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post Oct 22 2005, 10:48 AM
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I asked this girl out and our first date is a group date for the mall and a movie, I dunno if it's okay to put my arm around her or anything? Since it's only the first date and all...Any help?
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 11:14 AM
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Yeah, that seems okay. I mean, she's going with you because she likes you, so I'm sure she won't mind a bit of physical contact.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 11:32 AM
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depends on your age i would say.

middle school, no

high school, holding hands

upperclassman high school and up, sure

although since it's a group thing it might make everyone uncomfortable.

so do it in the movie theatre.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 11:41 AM
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Yeah, were both 15 freshman. But age is but a number.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 11:45 AM
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Well, you're only putting your arm around her. It's not a big deal. I think you're pretty safe.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 11:45 AM
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lol well i say yes, as long as she knows and fully understands its a date. not juss another average group activity

like my friends weill always be like wanna go to the movies with me.. and i think.. a date?!?!?!? then hes like everyones gonna be there.. then im like phewf lol < kinda random lol

well i say go for it, theres nothing wrong with showing affection and if she looks uncomfortable stop lol
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 03:21 PM
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Yeah, if she knows that it's going to be a date, I think it's perfectly find if you hold her hand in the mall and then put your arm around her when watching the movie.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 03:47 PM
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It's okay to do put your arm around her, but when the movie is on, and it's dark.
You can do that outside, but she has to give you the hint that it is okay.
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post Oct 22 2005, 03:53 PM
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the thing is it's with a group, which more signals casual date.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 04:20 PM
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it IS a date...
but its in a group....

if she knows its a DATE then i guess it doesn't matter that much. but its just that fact that ur in a group that might be weird for the other kids. i say for the first date just be you and dont try anything. if she likes you enough to go on a date with you then she likes you enough to go on a 2nd date.....alone. THATS when u make your move.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 04:48 PM
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It depends how she wants to take it. Does she want to take it slow or wouldn't mind picking it up a notch. If she takes things slow then stick to giving her lots of attention and if not go ahead.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 06:37 PM
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well lets see... last week i was at the movies... my gf didntt care that my arm was around her (7 other people were with us) and well she layed her head on my shoulder... i didnt mind.. she didnt either lol, but my arm was hella tired XD... im 14.. so ya.. 8th grade..
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 07:13 PM
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QUOTE(Lightner @ Oct 22 2005, 7:37 PM)
well lets see... last week i was at the movies... my gf didntt care that my arm was around her (7 other people were with us) and well she  layed her head on my shoulder... i didnt mind.. she didnt either lol, but my arm was hella tired XD... im 14.. so ya.. 8th grade..
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Yeah but that's your girlfriend.


I think it's okay if she knows that it's a date and not some sort of "hanging out" thing like with friends. And other people will be there so don't do it yeah...
I don't know.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 07:31 PM
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QUOTE(sadolakced acid @ Oct 22 2005, 1:53 PM)
the thing is it's with a group, which more signals casual date.
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this one couple at my school are.. well going out. but they almost broke up cuz the man of the couple never wanted to hold her hand at school. she was afraid he was embarrassed to be with her or sumthing =/ still your situation isnt as serious cuz its only your first date lol

besides, if i had a bf, id want them to hold my hand =)
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 07:41 PM
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QUOTE(sadolakced acid @ Oct 22 2005, 4:53 PM)
the thing is it's with a group, which more signals casual date.
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Well, he's not asking if he should make out with her or put his hand up her shirt. Putting your arm around a girl is pretty casual, after all.
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 08:01 PM
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aww. kudos for having the guts to ask her out on a date(:

i'm sure putting your arm around her would be fine
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 08:10 PM
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i think its alright if you put your arms around her or something...but i dont think there should be a big make out session...i dont think thats appropriate for a first date...and even a group date...but you know thats just my opinion biggrin.gif
 
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post Oct 22 2005, 10:33 PM
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Yeah, thanks guys, I'm a bit more conservative than to kiss on the first date unless the situation is different.

I held her hand and put my arm around her, and it was a great night ^______^

Thanks guys.
 
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post Oct 23 2005, 07:02 AM
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Yeah, just do it, if the girl likes you she really likes it if her date puts her arm around her, i know :P
Glad to hear you had a great night!
 
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post Oct 23 2005, 03:41 PM
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I think it depends on the girl.... I once asked someone out on a date and on our first date she really didn't like that I put my arms around her... yawn.gif she wanted to hold hands instead happy.gif ... so yea i think it depends on the person ask them first...
 
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post Oct 23 2005, 03:47 PM
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aww you sound like you had an awesome date! im glad everything went well and she liked the whole holding hands bit lol =)
now if sumone would juss ask me out _dry.gif LOL!
 
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