What have you learned..., from your past relationships? Options

[captured_serenit...]

I just wanted to know what has everyone learned from your past relationships with boyfriends, and girlfriends. Engagement, Marriage, Couples...
What have you really learned in life from the past relationships?

I've learned, from my past relationships about Trust, Caring for one another, love, and life.

I'm writing a paper on this...please help me out. =)

[*stephinika*]

not to get too serious too fast
not to throw around 'i love you' meaninglessly
its good to be open but you needn't share EVERYTHING
don't talk about the future too specifically too quickly
um.
yeah.

[SimplicityGirl]

Don't be clingy. This applies to both girls and guys. It doesn't matter how much you like them, you do NOT need to be with them 24 hours of the day.

Don't say "I love you" if you don't truly, honestly, from the bottom of your heart mean it.

If you want to break up with them, do it as soon as you realize it. Don't lead anybody on. That's just mean.

Don't get into the commitment issue too quickly.

Don't make any accusation of them liking other people than you, and don't question why they like you. Just live with the fact that they like you out of everybody else. If you really are curious, ask once, but never again.

Don't put on an insecure show in front of them. That's just plain annoying.

There's no need to make every month's anniversary special or important.

If you don't like them, say so. Don't lead them on and go out with them.

Don't blame the other person if they chose to break up with you, and don't blame yourself.

Don't try to be friends with them immediately after you guys broke up. Wait for some time to pass before you do that.

...and last of all, don't be afraid to love again if your heart's been broken.

[yummy_delight]

I've learned:

+ High school romances are not as serious as most of us hype them up to be.

+ People change. So do feelings.

+ Trust is essential.

+ Long distance is almost never a good idea.

+ Actions speak much MUCH louder than words.

[Nicolatofu]

There's no such thing as 'in the moment'
The firts falling-in-love feeling doesn't really last.
Don't say anything to your significant other that you will regret saying tomorrow.
When making a big decision that could change the relationsip, really think it through. really.

[FREEcandies]

Wow...that is such an open question. Where does one even begin?

[silver-rain]

- Communication is definitely important.
- Learn to open up about yourself and be more comfortable (either with yourself and/or each other)
- Stop wondering "why is he with me" and just be happy that he wanted to be with you
- Be more caring, compassionate, etc.
- Don't plan too far into the future, just focus on the here and now.

[brandon32490]

(1)Personality matters more importantly then looks.

(2)High school relationships aren't as serious as people say they are.

(3)If you aren't satisfied with your relationship, don't wait till something bad happens to dump them.

(4)Online relationships are NOT worth it.

(5)If a male wants your body, do not go out.

(6)If a female wants your body, do not go out.

(7)Always be 100% satisfied when you are with your partner, otherwise your partner will become uncomfortable and will start thinking you want to break up with him or her.

(8)Never rush things. Personally, its a stupid thing to do.

(9)Never fight for a man or woman, in the end it isn't always worth it.

(10) DO NOT FALL FOR SOMEONE THAT YOU KNOW YOU DON'T HAVE A CHANCE WITH.

(11)Do not worry about what happens between you and your boyfriend/girlfriend. I've learned that worryness always leads to uncomfortable relationships which lead to break-ups in a short amount of time.

(12)Never ask to many questions to the point that your partner will think your over-protective. Give them some space.

(13)Men should always pay for the dinner, even if the female is rich.

(14)Do not go out with a male or female just because your friends said you wouldn't do it.

(15)Never get obsessed with someone.

(16)Never make your partner feel embarrased, unless he or she is willing to be embarrasing with you.

(17)Never call them all the time, never send them notes during class.

(18)Never be to sweet, never let your partner have full control over you because then it would become boring which will lead to break-up.

(19)Even though you may want to talk about your personal life with your loved one, never talk about depressing stuff unless he or she wants you to. Depressed conversations are intense.

(20)Never say you cut yourself. Cutting yourself is a dumb thing to do, but your loved one doesn't want to know about that. Also, never tell them that you've commited suicide before. At least..not until the relationship gets comfortable enough to express those kinds of memories.

