I need some advice!! Options

[erikap16]

Okay...well I need some advice...ummm..I have a baby by my exboyfriend..we've been seperated for almost a year now, cause he had a really bad drinking problem and now he has a drug problem...well not anymore cause he went into rehab...anyway, We were together for 5 years and we have a kid together, and we want to try it again, we really want to be together and start out life over, and raise out son together. I do Love him with all my heart...BUT I AM REALLY SCARED....I DONT WANT TO PUT UP WITH THE DRINKING OR DRUGS ANYMORE...DO YOU THINK PEOPLE CAN CHANGE??

[*mzkandi*]

I do believe people can change. Its good that he went into rehab for his drinking problem, it shows his effort to make a postive change in his life. I think you guys should try to make it work, not only for the baby, but because you love each other. But the if the drinking and drug problem comes up again it would best that you take you and your baby out of that situation.

[KissMe2408]

I am all for people changing their lives around. But, when it comes down to you and your child....i would be very...very...very careful. I would wait alot longer before you guys even think about getting into a relationship again. I think it was very smart of you to split because of the drugs and alchohol. Of course, every kid needs their dad, but i would start off by just visiting him with your baby. Maybe spend the weekend going somewhere, take it really slow. Don't just jump back into a relationship with him if ever. For now especially i would just remain friends and then later on see what happens. Be sure that this drug and alchohol problem is really over, ya know?
I will be praying for you.

[topsyturvy]

^ Amen.

I agree with KissMe2408.. wait a while before getting together. No matter how much you still love him, your son's safety is more important than anything else. If you can, observe him for a few weeks or months. It's true people change, but better safe than sorry, i guess.