abusive parents?, anyone? Options

[kodomo_ja_nai]

dunno how many of you consider your parents to be abusive (emotionally or physically or any other form of abuse) but god, i'm tired of my mom...
the physical beatings i can bear (when i say beatings, i don't mean a simple spanking.. i mean it's black and blue) but when she puts me down or tells me what i can and cannot do (she won't even let me go out later than 8pm and i'm 18 years old already for god's sake!), it gets to the point where i feel... choked... stranggled..
if that's not enough for abuse, talk about economic abuse... she takes my hard-earned money and says, "i'll keep it for you so that you won't spend it" (even though i have a checking account) and just stashes it away for her own use. i never see that money ever again... ><
i'm not really sure if i'm looking for advice (i probably am cuz i'm about to burst here) but i'm certainly not looking for anyone's pity....
i guess i just want people to know how lucky they are for having good parents.. it's way better than winning the lottery...

[yukichan]

my parents are kind of emotionally abusive..They're always putting me down, just because I can't do something right..

Btw, I like your sn..

[silver-rain]

My parents are emotionally abusive, they always put me down for every little thing I do...
But I think you should get help. Since you are a legal adult, you have the right over the money you earn, and no one else. Tell someone, an adult, who can help you. Also, since she apparently abuses you physically, you should definitely talk to someone about this.

[megan_x3]

Since now that your an adult.. you should have the right to do whatever you want to do with your stuff. If you really don't feel comfortable around with your parent that is abusing you, you should really go get help. Plus the physical abusing part ... it's just terrible.

[*xcaitlinx*]

ummm..you do know that that's illegal? you should tell someone and get help right away.

[shortiiex]

do you go to college?
you should live witha friend for awhile. You don't need someone to take your hardworking money away from you. You are freakin 18 and you need FREEDOM.

[*mzkandi*]

I suggest you tell an adult that you trust. How will that help? You'll have supportive backing to stand up to your mother. She has no right to hit and take things from you that you have worked hard for for her own use. If you can stay with someone else for a while like a friend or another family member that would be helpful as well.

[Nicolatofu]

Totally in agreement with above. That's your hard earned money and now that you're 18, you are an adult. She shouldn't have access to your funds OR beat you. That's considered abuse in my eyes. I went through it for 8 years.

[iheartjohn]

More emotionally than anything. Sure, the occasional slap in the face once in a while, but no bruises.

When she kicked me out, I was glad to be out of that hell hole.

[shadow14214]

i had to change mine becaus my parents

[Chii]

i hate to be rude but you're 18, get the f*ck out of there.

you're money is yours there's no way your mother could have taken your paycheck unless you handed it to her. my curfew is 8pm too and i will be 18 kind of soon. it used to be 6pm until i was like 15.

there's only so much one person can take. suck it up and deal with it. at least they didn't send you away.

[Paradox of Life]

You need to get the legal forces involved because now that you're an adult, what your mother is doing is:

Physical Assault
Stealing

And I agree with Chii, get a life. Stop letting your mom control you. Get an apartment or a dorm or something.

[racoons > you]

^

indeed. you are 18. move on out. fly the nest.

or if that truly is not an option, go to the police. you are a legal adult, and your mother is commiting a crime

[elaboratedream]

I know it's hard to even think about ratting out your parents, but if it's that bad, you need to at least talk to someone. I mean, if it's too hard for you, you don't have to necissarily rat on them, but try talking to people for now. when you're ready, you can try telling someone and take legal action. I know it's not as easy as they say in school or whatever, but if she's beating you like that and taking your money, you should take some kind of legal action... but I'm guessing you already know that and it won't matter how many complete strangers tell you that you should go sue her ass or whatever, it's not gonna change the fact that it's not gonna be easy. Your other option as many other people have pointed out is to move out. Again, not exactly easy if she's taking away your money and it's not easy living on your own... but one thing you have to remember about this is that none of this is gonna be easy... but you'll be better off once you've gotten it over with.

oh, didn't mention, my parents are emotionally and occasionally physically abusive. Not too bad though.

[simx]

My parents are emotionally abusive I suppose...

[kodomo_ja_nai]

i do know that what she does is illegal. i have considered reporting her but it's kind of complicated... if she goes to jail, it's very likely that her application for citizenship will be revoked. if that happens, my sisters will probably be denied citizenship as well because they're under her care. i don't want them to go back to the PI now....
btw, i don't live with her right now. i live elsewhere during the school year so there aren't any beatings for now. with regards to her taking my money, she's the POA of my checking account (she opened it for me when i was 16); that's how she's able to take my money. but i found a way to get it back without her knowledge so... that's not too big of an issue now.
i have spoken with other adults about this and they pretty much gave me the same advice as all of you have. i know i can move in with them if ever things get really bad...
90% of me is telling me to move out but that other 10% is telling me "FILIAL PIETY!!!" she DID raise me well as a child... she DID send me to school... she DID feed me... sometimes i tell myself that maybe it's because of the stress she's going through that she acts the way she does. other times, i'm like.. "f*ck that.."
*sigh*
the issue of my sisters' citizenship status complicates the entire matter. if not for that, i would have reported her right away. i did not mean to come out as a loser without any initiatives...