friends, trying to fit in with a group Options

[timeflies51]

Alright, here's the deal.

There's a nice-sized group of people that hang out together, and I've been trying to fit in with that group. I'm pretty acquainted with most of them, and I get along with them rather well. They seem to like me, yet ever time someone holds a party I'm not invited.

I've been trying to fit in with this group ever since last year, because the old group I used to hang out with has pretty much broken apart. (I still talk with most of them, though, but it's not the same as it used to be.) However, one guy we all used to hate is suddenly accepted and invited to parties! But me, who has been trying much longer and knows most of them better than he ever did, is not.

Sometimes I wonder if they truly like me. Sometimes I wonder if they're all putting on a kind mask when they talk to me, and in truth they dislike me. Sometimes I get that vibe. I've lightly brought up the subject to a couple of people, but I always get response like, "Yeah..." and stuff like that. So I don't know.

I'm holding a party for most of this group next month, hopefully to strengthen some friendships. But I just don't know what the deal is, because if they really don't like me then I have very few friends.

Any thoughts on this?

[dreamerfreak22]

hmm I think the party is a good idea. just try and build a better relationship with them.. not all at once, maybe one or two people at a time.

hope you figure it out,
~Blu*

[Ington]

You're trying to.. fit in with a group? Err.

I'll tell you why the other kid you all used to hate got 'accepted'. Its because he wasn't part of some group, and could be close with everyone at once. Also, karma-wise, you followed the trend and hated some kid, now its your turn to not be invited to anything and whatnot.

I still have never heard about someone who wants to be a follower in a group.

[fallen_angel1137]

I agree with having a party and inviting the "friends". Hopefully after yours, you'll get invited to more of their outings. I really don't know what to say but maybe don't try so hard. I'd just kinda go with the flow and see what happens...if they come and talk to you, invite you places, etc. or if you're just forgotten, - you'll definitely find out who you're "true" friends are.

[ParanoidAndroid]

Maybe they don't accept you as a close friend yet... been there done that kinda thing... and one day you'll realize it's not worth it

[*mipadi*]

If you find you are really not fitting in with a group, experience has told me that it's best to find a group that you do fit in well with, rather than trying to make the fit happen.

[megan_x3]

Don't try to fit in a group that you don't belong in. It just brings rumours that your a wannabe .. and bad things will happen. Find a group you belong in and comfortable in. You'll just make yourself uncomfortable.

[AngryBaby]

You're trying to.. fit in with a group? Err.

I'll tell you why the other kid you all used to hate got 'accepted'. Its because he wasn't part of some group, and could be close with everyone at once. Also, karma-wise, you followed the trend and hated some kid, now its your turn to not be invited to anything and whatnot.

I still have never heard about someone who wants to be a follower in a group.

im with you ariel, why would you wanna try to fit in with some random group?
dont you know it makes you come off as some nerd with no friends trying to follow people you think is cool? i remember when with my particular "group" of friends, one time this one kid just randomly started trying to hang out with us, and we were like, what the hell lol but we would still be nice to him and not completely ignore him. and he probably thought he "knew us so well" haha. sounds like a familiar situation with you. not to be mean.

[starburst-addict]

don't try to fit in..be yourself...they accepted that guy you all hate because he was himself and..yeah..if you really want to hang out with them then do the party thing, but i would just go to "another group".

[ParanoidAndroid]

Don't hang out with that group anymore.
It makes you seem desperate
They'll just think you're weird if you try harder to be with them

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Have the party if you want.

But Eff that group of kids. Dont try to so hard to fit in. If yu have a feeling they dont accept you , find people who will. People who you have to try and please in order to keep friends with arent really all that great to be friends with. Believe me, i went through the same thing. Ive given this advice a lot, You should just be care-free. Make friends with everyone and just have fun. People will come to you and want to be your friend since yu seem so carefree fun and just like a great person.

[o0olaalaa]

Maybe you should start your own awesome group =)