(21)Offer to go somewhere. You never know what you have until you loose it.

If I know anymore, I will edit this.

[lexaa621]

don't kiss up
don't be clingy
try not to get jealous or obsessive
if your partner doesn't seem to like you s/he probably doesnt
don't date fickle people

yeah...

/edit/

oh yeah. long distance relationships = quite painful. i learned my lesson.

[angelrevelation]

it's hard to explain... but i've learned to not be so afraid... *sigh*

[sadolakced acid]

relationships suck.

[KissMe2408]

oh gosh, i've learned alot....

(1)Be sure that the person respects you. IMPORTANT!
(2)Do not settle for anything less then what you are looking for
(3)It's not good to be possesive of the other person
(4)Getting too physical in the relationship is a no-no. It usually ends bad. It changes the relationship
(5)Be open about things, talk things over. Don't leave things unsaid
(6)Learn to Laugh, it doesn't have to be drama-drama. You should laugh too!
(7)Really get to know the person before you even start to date them. Be friends first.
(8)It's good to have things in common with the person
(9)Trust, Being Honest and Open...are some key things.
(10) Don't throw the word "love" around...just don't
(11)No need to rush
(12)If you are crying more then you are smiling there is something wrong.
(13)Make sure you love their personality AND are attracted to them. not one or the other. Be sure you have both.
(14) IMPORTANT! the man should be a GENTLEMEN....very important.
(15)Key word : MAN. not boy.
(16)Let them have their space, but remain close.
(17)Don't let the person control you.
(18)Long distance relationships are hard, i wouldn't recommend it, it hurts.
(19)When you care about the person, you are blind. So be careful, guard your heart
(20)it is the small things that matter...it really is. you can tell alot by those
(21)Only date when you are ready, when you truly care about the person, they meet all you requirements( for example for me: Christian, strong, good personality, handsome, etc...), and when you feel secure and comfortable. Be careful nonetheless.
(22)Your first love will always stay with you, your first dance with him, first walk in the park with him, and your first kiss. No matter how hard you try, you'll never forget those simple things, and it will come back to you when you least expect it.
(23) I really could go on and on, i have like a billion of them...but i will stop for your sake :)

[redpeony]

There must be more than the initial physical attraction for the relationship to last... and that substance has to be built up before the that initial attraction fades away

Be straightforward, open and honest with each other

Don't be afraid to fall when it feels right

A good relationship is one in which the two people work together to solve their problems, not against each other. (Seems obvious enough)

Trust... but it has to be earned.

Maturity makes a crapload of difference.

[cfaye3char]

trust is a big thing for me. how to trust people and get them to trust you and respect you. caring is also big for me knowing when someone cares truely about you, and that I care for them. Don't let people use you for anything. Like take you for granted by not caring. Plus try and not let anybody break your heart, that is a tuff one, you have to be strong. This is a hard question for me because my life has been kind of ruff as far as emotions go...yeah tuff

[captured_serenit...]

Thank you everyone for your honest opinions! =) That helps a lot.

I practically agree with everyone who posted, because I really feel that all of these can be learned not only by relationships but some can be learned from Family and Friends too!

Thank you everyone who posted! =)

[mouse_3k]

-Never become to attached
-What doesnt kill you makes you stronger
-Do NOT go for anything because you think hes just hot....he might be an @sshole
-Revenge is sweet

[hammers and hear...]

ive learned that long distance relationships wont work unless your love for that person is really strong

and say "i love you" only when its truly meant

[OhXiet_ItzDonnA]

What I learn was to listen to my friends next time...make sure I go out with the right person...and....that's it I think.

[EmmalieV]

dont fall to fast
take it easy
get to know them for more than 2 weeks before making it official
if he asks something inappropiate in the beginning he probaly wont be good
love slowly

[_sarcastic_]

if you're going to move away, don't turn your relationship into a long distance one, it'll just make things worst

if you're not very interested with your partner break up with him straight away.

don't take things TOO slowly, it kills the relationship sometimes

[eunie03]

Honesty is a road less traveled.

