Lying or forgetfulness, is he lying or just forgets? |
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 Oct 6 2005, 02:53 PM
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I really need some help. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 4 months, he lives with me now as well. His mom is in elctro shock wich kinda messes with her head. He went to visit her and came back all freaking out saying the cops were after him and they had asked my best friend to set him up. I called her and she said that yes a lot of ppl had been busted for stuff, but they weren't even interested in my boyfriend, he had a couple fines from driving and thats it. He still was freaking out and decided he was gonna turn himself in so he could at least sit in jail for his fines. We dropped him off at his mom's the next day and he said he would call if he didn't go in. Well, i waited for a week and when no call came i called the jail. They had no record of him being there at all. That really pissed me off, so i went to his mom's house and found his ex-fiance, the girl he had left for me. He had told me she moved back to IL. Then his mom told me that he was on his way to WA, 2000 miles from here! The next day he calls and can't imagine why i would be so mad, he said he just "forgot" to call me and tell me he's not in jail. He also didn't think his ex living with him at his mom's mattered either. I don't know if he's telling the truth, can a guy really forget that much?
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Oct 6 2005, 03:10 PM
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 after all that we've been through... you know we're cool Group: Member Posts: 161 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 253,691 |
I have no idea, girl. He called you and he explained but I would have been very mad at him. I am v insecure though. I would imagine he was genuinely scared that he would go to jail and maybe he didn't realize his ''felonies'' weren't even bad enough to get him into trouble. After he saw it was cool, he didn't realize you would still be worried sick! That is plausible. The ex gf story sounds abit dodgy though... I would talk to him about why it bothers me and why he doesnt think its that important to tell me. It could be that 4 months is a long time for you and not so much for him??? You need to talk to him. I really think that is the best thing you can do. Give him a chance to explain himself better. See how things develop...
((Good luck)) |
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Oct 6 2005, 05:41 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Yeah, I would be mad, since I'm also insecure. But, I think you should talk to him about this and get it straight.
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Oct 6 2005, 07:57 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
there's definately something going on, talk to him about it. if he continues to lie i guess just forget about him. he's not worth your time
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Oct 6 2005, 08:20 PM
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 banangst ♥ Group: Member Posts: 727 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 237,399 |
hah, insecure-ness. it's so common.
and yes i would be very pissed off it that happened. he cant just "forget" if you were really important. another problem is the ex-FIANCE. living with his mom?! talk to him. get the truth out of him. |
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Oct 6 2005, 08:29 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 |
Uh, call me a bad girlfriend but I would be immediately furious on the spot and be cold towards him until I got a good, honest explanation. It's a huge deal that his ex-fiance is living with his mom. And the "forgetting to call" part? Complete bs... guys who are serious in their relationships think about their girlfriends way too much to forget to call her about anything, let alone something so huge. He's not being completely honest... and if he's left someone so he could be with you, what makes you think the same won't happen to you?
Be careful... based on what you've said, don't think this guy's credible. |
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Oct 6 2005, 09:04 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
Talk to him. Get to the very bottom and get every detail. But iMO, he could be hiding something from you.
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Oct 6 2005, 10:34 PM
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 "my girls rock balenciaga and smoke mad marijuana" Group: Member Posts: 2,089 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,049 |
thats so weird; washington state is where he was headed i don`t get it; but i live in washington! yeahh anyways... be sure to clear me up!
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Oct 7 2005, 09:06 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 17 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,938 |
I'm definatly going to talk to him, he's been calling and keeps saying he's sorry, but he wouldn't have lied in the first place if he really was. When he gets home i'm gonna sit him down face to face and work out every little detail and decide where to go from there, thanx
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Oct 7 2005, 09:24 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 42 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 245,451 |
all that stuffz possible.. maybe it seems to be ridiculouss.. but guys are reallly unpredictable.. dont you have those times that you just don wanna deal with certain things or people for no reason.. well i have adn i just cant explain why...
maybe he was going thru some sort of hard timez and he wanted to be alone for a while.. whatever his reason is .. he could be really innocent for all we know dont assume without evidence... why hurt you relationship just cuz you were thinking negative stuff that didnt happen... until you find a reason to distrust him... trust him now. |
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Oct 8 2005, 12:09 AM
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 I love you, I hate you, I can't live without you! Group: Member Posts: 51 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 219,526 |
Something weird is definately wrong there. Is there anything wrong with him like mentally, and i dont mean to be rude but like this just sounds way out there and crazy...mayb hes suffering from a mental illness...again...not to be rude....its just wat first comes to mind
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