online relationships, getting creepy Options

[ParanoidAndroid]

if there's already a topic about this... GOMENOSAI! I AM SORRY! just please close it then ^_^

I don't mean to be bragging, but this guy from xanga just started IMing me and he's younger than me by 2 years. And after a few weeks, he said he loves me... OKAY I AM CREEEEPED OUT. I kinda think he don't even know what he's saying. Everytime i have to sign off, he keeps making me promise to come back online tomorrow although i keep telling him that i can't guarantee that. and when i say i can't promise, he would send 100000000 e-mails and i am afraid he might track me down to this point... can anybody give some tips on how to get rid of this guy... in a nice way?

[*mipadi*]

Have you tried simply telling him that you aren't interested and that he's coming on too strongly?

[technicolour]

Stop talking to him all together?

For a kid, whom I am assuming is quite young, I think he has his mind in other places...

[Aoiro]

Another problem with online relationships.
Well, since you really don't know him, you can just block him from everything.
It's just better not to talk to him.
Oh how online relationships are annoying in some cases.

[ParanoidAndroid]

Have you tried simply telling him that you aren't interested and that he's coming on too strongly?

yeah but he keeps pulling these guilt trips on me like, "you're just like that girl who hurt me." or "i am gonna commit suicide if you don't come back"

i have tried to block him but he keeps getting new sn's and i changed my screen name and he still finds out... it's like he's tracking me or something and he had my other friends who i talk to online convinced that we're in love when we really aren't

[technicolour]

...Stalker ish. Creepy.

If he's pulling the suicide knife out..he needs to grow up.

You just need to tell him the truth, before it'll turn into an even bigger mess and then an even bigger one...

[Aoiro]

Woah, this is gettign real out of hand.
He is just totally desperate.
Just try to block everything about him.
Make a new email, something totally different, with different information.

[technicolour]

Woah, this is gettign real out of hand.
He is just totally desperate.
Just try to block everything about him.
Make a new email, something totally different, with different information.

...and only tell the people you can utterly trust about it..

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Freaky. Tell him one last time to stop, leave you alone. be stern.

Then proceed to change your sns and email and anything else he can reach you through and lay low, dont tell anyone for a while [ a week or so ] and then presume to what you normally do. if he somehow finds out your information again then report him or something.

[ParanoidAndroid]

Alright thanks for the advice. I did just that but he won't stop. Should I report to the police? But really, I think he'll stop if I act mean towards him since I act all nice... and I'm tired of that

[technicolour]

Alright thanks for the advice. I did just that but he won't stop. Should I report to the police? But really, I think he'll stop if I act mean towards him since I act all nice... and I'm tired of that

...find someone really smart who can write a virus and mass spam email it to him...

Okay, that'd be just mean.

But..get your friends to mass-im him saying to stop being a perv..creep..etc etc etc

[ParanoidAndroid]

...find someone really smart who can write a virus and mass spam email it to him...

Okay, that'd be just mean.

But..get your friends to mass-im him saying to stop being a perv..creep..etc etc etc

Yeah that sounds perfect. Thanks

[technicolour]

Yeah that sounds perfect. Thanks

lol np..it's worked for me...a couple of times...

[ParanoidAndroid]

lol np..it's worked for me...a couple of times...

Wow you probably had it bad. But experience can be useful. Thanks again

MODs, you can close this topic now

[WindSorcerous]

You do realize he could be lying about his age...He could be a 45 year old man...
Block him from everything and don't talk to him. These things are scary...

[kodomo_ja_nai]

>< omg.. that has happened to me before..
i ended up telling the guy off... saying that i had a bf... later, he just kept IM-ing me.. but now, he's all like "i like someone else now."
i'd just totally ignore him.. and plus.. don't allow him to make you go on a guilt trip..

[silver-rain]

You could privacy block him (Meaning, only people from your buddy list can see if you're online).

[ParanoidAndroid]

You could privacy block him (Meaning, only people from your buddy list can see if you're online).

Yeah I tried that, but like I said, he keeps getting new sn's

[silver-rain]

Yeah I tried that, but like I said, he keeps getting new sn's

But that wouldn't matter... if he's not on your buddy list, then he doesn't know that you're online.

[ParanoidAndroid]

But that wouldn't matter... if he's not on your buddy list, then he doesn't know that you're online.

that's true, but you know how people can type ur sn in the IMing windows and type something to see if thier online? well it always works for him

[xoxoxx]

tell him to stop, and say you'll call the police if he doesn't. that might work.

[misoshiru]

maybe you could block his ip

[bad_girl]

just wondering.. does he have any clue how you look like? && do you guys live in the same... area? if not, then dont worry about it, i'd say. block him.

