accidental crush, is it just me? Options

[x shootingstar x]

Just to let yall know, this doesn't apply to me. I'm just wondering.

Okay, let's say you have a boyfriend/girlfriend. And during the relationship, you develop a crush on someone else. Is this normal?

If this has happened to you, were there any particular reasons?

Like for example, your partner doesn't give you enough attention, so you turn to someone else and talk or whatever. Then you develop a crush for them.

Could this be a sign that you should break up?

Feel free to talk openly about this topic. Just stick to the idea.

Please do not reply if you are just going to say, "I don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend," "I'm not sure," or any other unneccessary answers. First, it wastes time. Second, it is totally irrelevant. =)

EDIT
do you guys tell your gf/bf about them?

[JsWuz]

it most likely to happen in a relationship
iv had dat happen to me b4
and wut i think iz its normal
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[x shootingstar x]

it most likely to happen in a relationship
iv had dat happen to me b4
and wut i think iz its normal
u need anymore advice if u hav AIM den IM me at TrojanManJBT
if u dont
quote dis message
latur

How long did the crush last? or did it interfere with your relationship? was there any reasons? like were you bored of your gf?

haha, i'm nosy.. but I just want to know the situation.

[icy_angelx]

yea I think it is sort of a sign but whoever it is for they should like wait for a some time just incase their relationship with their bf grows stronger

[*mzkandi*]

You cant have an accidental crushes while you have a boyfriend or girlfriend . If you develop feelings for another person while in a relationship then i think it is at that time you need to question the seriousness of your current relationship. It think its pretty common for some people to develop feelings for another people while they are in a relationship. Some act on those feelings (ex. cheating or calling off the relationship altogether) or they merely decide the feelings are not strong enough for them to leave the person they are currently with

[Chii]

you can have a small crush on someone else, i think it's normal. it's not as if you're head over heels in love with another guy when you already have a boyfriend. it doesn't mean you're not committed to your boyfriend either, sh*t happens, just because he's your boyfriend doesn't mean he's the one. i think most people have tiny crushes on other people, they just don't admit it or they don't call it a crush.

[*XLilAznGrl592X*]

Well, i have something that has proven it... See, I have these 4 friends, well not all of dem r my friend but w/e. two grls 2 boys. one girl is with one guy and the other is with the other guy. while the two couples r in the relationship. While they r together, the grls start liking the opposite guy... soon they break up and 'switch' bfs.... now its starting over again, with this guy, with that guy, with ths guy. with that guy... i know it sounds weird.. and we're only in 6th grade...

[IamRad]

well it is a crush.. and crushes do fade.. generally speaking, if u dont let it go to ur head ur fine. and dont break up with the person cuz of a silly crush that may be nothing

[Shattered_Hope]

If a relationship is struggling....then yes...it is possible to develope a crush. It happens because two couples have many conflicting problems...or that they just don't have much affection for each other anymore. It's normally a sign that the relationship is past saving. But it is possible to save the relationship at this point only if the two are willing to work it out.

[__PASS10NAT3]

hmmm.. that has happened to me.. but my bf and i ust broke up.. =\.. so noww.. im free to crush on dat guy.. lol =]

[WrathOfOnigo]

That happened to me. My boyfriend was neglecting me so I went to another guy to be friends and I could have a crush on him. But my boyfriend just dumped me for other reasons.
It's pretty normal though. It's his own fault anyway! Shame on their neglect...
If this makes much snese...

[vampireduster]

i think its normal for people to do that. Alot people do that. my sister and borther have ddone that soooooooooooooooooo many times. Alot of my friends have done that

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

yea..it's happened to me. but never again. i let it happen but never again. it hasnt happened since then n that was over two years ago.

[x shootingstar x]

do you guys tell your gf/bf about them?

[enyceXaddiction]

yeah happened to me. i dont know..i still liked my bf but as i started liking the other guy i slowly grew apart from my bf. i didnt exactly know the reason why i started like the other guy...he was just way more intresting then my bf i guess

[pinayprincess]

yes it has happened to me, i just started flirting with this guy that liked me, and i did like him too -- i kept the flirting to a 'minimum' ... it turned out that i broke up w/ my ex to go out w/ him

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Hmm no that never happened to me, but I felt once that that person was really someone I should give a chance too, because they were great support. But i don't think it's called liking someone is it?

[Just_Dream]

I think it's normal, too, if it's a small crush. I guess people feel as if their significant other is lacking in quailities that the new found crush possesses. I personally think it's normal. I can't say much about it though.

[xlaydee_v]

i think it's normal because no one really said you were committed to that particular person for the rest of your life.. and plus, you usually can't control your feelings about that special someone. :) it happened to me i guess. but it didn't work out for me in the end and the guy said he didn't like me.. although he did. he still does lols

[Smilessss]

well its normal... i have a bf ryte now..and i kinda have a lil slight crush on sum1 else...but more likely i love mi bf mostly... ^_^

[shortiiex]

if that happen to be i would be very confused first...i think it is normal to delvelp crushes like that...but it kinda feels liek betyralbut if yuor crush gives you a feeling that you never had with ur bf/gf then yes it's a sign to break up

[EddieV]

I would, in fact I have, I told my girlfriend, and she understood, because things like this is pretty much normal and happens all the time..