[*mzkandi*]

Trust my female intuition.

[Chii]

¤ at the first sign or at most second sign of abuse, RUN. don't sit around and listen to bullsh*t again and again

¤ choose your battles wisely...don't fight over something stupid like being 20 mintues late

¤ if stupid fights happen again and again even after you talk about things...it's can't work out

¤ let your true feelings out, don't bottle things up inside

¤ don't drag things on to prevent the other from getting hurt, that person will get hurt either way

¤ be who you really are, don't fit yourself into a mold for him/her

[technicolour]

relationships suck.

Amen to that.

And that...high school is just a stupid time to have any relationship..for me at least.

[Mulder]

sigh..ive had one boyfriend. 5 years ago...when i was 12.

um..dont be clingy.
dont talk about serious topics like religion.
be open with them, trust them.

[sadolakced acid]

Amen to that.

And that...high school is just a stupid time to have any relationship..for me at least.

yup. had one high school relationship, and that was enough.

waiting till college.

[technicolour]

yup.  had one high school relationship, and that was enough. 

waiting till college.

same. It's for everyone's sanity...especially mine.

[yuna*]

- Don't exactly split out all your feelings to the guy
- Don't take serious of highschool relationship
- Most guys are morons.

[*jooleeah*]

Middle school relationships are moronic.
Being too clingy is bad.
Things won't work out well if you worry too much.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Never give your heart wholely to them.
I still havent mastered that technique.

Dont believe the whispers. Go straight to him.
Believe in yourself.

[sadolakced acid]

- Don't exactly split out all your feelings to the guy
- Don't take serious of highschool relationship
- Most guys are morons.

i think a more proper one fore the last one is..

most guys who date seriously in high school are morons.

[anniepiee]

ive learned a lot.
and most of them repeat the ones that many has said.
but most of all
never get obsessed
dont say "i love you" 1 or 2 weeks into the relationship. say it when you mean it. not becuase you have to.
never let relationships become the number one thing in your life. when you still have school and friends.
i can go on.. but i'm done =]

[TheReasonWhy]

don't fall in love easily.

but i guess you can't control yourself.

well, don't be so wishful.

[steezahh]

trust is key; the guy should never be afraid to kiss the girl// its not always a girl slaps the guy because of it! lol...just a few things i`ve learned!

[lit0chinagirl]

i don't know if you're still writing that paper but here's what i've learned:
-high school relationships are overrated- i'm waiting until the end of my senior year [i'm currently a sophomore] to try again. one is enough for me
we expect them to last for a long time but when it comes down to it, we end up breaking things before within a matter of months. in a way, we kid ourselves into "that fairy tale ending" but for some, it actually does come true. others- we grow restless
-communication is key
-sometimes our busy lifestyles dont allow us to stay in a relationship
-don't let yourself go to quickly. you may love the person but you shouldn't allow them to get too touchy
-don't be afraid to trust them
-dont be afraid to speak your mind, if something bugs you about the one you're with, make an effort to point it out. don't be afraid to yell at them a little.
-don't be so quick to say i love you and never question yourself about whether or not you love them.

and mostly
if it was meant to be, let it go and if it comes back to you, then it was always yours (yeah, it's cliche)
-"breaks" can give you a lot of time to re-validate yourself

[sheepy]

oh i learned a lot.

-don't base relationships entirely on feelings, have some common sense with you and LISTEN to what your friends say because sometimes what they see, you're blind to.
-just because he said i love you with the most sincerest words ever, doesnt mean he really means it.
-really big teddy bears arent that great when he wont write more than half a page on a card.
-physically hurting yourself is NOT worth it for a guy.
-you know something's defnitely wrong when you're avoiding him, and hoping he'll talk to you after a week.
-crying yourself to sleep everyday doesnt exactly spell love.
-when he doesnt try to work things out 'because he's too scared to' is just a big lie.
-memories are really hard to forget and painful because you know that's all they will ever be.
-sometimes you find yourself missing him just because of one moment which isnt worth 205928 other miserable days
-if you trust him, it doesnt mean hes worth trusting.
-pretty words are bs

[ChasingLife87]

guys aren't worth it. Men, maybe, but guys, no. Heck no.

