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 Oct 10 2005, 09:40 PM
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 Kuki Nakamarua - AKA Bobby Lee  Group: Member Posts: 447 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,812  |
i have a girlfriend see.and im walking my best friend to class.i always call girls beautiful and i compliment them and i always carry my best friends book. and watch over her...u know....when someone touch her....i kick thier azz....do u think thats cheating....
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| *RiC3xBoy* |
Oct 10 2005, 09:44 PM
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No, but it is kinda dancing around it.(as in the compliments and stuff)
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Oct 10 2005, 11:11 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
QUOTE(RiC3xBoy @ Oct 10 2005, 10:44 PM) No, but it is kinda dancing around it.(as in the compliments and stuff)  I agree. I think if you have a girlfriend, you should only be calling her beautiful. |
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Oct 11 2005, 02:32 AM
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 hulagurlie413 Group: Member Posts: 83 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 259,963 |
well...i dunno that's kind of a hard one. i mean, honestly like what the others are saying, you should only be calling your girlfriend beautiful, but yeah...if you have to compliment another girl, don't let your girlfriend hear it in case she's the jealous type.
like for me, i get mad when i hear my boyfriend call another girl "beautiful" especially if he uses the word "hot" cuz idk it just makes me jealous (unless it's about a celebrity cuz i know he has no chance with her). sorry if what i said sounds bitchy; i was just being honest. |
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Oct 11 2005, 04:04 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
^ No, that wasn't bitchy at all. In fact that's probably how most girls feel
 And.. whoa. Step away from other girls. Your best friend is one thing, but calling others "beautiful" is another. It's not cheating but it can piss your gf off a lot. |
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Oct 11 2005, 06:24 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
^i agree. i would be really pissed off if my bf did that, i mean shouldn't that word be reserved for someone more special? the carrying of books and taking care of her is fine, after all she's your best friend. just dont compliment like other girls too much.
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Oct 11 2005, 06:44 PM
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I think that if you really love your girlfriend then you should makesure that she is the most important. Its cool n all if you are close with your best friend but just make sure that things don't go too far.
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Oct 11 2005, 09:39 PM
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 :] Group: Member Posts: 86 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 162,876 |
well usually when you hav a girlfriend
and a girl best friend drama starts to happen all i can say is that it's not cheating unless you're doing all that stuff for ur best friend because you really like her or something but it seems like you dont so ur gf should know that ur best friend is like a little sister to you the only thing wrong is dont call girls beautiful except ur own girl cuz she'll start to get jealous and all this ddrama occurs |
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Oct 11 2005, 11:43 PM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
QUOTE(RiC3xBoy @ Oct 10 2005, 9:44 PM) No, but it is kinda dancing around it.(as in the compliments and stuff) lol i couldn't agree more. I mean it's all nice that you protect your best friend and carry her books, i mean ok that's nice. But when you walk around the halls and call other girls beautiful and compliment them all the time...eh....if i was your girlfriend i would probably be jealous. I mean girls like to know that you only see them. you know? So i would advise you to probably stop doing that. |
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Oct 11 2005, 11:46 PM
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 <33 Group: Member Posts: 2,745 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,234 |
that seems like just flirting to me.
...but it may be just a compliment. just remember to not over do it. expecially in front of your girlfriend. that's where drama starts. and that could ruin your relationship. |
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Oct 12 2005, 06:00 AM
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 after all that we've been through... you know we're cool Group: Member Posts: 161 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 253,691 |
I dont let any male friends call me beautiful unless I am feeling down and they said it to cheer me up. I think it is not cheating but definitely a matter of relationship ettiquette.
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Oct 12 2005, 07:08 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
No it's not cheating. Cheating would be banging/kissing/getting serious with another girl. You're just being an overprotective and caring best friend
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Oct 13 2005, 12:44 AM
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@ngel_Lynn Group: Member Posts: 158 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 205,612 |
not cheating man but i would get seriously jelous if my boyfriend called another girl beautiful. yeah your a goodfriend, but still got to think about your girl too.
and yeah i agree with someone who said up top that its all about relationship ettiquette |
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Oct 13 2005, 12:48 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 650 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 84,519 |
Unfortunately, we live in a world where men and women can't be friends.
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Oct 13 2005, 04:30 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
oyeah i want to add to what i said...
if you spend more time caring for your best friend than your gf... well i'd be jealous if i were your gf... try to treat your gf more important than your best friend although you should treat them equally |
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Oct 14 2005, 09:35 PM
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 banangst ♥ Group: Member Posts: 727 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 237,399 |
QUOTE(eunie03 @ Oct 12 2005, 9:48 PM) Unfortunately, we live in a world where men and women can't be friends. Mhmmmmm. it's not cheating. but i would get pretty jealous and etc. and if you walk and carry your best friend's books to class more than you do so for your girlfriend.. she has the right to be mad. and i would absolutely hate it if he complements another girl beautiful. |
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Oct 15 2005, 02:40 AM
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Kuki Nakamarua - AKA Bobby Lee Group: Member Posts: 447 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,812 |
im spend more time with my best friend then with my girl.its cuz i have no classes with her.cuz we in different grade,harhar.we always helpin each other out.my best friend is really special to me.the best one i ever had.omg....i hate when she embaresses me too.she always makin me spend more time with my girl which is something good.to me,best friends come first than girlfriend,am i right?i mean,if u would choose your best friend or your girlfriend,who would it be?ill try to hang with her and my best friend.im going to introduce them to each other which i never have a chance to do and they always see each other but like.....barley look or talk.......this reminds me of Lizzie mcguire....u know,miranda,lizzie,gordo......heh,i hated that show,kinda concited.the difference with my life and lizzie mcguire is im sexier than gordo and my girls are more beautiful...
