, 02:59 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 96 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,877 |
mabe he didnt want to hurt your feelings and he was embaresst about it he didnt want to tell you? Its natural for guys to look at porn.. but yeh.. If it really bothers you then mabe you should tell him? I mean, i know where your comming from with your concerns because i wouldnt be happy if i found out my guy was looking at it..
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Nov 16 2005, 03:05 PM
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 Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
....if I were a girl I'd be very upset if my BF looked at it...
I guess paranoia comes to mind because either the guy isn't very satisfied with the relationship or he isn't very happy over-all with himself or with the girlfriend / the sex-life. Yes, I'm a male and I don't need to look at it...I have enough with my own GF... ^_____^. LHHRS Kevyn @-)-------- |
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Nov 16 2005, 03:46 PM
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i think its best, cause you cant miss what you forget Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 294,893 |
i dont think i'd be upset...i can understand it because in my opinion boys will be boys and if anything you shoudl just talk to him about it.
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Nov 16 2005, 03:54 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
hahaha its normal for guys to look at porn..but if you want to ask him....just be like I KNOW YOU DO IT YOU LITTLE FART DONT LIE!!! hahah..make sure you let him know that you dont mind him looking at porn just ADMIT to it!
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Nov 16 2005, 05:41 PM
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 you`re undeniable Group: Member Posts: 1,136 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 283,828 |
well all guys look at porn occasionally. it's normal. it's actually more weird if they don't.
 don't even worry about it, unless he's addicted or something... then you could bring it up. |
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Nov 16 2005, 08:16 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
I don't have a problem with people looking at porn. I used to but not anymore.
and besides, it's JUST porn... i agree with Shortiiex... it's just something personal... maybe it;s better not to ask him? If he;s embarrassed about it, he might get upset that you're eavesdropping... |
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