Don't settle for the one you can live with. Wait until the one you can't live without.

[Gypsy Eyes]

- Sometime's it's just better to be yourself. Making yourself seem like "the perfect girlfriend" only causes trouble.
- When he asks you what you want for your birthday, say suprise me not nothing.
- Don't be shy
- Some secret's are meant to be kept between you and him.
- Always say what you want to, later you will regret it

this is a very good topic by the way, I'll add some more later. Good luck on your paper!

[Latina Babii]

I learned not to fall to deep.

Ok maybe not the happiest thing in the world, but I also learned to get over self conscience issues ^^

[redpeony]

WHEN IT DOUBT, TALK IT OUT

[topsyturvy]

^ AMEN.

guys aren't worth it. Men, maybe, but guys, no. Heck no.

Damn. Do we have to wait until we get to college, then?


` 99.9% of long distance relationships don't work out. They just don't.
` Being separated from him/her for more than 5 hours is enough to drive you nuts - even when you're sleeping.
` Never talk to your bf about how hot other guys are, unless they're 100% unattainable.. like, Ryan-Cabrera-unattainable.
` If you are forgetful and easily bored, keep a small notepad close by to jot down major points when you're on the phone with them, just in case they ask you about it in the future.
` Don't say "i love you" until you know you do. Say "i heart you" or "i need you" but not "i love you". Just don't. Otherwise, when the time comes that you finally realize you really love them, you'll have something meaningful to say.
` When you see their screenname on your contact list but refuse to click on it and type "hey", then something's wrong.
` Give hugs whenever you can.

[Fabio.]

`  When you see their screenname on your contact list but refuse to click on it and type "hey", then something's wrong.

Haha, yeah.

Course, I have that problem with friends sometimes.

[mwahxd]

i learned not to say u love a person so fast, i learned not to lie to urself wen things arent right caz u are afraid of wat will happen, i learned not to give in all my trust into a person so fast, i learned not to give that person my whole heart, i learned not to be so naive

[sadolakced acid]

the faster you fall, the hotter it gets, and the harder you hit, the quicker you get there and the bigger the crater left.

that being said, nothing wrong with a fiery dive as long as you slow down before you hit.

[xbby_charmz]

ME what I learned was that I shouldnt get in a relationship to fast, I should get to know the person and be able to know about his past. Not just jump into somethin without knowin the real him. cause if yah do you'll wind up months later with meaning less conversations, a hi and bye which sucks. I also learned that sometimes I love you dont mean a thing. Also that not to get to serious kinda what I said before but as in harmones. Dont get to serious cause if your unsure with being with that person for a life time you might just regret it. Also I learned that I need to be more open not shy all the time. I need to be myself. sometimes i cant over come that.

[ichiban]

actually THINK before you get into the relationship
don't say i love you unless you know you really, really do
think of more things to say
don't get into relationships with really close friends unless you're positive it'd work out

[xbby_charmz]

actually THINK before you get into the relationship
don't say i love you unless you know you really, really do
think of more things to say
don't get into relationships with really close friends unless you're positive it'd work out

I so agree for me I could never get into a relationship with a close friend atleast not now in high school life cause it can get pretty crazy with the other girls and stuff

[rockmyx]

dont give your 100% and leave something for your self

if you two broke up

at least you have some pride and ego with you to take home


guess thats what happened

l just gave my 100%

sweetness become bitter

too much always have a bad effect on everything


too much sweetness taste bitter



^__^


life lesson learned


loving's great irony is letteing go when you need to
hold on and/or holding on when you needed to let
go. loving people means giving then the freedom to
choose whon and where they want to be,
regardless whether those choices leads toward or
away from you.

[Fabio.]

Every time you are in a relationship with someone, you give them a piece of your heart. The more of your heart you save for your husband or wife, the better.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

When telling your boyfriend something, be as straightup as possible. Give them some space, they need to hang with their buds too.

[sadolakced acid]

self pity is really unattractive.

