my boyfriend keeps hurting., my boy is hurting Options

[xbby_charmz]

So not saying that my boyfriend is sad, or saying that he like hits me or shit like that.

me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now he tells me he doesnt love me any more then 4 days later he tells me he needs me and misses me ofcoarse i go back cause i love, care about him. 3 weeks later he tells me again he doesnt love me what do i do. he didnt tell me in person its in his profile for aim not sure if everybody knoes what that is....it hurts badly how me and him cant talk what do i do? i really need help and the last time when we broke up when he first said he didnt love me i had to sort a like call him everyday for 3 days till i got to him by blocking my number just to see what is going on and it sucks ass. (mind my launguage)

[Olive]

you poor girl.
This is my advice.

1. He needs therapy. Maybe he's Schizophrenic.. You never know.

or

2. You tell him to stfu (mind my honestly straight-forward couselling)


Olive.

[xbby_charmz]

oooh but see the thing is i need him its just hard.. sigh*

[_sarcastic_]

if he's putting you through all this pain, you should just forget about him and break it off

[Chii]

listen, i know what you're going through. it's best to get out while you can before it escalates into something really serious. my past relationship was like that and when i had enough after over a year, my boyfriend freaked the f*ck out and now it's really difficult to sort things out between us.

at this point, it doesn't really matter if he knows how you feel because he can't be fickle with that "i love you" and a few days later "yeah i don't live you" don't let him play with you like that.

you can never love someone who hurts you like that. he is definately not worth it. love is never supposed to hurt like that. you don't need someone who will bring more pain than love.

[Cwlplover]

You need to break up with this guy and forget about him. He's schizo or something and doesn't deserve you. You don't deserve to go through pain because of a guy, and if he can't decide whether he loves you or not, give up. You'll find someone else who loves you for you and will make you happy.
If you need me, I'm always here. :)

[steezahh]

That sucks; but i going through something like that; except he doesn't ever answer blocked calls and wont answer when my friends 3-way. mann. i dunno; if you ever see him in person confront him. Thats what im going to do since the guy im talking about is my neighbor, so...yeah.

[Ington]

listen, i know what you're going through. it's best to get out while you can before it escalates into something really serious. my past relationship was like that and when i had enough after over a year, my boyfriend freaked the f*ck out and now it's really difficult to sort things out between us.

at this point, it doesn't really matter if he knows how you feel because he can't be fickle with that "i love you" and a few days later "yeah i don't live you" don't let him play with you like that.

you can never love someone who hurts you like that. he is definately not worth it. love is never supposed to hurt like that. you don't need someone who will bring more pain than love.

Agreed. Always listen to Chii about this kind of stuff.

[*mzkandi*]

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[sheepy]

well.. he should really learn to make up his mind. maybe you should just try not getting together with him, i mean if he loves you. then..he loves you he has to be 100% sure that.

[technicolour]

listen, i know what you're going through. it's best to get out while you can before it escalates into something really serious. my past relationship was like that and when i had enough after over a year, my boyfriend freaked the f*ck out and now it's really difficult to sort things out between us.

at this point, it doesn't really matter if he knows how you feel because he can't be fickle with that "i love you" and a few days later "yeah i don't live you" don't let him play with you like that.

you can never love someone who hurts you like that. he is definately not worth it. love is never supposed to hurt like that. you don't need someone who will bring more pain than love.

Yes yes. Chii knows. And she's totally right.

[ClaudelGFX]

Heh, words come's very easilly, yeah "go brakeup" and all those, but even IF he doesnt really love you or even to care about you, that shouldnt be the problem, the problem is that YOU love him and care about him too much to let him go or brakeup or whatever like that, what i can tell you is that you both need a long chat explaning yourself why one of you has to be in this sittuation in the first place, since you both have been togheder for some months and now, heh maybe one of you just got bored and wants something new, but hell ya, you both need to talk about this, and yes, you need something way much better then this, i know its hard or even very hard to get over`it and move on, but that's best thing for you right now, since you dont get anything else then pain from this such called relationship.

[whooooshy]

he breaks up with you through his aim profile?? well i think you should just try to move on. if he keeps doing this, back and forth, causing you pain, it's not worth it! and i don't even think he can switch in and out of love so quickly, i think the best thing is to just dump him - for real this time.

[xbby_charmz]

i understand what you guys are sayin but like its hard

[FREEcandies]

If you think breaking up a 5 months relationship is hard, think about 3 years, 5 years, 7 years, and who knows how long the longest breakup has been. I'm not saying that your relationship doesn't mean as much, but it helps to know that there are so many other people there having it much worse than you. It's hard to be rejected, people don't like to feel that way and they try everything to be accepted again. Stop wasting your energy. Move forward, don't move backward. Don't talk to him, keep talking to us, and talk to your pillow (aka cry).