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Oct 15 2005, 04:03 AM
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 Physical Challenge Group: Member Posts: 181 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 264,490 |
Compliments are cool, so long as that's all they are. You don't have any feelings beyond friendship, so there's no problem. Also, it's understandable if your girlfriend can't understand that, but you should ask her to try and if she refuses or just simply won't try, then she's not worth it. You seem like a sweet enough kid that you shouldn't have to choose between your best friend who is a girl and a girl that you won't date for the rest of your life. Although, thinking of it in that sense makes the decision easy, right?
I hope that helped. And umm... ignore my display picture when you read this, it takes away from the sincerity of it... haha. Good luck! =D |
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Oct 15 2005, 11:39 AM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
^
 Mr. Bunnell boy are you wise... i never thought of it that way |
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Oct 15 2005, 06:40 PM
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 j'adore =) Group: Member Posts: 723 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 107,848 |
QUOTE(brownsugar08 @ Oct 11 2005, 6:23 AM) Well...the calling other girls beautiful and stuff--I know that would work my nerves, so it's probably working hers. You might want to chill out with that. But I don't see anything wrong with holding your best friend's books/looking out for her. ^ my thoughts exactly. if my boyfriend was off complimenting every girl he could i'd probly get a bit irritated too. but what you're doing is definitely not cheating by my standards. just tone down with all the 'beautifuls' |
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Oct 15 2005, 07:13 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
Break up with your gf...sounds like you don't like her that much
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Oct 15 2005, 08:54 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
No, you're not cheating. You will be if those compliments turn into actions though.
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Oct 15 2005, 08:56 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 2 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 267,207 |
um, i would get pissed if my ex (well when i was going out with him) called another girl beautiful...
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Oct 16 2005, 03:00 AM
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Physical Challenge Group: Member Posts: 181 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 264,490 |
You're all so possessive. Not wanting your boyfriend to comment on the way he views another person is one thing, but getting mad over it? Too much, far too much. He's not engaging in flirtatious activity, he's not holding hands and rubbing noses, he's holding books and saying, "You're very beautiful." What if she was crying because she felt that she wasn't beautiful (which I disagree with also, but that's another story) would you try to restrain him from saying, "No, of course you're beautiful!"?
Just because somebody compliments another person on their looks, or how much fun they are, or anything like that, does not mean they're flirting and you have no logical reason to be upset other than your own insecurities. A significant other/spouse is not a possession, it's just as it says. Significant other. One who isn't you, but lies on an equal plain. Allow them to make decisions and live life accordingly. I guess I'm just ranting here, but it seems like such a close-minded thing to say. "No you cannot compliment other people. Your compliments better be aimed at me." I still love you, though. <3 EDIT: 3 AM makes you extremely hyper, but also extremely outspoken. Sorry. |
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Oct 16 2005, 03:08 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
^ hahah. you are very wise indeed, even though your profile picture does take away the sincerity.
i'd be okay if my boyfriend, that is if i had one, called other girls beautiful or hot. but only if he'd be okay with the fact that i find other guys hot as well. to jumony, i think it's okay, just as long as you don't overdo it. but maybe you should spend some more time with your gf. it might be a bit hard on her especially since for you, best friends come first, and in this case, your best friend is another girl. wait...am i right? it's not cheating, but it'll definately make your gf jealous. |
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Oct 17 2005, 01:31 AM
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Marilyn Monroe Group: Member Posts: 69 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,244 |
its hard to say. what do you mean by it? girls will see it that way. i know i would. we are senile. so much for trying to be a nice guy, huh?
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Oct 17 2005, 11:33 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 57 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 267,971 |
Is it cheating?? No.
Does it make you look suspicious?? Yes. I don't think anything is wrong with what you do except for telling other girls they are beautiful. It's alright to tell your girlfriend that, but anyone else is just getting a little bit too nice. |
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Oct 18 2005, 02:04 AM
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hulagurlie413 Group: Member Posts: 83 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 259,963 |
QUOTE(evanbunnell @ Oct 16 2005, 4:00 AM) You're all so possessive. Not wanting your boyfriend to comment on the way he views another person is one thing, but getting mad over it? Too much, far too much. He's not engaging in flirtatious activity, he's not holding hands and rubbing noses, he's holding books and saying, "You're very beautiful." What if she was crying because she felt that she wasn't beautiful (which I disagree with also, but that's another story) would you try to restrain him from saying, "No, of course you're beautiful!"? Just because somebody compliments another person on their looks, or how much fun they are, or anything like that, does not mean they're flirting and you have no logical reason to be upset other than your own insecurities. A significant other/spouse is not a possession, it's just as it says. Significant other. One who isn't you, but lies on an equal plain. Allow them to make decisions and live life accordingly. I guess I'm just ranting here, but it seems like such a close-minded thing to say. "No you cannot compliment other people. Your compliments better be aimed at me." I still love you, though. <3 EDIT: 3 AM makes you extremely hyper, but also extremely outspoken. Sorry. oh shush...we don't care what GUYS think about this topic. guys are just a couple of heartless dicks! jk! 
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