[sadolakced acid]

self pity is really unattractive.

[Kounouri]

my personal rules for dating

. get to know the boy or girl; like them for atleast 1 month before dating

. share some interests and hobbies, it makes things easier later on

. when his/her presence annoys you, without them doing anything, that's BAD

. suffocation is bad; don't think every minute of your life should be with them

. your friends are important too- he/she will understand

. it's only puppy love; until you're out of high school, it probably doesn't matter- so relax

things i've learned

. be open with your boyfriend or girlfriend as completely as you're comfortable with; that means if you have things only a best friend should know, it's your decision to tell them- but if you're keeping a secret that bothers you, you'll be more comfortable getting it out in the open.

. "taking it slow" means many different things- find a pace that combines physical steps as well as emotional ones

. don't be afraid to talk about the things that bother you, and at the same time talk about the things that make you feel good, too

. when your boyfriend or girlfriend is sad, and you feel like you can't do anything about it, just hug or kiss them- chances are it makes more of a difference than you think, just being there

. some people can't express their feelings like the actors on the big-screen do... even if you don't get any romantic speeches or a bouquet of flowers, your boy/girl will find a way to show you how they feel in due time

. be patient and listen to everything they have to say- only interrupt them if you're going to say "i love you,"

. not every fight means you're going to break up

the biggest and most important thing i've learned about love and relationships is that all these rules are made to be broken; every person is different and therefore every relationship is different. it is possible to share a successful relationship with someone you barely know, and it's also possible to share a successful relationship with someone you know "too well." all the things you think you know will change when you find love; so if you break up with someone on the basis of a stupid rule, then you never know what you have lost.

[captured_serenit...]

Thanks for all the information, it's true having a relationship in High School isn't such a good idea... ^.^

[grab-it]

umm ok lets see..
to not let anyone rush you into doing things you don't want to
not to say "i love you" all day everyday to make it seem like its just something you throw around and it has no meaning for you whatsoever.
to communicate better.. talk about your feelings and not just shut people out when your going through a rough time because you dont think that they would understand.
to talk openly about your past and the things that you've done, even though it may sound as though your dwelling on it..
to treat them equally..
know that it might not last forever, and be able to be without him.. to be on your own..
to love yourself, because if you dont, they wont see why they should either.

[Rachel]

most guys who date seriously in high school are morons.

Key word is most. My guy is not a moron....right

-Be careful what you say when you are angry. Hearing "We should take a break" can really break a person down.
-Say "I love you" only when you truly feel it and mean it.
-High school romances can be amazing, no matter what anyone has said. They might not last, but at least you learn to love.
-Trust is mighty important
-As is forgiveness, only if they deserve it though.
-Girls, USE SEX A WEAPON

[redpeony]

You need to give in order to recieve!

[gr00vyswordsman]

You need to give in order to recieve!

yep!!!!

[alduhkneel]

never engage in a "friends with benefits" relationship.
don't hesitate too long when making decisions in romance.
if you like him, just tell him (which, I'm still trying to do. :\)

[sadolakced acid]

Key word is most. My guy is not a moron....right 

yes, most.

and yes, high school is a good learning ground for relationships. However, i'm tired of dealing with friends who think they're going to marry thier boyfriend.

[racoons > you]

- a white lie used carefully is not a bad thing
- people often arent happy being told the truth
- know when to walk away
- dont get involved if you arent sure you want to

[vash1530]

dont get attached cuz sumthins gonna screw up ur relationship and ul break up, if ur to attached it just ends up hurtin u in tha long run.

[Levy2k6]

-things can end for no good reason but in the long run, it was a good decision.