[cookieskater2]

I'm guessing that could happen if your not getting as much as you hoped out of the relationship your already in, or if you don't love that person.

[sammi rules you]

other people have interested me and i've thought that if i'm ever not with my boyfriend for some reason, i might go for them, but i don't like them..as in i'm not interested in whether they like me or not or whatever, and i would never dump my boyfriend for another person. the other person may have some qualities i like, but i love my boyfriend and i wouldn't let someone else interfere with that.

it's perfectly normal to be interested in someone else. just don't act on that interest. it's not like you can't be at all attracted to anyone else..that would be impossible.

but it's not like i'd go call my boyfriend and be like "hey there's this guy that if i wasn't with you, i'd date"..that's kinda mean, and it would probably make him jealous. i'm sure he's had interest in other people as well, but telling eachother about it isn't something too interesting to me.

[[x]Mari[x]]

My ex had crushes on several other girls when we were together. I broke up with him for it once, but we got back together after awhile.

Ah well... we broke up for good for other reasons, so I do think it's normal, as long as someone isn't getting crushes on millions of other guys who aren't their boyfriend or madly in love with someone else.

[Winter]

I think having crushes on other people is normal. Not those major crushes though, just those "Dude that guy is hot" crushes.

I tell my boyfriend about my crushes. He doesn't mind coz he knows I'm not serious about them. They just fade away.

I don't think when you have a crush on someone else, it means that your relationship is rocky. I just notice attractive people. ~_-

[xxplicit]

I had an accidental crush. I told my boyfriend. A whole lot of drama happened there after. In the end, I'm with that accidental crush and he means the world to me. :]

[sheepy]

well i guess my ex's relationship wasnt working out...so he did like someone else. but he never told me, so i didnt find out until later.. ehh not pretty.

[whywasisostupid]

i had an accidental crush. my boyfriend and i were having problems and this guy came into my life. he was the greatest. he treated me right and he awsnt as stuck up as my boyfriend. everyone told me we were made for each other.

he came over one day while my boyfriend was on vacation. he just stopped by to see waht i was dong and when i answered the door and let him in. we hung out in my room while my parents were away. i lied down and he kissed me on the lips. just a little kiss.

i broke up with my boyfriend shortly afterwards and im still with the guy now.

[teeners4]

so yea right now i'm dating this guy, almost two months ^^ well yea i like him a lot, we go to different schools, so i don't get to see him as much as i want to. so yea...well there's this guy that i used to look before i started dating my bf. i don't have feelings for him i think. but sometimes i look at him, kind of like a mini-crush. of course i can't imagining anything happening, i just sometimes give him a 2nd glance. but im pretty good friend with him too ^^

and im not thinking of breaking up with my bf to go for this guy. i'm just wondering if other ppl go through this too.

[jsmooth4ever]

Yes alot of people go through the I have a mate and they see someone that they use to like and think about the "what ifs" but its called infatuation someone you like but have no feelings for but wished u did sure nothing will happen if you don't let it happen but yeah we all go through this at one point in our life...

[*anubis*]

it's natural in any relationship for people to just subtly look around--whether you're taken or not. it's part of human nature. we're always going to have attractions irregardless of the situation.

but most of the time you shouldn't worry too much about it. especially if it's not too serious. that's just how things are.

just because you have a car doesn't mean you can't look at other cars.

or uh... in a girl's case. just because you have a million dresses, doesn't mean you can't check out that new hot dress at the store.

what i'm trying to say is, we all go through those kind of phases in a relationship. like, when i was in a past relationship, i would still look at other girls. just because. but, even so, never did i even once think about leaving her for someone else. because i felt like i was deep enough in relationship to be comfortable and loyal enough to my girlfriend not to ever have the intention or motivation to mess around.

of course, some people are gonna go to extremes and cheat on each other, etc etc, but that's them. i mean--just because you have a boyfriend, doesn't make it wrong for you to look at other guys. unless you're amish or something.

in some cases, i think of it as a good thing. it's healthy in some ways. you might be thinking "hmm... he's kinda hot" but then you might think about your boyfriend on the other hand, and realize how lucky you are to be in a relationship and then, you might just appreciate it a little more each and every time.

you might be thinking "i want that guy" but, somewhere in your mind, you think of your boyfriend and realize "wow. i already have the perfect one."

thus, instead of shifting away from it, it could make that relationship deeper and even more meaningful.

[silver-rain]

Yeah, it's normal. I do it a lot too, whenever I see a good looking guy, or my ex, I would usually look at them. But it really doesn't mean anything. As long as you know that nothing is going to happen, there's no harm in looking.

[*stephinika*]

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=76125

similar topic, so i'll merge this. but don't worry, its totally normal. i know what you mean.

merged

[jsmooth4ever]

I have been in this situation I think it is lack of attention more like neglect not in all my cases but it happens out of infatuation and flirting and when that happens sometimes fantasy turns into reality a time where you have to choose sometimes you can just blow it off and be like ok if this is gonna hurt my relationship I need to stop this thing or my relationship isn't doing so good.

Even with that in mind I advise you talk about it with someone other than your mate unless you are sure you are going to make a decision what ever that may be it may either break or make the relationship stronger trial by temptation I call it.