[PinkTrash]

^ Agree.
Also, if he does happend to track you down (which he can't if you guys don't live near each other, nor does he not know what you look like), he's two years younger than you. Which is probably young, right? There's no way he could possibly do anything to you..

[megan_x3]

Tell him that you don't like him and you wish that you dont want to have anything between you guys.

[ParanoidAndroid]

just wondering.. does he have any clue how you look like? && do you guys live in the same... area? if not, then dont worry about it, i'd say. block him.

that's thing, we've only been talking for 2 weeks and he has NO clue what i look like (except that i am asian). I keep telling him that he doesn't know what he's talking about and how i've been threatening to report him and all but he won't stop. You know I'll do what that other girl said about reporting him to AIM.

[HappyHeart]

"I don't mean to be bragging"?

About a guy who is 2 years younger than you? But yeah that is scary. Maybe you should............. i have no idea.

yeah but he keeps pulling these guilt trips on me like, "you're just like that girl who hurt me." or "i am gonna commit suicide if you don't come back"

i have tried to block him but he keeps getting new sn's and i changed my screen name and he still finds out... it's like he's tracking me or something and he had my other friends who i talk to online convinced that we're in love when we really aren't

Why is he manipulating you?

[ParanoidAndroid]

"I don't mean to be bragging"?

About a guy who is 2 years younger than you? But yeah that is scary. Maybe you should............. i have no idea.
Why is he manipulating you?

I have no idea why

[imintoyou]

straight up creepy. i suggest you just stay off aim for like a month (if thats possible, i know i wouldnt be able too, lol) and then make a new sn and come back. maybe that way he wont find out the new one.

[ParanoidAndroid]

straight up  creepy. i suggest you just stay off aim for like a month (if thats possible, i know  i wouldnt be able too, lol) and then make a new sn and come back. maybe that way he wont find out the new one.

lol i can do that. I haven't been on AIM for 2 days I can go longer

[silentgirl7]

wow that must be hard. don't worry ur definitely not bragging.

_ First, u have to stop being nice to him act like a real biatch and maybe he won't like u anymore. i kno that sounds stupid but if u hate him he has no point in bugging u.

_ Don't sign on for a while he'd prolly give up if he has no absolute way to get a hold of you.

_ Don't answer his emails or ims. not even an "i'm sorry" or "i can't talk right now" he just wants the attention so act like he's not there.

_ If he's really that physco threating to commit suiscide & all then that's prolly not all he's capable of. i mean, ur not helping him by letting him take advantage of your kindness he'll just become more obsessively dependent on people and continue this unhealty attitude.

_ They're right about the possiblity of him lying about his age & for all u kno he might live closer than he says.

_ It's ur safety or his feelings. it's not ur fault if he does something crazy but i doubt he would if u let him know it won't affect you.

_ even if ur not in danger this is unfair for you and it's making u uncomfortable and that's a good enough to do something about it so even if he's just some little pervert who needs a life it's still important that u can sign on in peace w/out some little nerd bugging you..

good luck!

[x miisz_ad0rkabl...]

thats just creepy

i agree with the person who posted a message before me. eww i would be soo friggin scared o.0...good luck<33~

&hearts;&hearts;&hearts;

[tequila_sky]

tell him you are a guy and would like to get to know him better XD jk...

This is what I do with guys that come on too strong.

1. tell them openly and sincerely it bothers me, scares me and feels utterly uncomfortable.

2. Warn them a second time in a slightly more stern manner

3. Warn a third time and proceed to stop replying.

If he tracks you down, has a new sn and he tells you its him, just block him straight away and stop chatting to him. He will give up. If not just block his IP. Its true you dont know if he is telling the truth if he is 2 yrs younger than you or a 40 yr old stalker. Be careful!

Good luck with this.

[ParanoidAndroid]

This problem has already been dealt with 2 hours ago... but thanks for the advices anyways

[technicolour]

This problem has already been dealt with 2 hours ago... but thanks for the advices anyways

...if I may ask..how did you take care of it?

[*Funkadelic.Kiss*]

Why do you think there is a block button ?
Block. Block. Block. Block.
Pshhh I <3 the block button.

//Edit. Did he leave you alone?


Okay this can be closed now.

[Bridget_rules_4e...]

This is tough, I think you should say that you have a boyfriend and he'll get mad that your talking to him so block him change your screenname and tell him you will report him if he doesnt go....

[miss-_-guitar]

you should just stop going online for a while. just block him and change ur screen name and even if he send u messages dont return them or just only reply - go the fcuk away.