Gay guys are such jerks, I need advice |
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 Sep 20 2005, 03:12 PM
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 speechless  Group: Member Posts: 869 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,564  |
Yesterday I met this guy at school right. And I liked him. And when I spoke to him...he was like..."I can't handle a relationship right now". I was like...okay i can understand with school and all right? Then after school...I was inthe library...and he came outof no whre and sat next to me. I was okay... And next thing I knew...we were in the boys bathroom making out...
He was all I thought about...and I ould sleep last night cause he was on my mind. I selpt at like 1ish. Well...his free mod (period) was 13. I had that mod off too. So I was looking forward to it the whole day. But when it came...he said...In order to get good grades...i cant do this. I was so...hurt. No one has made me feel this way in a long time. Now I dont know what to do. Stay depressed or move on? But how could I move on? -Vinny |
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| *mzkandi* |
Sep 20 2005, 03:16 PM
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For some people, including myself at moment, focusing on education takes priority over a love life. Instead of being depressed about it you should be glad that he has his priorites in check and move on. You move on by focusing on things that are important in your life like school, hobbies, extracurricular activites.
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Sep 20 2005, 03:22 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
^ Agreed.
There's no reason to be depressed. I think you should just remain friends with him for the moment and always keep your education at the top of your list of priorities. |
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Sep 20 2005, 04:06 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Yeah, I think you should move on. Concentrate on your studies too, along with other things, like hang out with friends, etc.
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Sep 20 2005, 05:06 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
QUOTE(mzkandi @ Sep 20 2005, 3:16 PM) For some people, including myself at moment, focusing on education takes priority over a love life. Instead of being depressed about it you should be glad that he has his priorites in check and move on. You move on by focusing on things that are important in your life like school, hobbies, extracurricular activites.  Couldn't have said it any better. School is becoming my number one thing. And once school is settled..then...you can make moves I suppose? Depends. |
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Sep 20 2005, 05:09 PM
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 WarPath Leader. Group: Member Posts: 668 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,721 |
Heh, that's only a lame excuse, move on, since he doesnt even deserve's you. Maybe he only made a bet with his jerky friends that he can makeout with you lol,sorry. Because you know, the only way to get out off anykind of problems or to forget about them, even school or whatever is to have someone you care about beside you to talk with or whatever, just to make you forget about anything else around, like RL problems,school or anything.... iMO
QUOTE(mzkandi @ Sep 20 2005, 10:16 PM) For some people, including myself at moment, focusing on education takes priority over a love life. Instead of being depressed about it you should be glad that he has his priorites in check and move on. You move on by focusing on things that are important in your life like school, hobbies, extracurricular activites. You have your point too, but IMO you have all your life to study/work and all those, but since the time doesnt stands by and the years are passing by you with sound speed, all this stages of your life are unique and if you dont take advantage of them at the proper age, you cant do that l8r when you're getting old, and as we all know, teenage and those stages of life are unique so... i guess if you can handle to use them as equal parts, the fun, love and study/school you will have some memories from this stages of your life when you will get old, but if you burry yourself into study/school/work over your head, all you will remember is that you were wasting your time learning dunno for what project/class at one point/stage of your life, dunno what's best to remember, i let you think about that. QUOTE(L!ckitySplit @ Sep 21 2005, 12:17 AM) i had friends that broke up with their gf's or bf's because of grades, its not always a lame excuse. but if thats how he feels you shouldnt sulk about it, its never good to be depressed. Move on whether he's lying to you or not. thats my opinion, hope i helped haha How could affect your grades, you BF/GF? Loving and carring about you? O.o If you care so much about your grades why dont you ask your GF/BF to help you? because you dont like to be helped?(shame on you) Or because its more easy to brakeup with someone with that reason/excuse? Because the other person you are brakingup with, has a heart too and maybe she can't understand that reason/excuse since she is not a piece of paper from a book you are learning from. heh, am i irrelevant? This post has been edited by Claudel: Sep 20 2005, 05:37 PM |
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Sep 20 2005, 05:17 PM
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 L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
i had friends that broke up with their gf's or bf's because of grades, its not always a lame excuse. but if thats how he feels you shouldnt sulk about it, its never good to be depressed. Move on whether he's lying to you or not. thats my opinion, hope i helped haha