-take risks next time

[mzbbc]

what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[teeners4]

i don't know if you're still writing that paper but here's what i've learned:
-high school relationships are overrated- i'm waiting until the end of my senior year [i'm currently a sophomore]  to try again. one is enough for me
        we expect them to last for a long time but when it comes down to it, we end up breaking things before within a matter of months. in a way, we kid ourselves into "that fairy tale ending" but for some, it actually does come true. others- we grow restless
-communication is key
-sometimes our busy lifestyles dont allow us to stay in a relationship
-don't let yourself go to quickly. you may love the person but you shouldn't allow them to get too touchy
-don't be afraid to trust them
-dont be afraid to speak your mind, if something bugs you about the one you're with, make an effort to point it out. don't be afraid to yell at them a little.
-don't be so quick to say i love you and never question yourself about whether or not you love them.

and mostly
if it was meant to be, let it go and if it comes back to you, then it was always yours (yeah, it's cliche)
-"breaks"  can give you a lot of time to re-validate yourself

amen to that. and honestly dont be friends right AFTER you guys broke up. give like a day or a few. well heres my rule: the number of months you dated equal to the number of days you're allowed to mope over them. after that, move on.




and seroiusly say things when they bug you. anddd well heres one for me, meet their friends. not just him meeting your friendss



**noteeee

*ahemmmm** and if you dont go to the same school. (even if you only live 20 minutes away from each other) make sure u can make some sacrifices for each other to see each other more than twice a week (which is on the weekends) drop by even for 5 minutes in the hours after school.

[teeblue]

I went out with my ex for 3 years. Yeah her definition of love is different than mine.

[Rachel]

you have no choice but to trust, and if they cheat on you oh well.  it is a cruel world, and youre not in charge.

have options on the go.  thats what i learned.

How does one not get attached to someone you love?

[Comptine]

Well, I've learned that before high school romances are a total waste of time. I mean, ariite, you don't like me! I don't care! So we aren't going to prom together! Just tell instead of having your friends run around telling me you don't! grr...

Never stay with a guy whose really serious about you when you really like his friend. Don't hook up with said friend like a few days after you guys broke up.

Don't look ahead and enjoy the moment.

[Rachel]

^I don't think they are a total waste of time at all. High school is the perfect time to sort of test out what kind of boys you want in your life. It is like a trying on of relationships. It is a good time to learn and to grow.

[lilliannnn]

That guys will do physical things with you to make you happy, while they don't even like you which in the end, will make you more sad then you've ever been.

-Be careful what you say when you are angry. Hearing "We should take a break" can really break a person down.

AMEN AMEN AMEN, to that. My boyfriend told me he wanted a break, and I was like because it came out of nowhere.

Seriously, if you want to take a break HAVE A GODDAMN REASON.

[miss-_-guitar]

1)what goes around come around, i caught my first bf cheating on me with another girl. and i was really upset but then she cheated on him.
2) listen to ur friends
3)make sure you know the person well before you go out with them

[NgocQuyen]

not to get too serious too fast
not to throw around 'i love you' meaninglessly
its good to be open but you needn't share EVERYTHING
don't talk about the future too specifically too quickly
um.
yeah.

wow...so freaking true...haha ^_________^ i feel the same way...hahaha

[yourfriendsteph]

The biggest thing I've learned is to not get attached, high school relationships rarely last and if it was really meant to be then it will come back to you in the end.

[xo maerissa]

-dont try to impress the guy by being able to let him have his way with you.
-take it slow, he doesnt need to see your whole body just yet.
-'iloveyou' doesnt mean anything, hes jus saying it because his friends are.

[LoST SouL]

love does not last

[LiLCUTiEFR0MDAYA...]

this is my first boyfriend. sum1 wanted to be my bf but i said no. ive made out with like 3 guys but yeah. i been with my boyfriend for almost a year and i L0VE him alot.. but that dont meant hat i havent learned shit.

[LiLCUTiEFR0MDAYA...]

love does not last

i guess u just havent found that 1 guy.

[CrazayChristian]

1) Don't talk to her everyday

2)look her in the eye more often

3) Use more air when I talk.( more assertive voice)

4) Stop being afraid to say things

5) make more jokes

6) make a hug mean something

7) Always leave'er wanting more

8)Hitting is a good thing

9) being called a "jerk/meanie" in a joking manner is also good.

10) Sparingly is in the word.

[silver-rain]

-Be careful what you say when you are angry. Hearing "We should take a break" can really break a person down.
-High school romances can be amazing, no matter what anyone has said. They might not last, but at least you learn to love.