My thoughts: Naturally, when someone leaves you, you feel as if you've been rejected. You have been. And it doesn't really matter what the reasons are, you're going to feel terrible. Broken-hearted. Really, it seems like the whole world is falling apart right now but it's not. It's your heart that's falling apart and that's understandable. Realize though that time doesn't wait for anybody. So don't stand there and stare; pick up the pieces of your heart and run after it. You will have the chance to make it whole again later. Smile. Research has shown that physiology can lead psychology (your body can affect your mind)

[xmisundersto0dx]

this is kinda a late advice. i dont no if u read this any more. but i understand exactly how you feel. sometimes u feel like you couldnt go on with out them. but truly and honstly sometimes when u dont think u can u really can. i mean i had been with a boy for 8 months and he had dumped me n i didnt eat for almost 2 weeks all i did was cry that is how bad it hurt. but i got over it. you no. he went off and got married a month later of us breaking up and it about killed me. you just have to look for the future. live each day as it comes. you may say well i wouldnt have anything to look forward to. make plans with friends in the future. so u have something to look forward to later on that weekend. or just try to get your mind off things. maybe he is confused but it sounds like to me he just doesnt no what he wants right now. sometimes he wants to be with you but sometimes he doesnt. but that is how alot of lil boys are. but i wish you soooo much luck and i hope everything works out for you. cause i no it did for me. and i couldnt be any more happyer with my life. if its ment to be you guys will get back together or you guys will work everything out.

~*~Emily~*~

[cuul_gurl]

i personally feel this guy doesnt deserve u..do u still love him? I feel that its better to stay away frm this guy coz i dnt really think he's in love with u..maybe he's just takin u for a ride...this has happened to one of my friends also....so i know what u r going thru....

[hulagurlie413]

That sucks a lot, but you really should stop hurting yourself by having an on/off again relationship with him because it'll just make it harder for you to move on with your life and to find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. As for him, he either is really messed up in the head and needs help or he enjoys playing these little games with you. No girl deserves to be treated like a yo yo, being yanked back and forth.

[megan_x3]

You should just leave him. If hes going to treat you like that, you should tell him that you dont appreciate it and wish he doesn't do it again. If hes going to tell you that he likes you but then end up dumping you again, fcuk it. Don't go back to him. Your not a gum that someone can chew and then just spit it out. Your someone, something.

[miz_sunshine]

If I were you, I would dump him. Even though you still love him, you could do better. But if you want to know why he's acting like this, confront him and talk to him about it. If he keeps ignoring you, start ignoring him. I know it's not the best idea but still cold shoulder usually works. USUALLY.

[NgocQuyen]

why do you need him to badly when he doesnt even care about you? well, from what you've said he doesn't care about you...how do you need him and love him when he continues to hurt you? i would just say the heck with him. you might not really need him, you might just need the idea of a boyfriend or someone to have as your own, if you get my drift. so why dont you just move on and find someone new thats more worth while? -queen

[raincloud]

Don't let him throw your heart around like that. Its wrong and it will leave you untrusting with a bruised heart. Find someone better.

[steezahh]

urgh i hate guys that do that. yes i`ve experienced that. its really sad. first he`s like i love you.. then later hes like over another girl showing that he does not care for me of [love me] so... i dunno.. what to do.. try to find someone else.. hes your rebound. dont take it as cheating.

[Just_Dream]

You definitely deserve better -- you deserve to have someone who will love you 120% of how much you love him.

He was probably just throwing the words "I Love You!" around. You shoudl move on and find someone else. You shouldn't have gotten back together with him. It makes you seem clingy, especially since he's been giving you the cold shoulder.

Also, what kind of loser breaks up with someone by putting it in their profile? You deserve an honest reason why he broke up with you and you should just move on. He'll learn that he lost someone very special.

:]

[*lolita kitty*]

i read a magazine article about these sort of things today.
he doesn't love you. its that simple.
end it, now, before it's too late. who gives a crap if you oh-so-neeed him right now. this is what friends are for.

edit:// gah. i just realized you made this topic long ago -_-;

[topsyturvy]

you can never love someone who hurts you like that. he is definately not worth it. love is never supposed to hurt like that. you don't need someone who will bring more pain than love.

^ Yesyes, she's right.

What a loser, breaking up with you over his AIM profile. This guy is a wimp who has a switch brain that switches from "i love her" to "i don't need her anymore" every other day.

Since you made this topic a long time ago, i hope you've gotten rid of him by now

[sheddingtears]

dude. don't give in to him. he probably has in his mind that he can always come back to you and you're just all open arms, like you need and want him that much. don't give him that confidence, because he's totally taking advantage of it, and even hurting you. next time he tells you he loves you and misses you and wants to get back to you, tell him you need time to think it over. if he cares enough, he'd call or talk to you, asking for your decision.

[jEllyBeaNs]

wow ok gurl, well wut I would do if my man was "playing games" like that, i would be like ok, then ignore him, and make him come back to me. maybe he keeps tellin you that he doesn't love you and that he does, becuz he knows that you will always go back to him, but u gotta make him not think that. you cant have him thinking that he has you rapped around his finger. so wut im sayin is, that when he says he doesn't love you, just ignore him like he ignores you, cuz eventually you will find out if he really does love you, if he comes bck. :-)

[Babi3xFoOlish]

hes retarded.
im sorry, but thats how i feel.

[HybridCountdown5]

oh hes schizo alright, the one who keeps dumping you is probably named Adam...dum dum dum

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well I have to say this; why make someone your priority if they are merely an option to you? He can't just keep playing with your feelings. It sounds to me like hes unsure of his feelings for you. You're better off without him