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Sep 20 2005, 05:23 PM
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 omnomnom Group: Member Posts: 1,776 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 180,688 |
I HATE DOULBE POSTING :(
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Sep 20 2005, 05:24 PM
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omnomnom Group: Member Posts: 1,776 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 180,688 |
Just, take it easy. Maybe you could see him on the weekends and go out on a movie night with your friends. He's a guy and they come and go. Maybe, he'll come back and atleast he's trying to be smart, and not flunking or something. Just spend time with your friends and find some other guys who aren't as well...weird. Maybe he's just lying but, once you see his report card, then maybe that could help =P
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Sep 20 2005, 05:28 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 51 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 227,995 |
QUOTE(Kristinaa @ Sep 20 2005, 6:06 PM) Couldn't have said it any better. School is becoming my number one thing. And once school is settled..then...you can make moves I suppose? Depends. Yeah, well sometimes my relationships motivate me to finish school... <33  i dunno, i just feel that u should move on but dont give up hope. alot of guys are assholes and will date u just for sex... I mean, This world's f**ked up like that... BUT NOT ALL GUYS WILL USE YOU. So dont lose hope, and dont stop being sexually active becuase of fear of STD's... Just take the necessary precautions.  hope i was able to help. If u do wanna talk dont be shy... Ive been through alot and have my share of experiences that could help u out.be safe. and btw...  making out in a library bathroom.I like!!! 
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Sep 20 2005, 05:31 PM
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L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
haha nice av and sig
 they're gonna take it away though....those bastards 
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Sep 20 2005, 08:00 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
QUOTE(mzkandi @ Sep 20 2005, 1:16 PM) For some people, including myself at moment, focusing on education takes priority over a love life. Instead of being depressed about it you should be glad that he has his priorites in check and move on. You move on by focusing on things that are important in your life like school, hobbies, extracurricular activites. Agreed , or if you really like him wait until hes doen with his first priority. if he likes you the way you like him, he should be ready to try. |
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| *xcaitlinx* |
Sep 20 2005, 09:29 PM
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yeah, but if he was leading him on with that whole makeout ordeal, then it's the guy's fault because he was misleading you. it seems to me that he was being shallow becuase he wanted a cheap thrill but then pushed you away when he didn't want you. IMO, you should lay off of him and find someone else. =)
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Sep 20 2005, 09:47 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
You should definitely move on... This guy seems like he's playing you. Maybe you should take a break from relationships right now.
Personally, I think the excuse he gave you was lame. I mean, he shouldn't have led you on if it was like that. Did he even say "I still want to be close with you" or anything? If he cared enough, he would've tried to make it work. I'm in a relationship right now of 2 years, 9 months, and still going strong. I still manage to keep up my grades. If he wanted to focus on school, he shouldn't have led you on. 
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Sep 21 2005, 04:25 AM
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WarPath Leader. Group: Member Posts: 668 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,721 |
QUOTE(Just_Dream @ Sep 21 2005, 4:47 AM) You should definitely move on... This guy seems like he's playing you. Maybe you should take a break from relationships right now. Personally, I think the excuse he gave you was lame. I mean, he shouldn't have led you on if it was like that. Did he even say "I still want to be close with you" or anything? If he cared enough, he would've tried to make it work. I'm in a relationship right now of 2 years, 9 months, and still going strong. I still manage to keep up my grades. If he wanted to focus on school, he shouldn't have led you on. heh, i wish i could not use so many words:)) you rock ;) |
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Sep 21 2005, 06:16 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
QUOTE(Claudel @ Sep 21 2005, 6:09 AM) How could affect your grades, you BF/GF? Loving and carring about you? O.o If you care so much about your grades why dont you ask your GF/BF to help you? uh no, a bf/gf CAN affect a person's grades, because we spend too much time thinking of our bf/gf and so even if you ask your bf/gf to help you with work, you'll usually end up slacking off and having fun instead. at our school, that's basically what everyone says when they're asked out. move on, if you want a relationship, find another guy who doesn't care about their grades as much. |
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Sep 21 2005, 06:25 AM
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I think you should move on, there will always be time for love some other time
 I guess you should focus on your grades because when you get older you'll totally regret it. Stay away from relationships for now.
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