I agree, especially with the first point...
Adding on to what I've said before:
- Don't say anything you'll regret later
- Always keep your promises (ie: if you promise to do something, do it)
- Don't assume things in the relationship
- Don't get mad over small and silly things.

[sheddingtears]

don't think about them too much,
it'll just take longer and be harder for you to get over them when they're gone.

don't think that just plain eye contact and smiling and no other type of communication will eventually bring out a relationship.

don't push people that care for you away when you feel sad or angry, but talk to them, you'll feel so much better.

don't imagine or fantacize beautiful things about someone you really like, but isn't even with you.

writing private entries on livejournal help in letting those emotions out.

learn to love yourself first before loving someone else,
otherwise you would be dependent on that person for confidence, and when this person leaves you, you'd feel so empty.

realize that nothing lasts forever.

realize that if they can make you feel like you're on the top of the world, they can also make you feel like you're alone in the world.

[ParanoidAndroid]

1.) Never allow yourself to let the guy you like take advantage of your feelings
2.) umm...love isn't money?

[ceara cecilyrose]

1. All the things that people say about not talking about important or serious issues are bullshit. The right guy will want you to talk about what matters to you.
2. If you want to be clingy, then by all means be clingy, so long as you don't go totally stupid and actually think about his feelings too. Would you want someone constantly poking you if you were exhausted and only wanted to sleep?
3. Have the same or similar goals. I don't mean 'I want to get a car'. I mean the important things like 'One day I want to settle down out in the country and grow most of my own food and maybe have kids if I can afford it.'
4. If he ever takes his feelings out on you by hitting you, even if its not hard and even if its in jest, don't put up with it.
5. If someone wants to mess around with you before deciding whether or not they want a relationship with you, don't. They probably don't want you and it's not worth it.
6. Just because they want to mess around with you doesn't mean that they will want a relationship. In fact, they almost certainly won't.
7. Don't settle for someone who doesn't feel the same way you do.
8. If they worry that they're not affectionate enough when they're always giving you flowers and holding your hand and kissing you and really, really love you, it may be a good sign.
9. Guys will tell you they love you once and then think that you'll always remember it.
10. If they say they love you but they aren't in love with you and you're in a relationship with them, slap them and tell them to eff off. That comment can be freely translated as 'I have no intention of being in a long term relationship with you because I don't actually care about you but I want sex so I'll tell you I love you and then qualify it and maybe it'll fool them into thinking they have a chance.'
11. You can't change someones feelings.
12. Real love is worth waiting for and if you have bad things happen to you, it's not the end.

[Mikael]

How does one not get attached to someone you love?

get attached at your own risk. but its not about being attached. its about taking care of yourself. know that the reality is that no matter how hard you want it, its not always the same feeling on the other side of the relationship.

[*mipadi*]

Don't worry. Just be happy with the present.

[redpeony]

DON'T OVERANALYZE EVERYTHING! Just let it be... and your relationships will prosper.

[Just_Dream]

Don't be gullible and believe every little thing the significant other says. Man, I thought my past bf was cool, but he lied about some things.. More like he exaggerated to try to sound cool.

Also, don't be too superficial. Looks don't mean squat of the guy doesn't have a good personality or doesn't interest you in any way. I think those are all givens, right? lol.

Oh yea, and love is more than just a word...

[dreamii]

Never try to block out your real feelings, you wil regret it after it's over.
Think about what they would feel if you do something dumb..

Just love, but know that you can lose him/her really easily......and you won't even realize what you did til you lose it all.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Never leave the one you love for the one you like.

[AMBERLY07]

i've learned not to trust guys ever again






p.s my last boyfriend can burn in hell

[redpeony]

I'm bumping this.

Always give more than your 50%.

[mahokaida]

If you were friends with a person before you started going out, do not think that even if the relationship doesn't work out you can still go back to being friends. I thought that, and I tried to continue the friendship, but my ex-boyfriend developed an attitude and told me he didn't want to be friends with me.