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[nyred]

did you know in hawaii (my state) you only have to be 14 to have sex with an adult. and like everywhere else its older...kinda bad i guess..you can date anyone though..of anyage...is anyone dating a older/minor person? ive always liked older guys

[HongKongDong]

cool... I've always had an interest in older girls but I don't bother. I stick to my age range.

[latinprep12]

well i dislike that alot. i think that should be written over, but hey thats over there. and a other thing i dislike is when a 17 yr old dates a 20 or 21 yr old guy, or simlar to that. its so not right. [dont ask its a long story] but like funky buddha said i stick to my age range

[nyred]

i dont get why hawaii made it so low. i mean 14! kinda odd. what are they trying to say to people..that its okay to hit on teens..and its okay to lose your virginity so early..but idk im saving myself for marriage. but i was just concerned cause the guy i like is older than me and im 13-14

[HongKongDong]

It doesn't matter to me. It's all in the person and their choice, I know couples with an age difference of 15 years. I just hope that the person making this choice to go out with someone older is able to take care of him/herself. Other then that, everythings cool.

[nyred]

idk its kinda hard for me to stay in my age group esp. since all the boys are so immature..but idk not ALL older guys are mature. but i know the one i like really well. anyway, ill post links for anyone who needs it. i know people with this problem, so im willing to research/give links to anyone who needs it!

[nyred]

yeah, im really picky with guys. i can tell whos like what, esecailly in my neighborhood. theres tons of stalkers and werid guys who hit on me. i know what they want and im not willing to give it to them. but im confident hes not like that.

[latinprep12]

idk its kinda hard for me to stay in my age group esp. since all the boys are so immature..but idk not ALL older guys are mature. but i know the one i like really well. anyway, ill post links for anyone who needs it. i know people with this problem, so im willing to research/give links to anyone who needs it!

well thats a good fact and i understand what you mean, but i dislike some females that are 15,161,17 females who date 20,21,22 yr old guys i hate it, but i wonder if R-kelly will be a regular guy out there? or is he still a bad guy for the video?

[nyred]

r-kelly..well i think at the time in whatever state he was, it was illegal..i heard about the case, never really researched it though. didnt he go out with the girl from TLC when she was underage too (idk)

sexual penetration and sexual contact a minor who is age 14, if the actor is 19 years of age or older and not married to the minor.

[latinprep12]

no there was a rumor of him and aaliyah [r.i.p.], but they said thats a rumor. well i cant believe this topic info is true

[nyred]

oh yeah. that. i heard about it. too bad that we`ll never know..i miss her a lot and love her music. sad that she left so early.

[nyred]

this guy i liked...well i left stuff on his car.. (drumsticks, letters, notes, etc.) then we talked..it was really cool. hes funny. cute. nice car, good job. seems perfect to me. gosh but when i found out how old he was, i was kinda like. he doesnt look that old

[starburst-addict]

That's so stupid considering (i dont think..) people wouldn't want 14-year-olds going around getting themselves banged up and having a child. It's just wrong. They can't even handle a child @ that age, anyway. It's really bad too...they should definetely change it...

(heheh, I live in hawaii too...so yeah.)

[nyred]

yeah, cause you cant even get married in hawaii that early.

[_sarcastic_]

wow that is a pretty low age limit. i mean in my state it's like 16 or 17. yeah it's pretty weird if a minor goes out with a guy like in his 20s. iono

[coconutter]

I didn't know there was an age limit on sex...

[Ington]

You have to be 18 or older in the states to have sex. Like on Felicia's 18th birthday, we were all saying "Yay, you're legal today!"

On that note, I am Felicia's love slave.

And roxyqween808, for fucks sake, stop doubleposting. There's an edit button for a reason.

[*chaneun*]

^ Isn't Hawaii a state?

Then that would mean.. Hawaii's legal age for having sex with a minor, the minor has to be 18. :o

I'm confused.

[ParanoidAndroid]

To me it doesn't really matter. There are guys who are above 21 that usually go for their age range, suddenly fall for a younger teen. I guess you can call it pedophilism but I think it's something else (don't ask, if you do, I'll go WAY off topic). But to tell the truth it doesn't really matter to me as long as that older bf/gf doesn't force the younger bf/gf to have sex when they don't want to!

[mai_z]

My boyfriend is a year and a half older than me, so when we first started going out, he turned legal while I was still 16

[rinchan089]

Hey... isn't it considered rape (maybe it's just in New Jersey) if a minor and an adult are more than two years apart and they have sex? So if she's 17 and he's 19, it's okay or if he's 18 and she's 16 it's okay, but nothing else. I know that no matter what anyone says or if it was sex with consent, it would still be rape.

I like that idea, it keeps 12, 13, and 14 year olds from getting itno relationships with pedophilic college students.

Rin-chan

[lilliannnn]

I'm moving to Hawaii.

[shortiiex]

so can 14 year old date like a ...50 year old?

[iheartjohn]

Here in Virginia, it's unlawful to be sexually active under the age of 16.

You have to be 18 or older in the states to have sex. Like on Felicia's 18th birthday, we were all saying "Yay, you're legal today!"

On that note, I am Felicia's love slave.  

And roxyqween808, for fucks sake, stop doubleposting. There's an edit button for a reason.

Ilu, Ariel.


But you're still not legal!

[Se7eN_x]

In New York, if an adult has sex with someone who isn`t an adult, the younger one`s parents can sue the adult for rape. <- Is that making any sense? Anyway I`m not dating anyone at the moment but I did date someone older. Was that the question? lol

[Paradox of Life]

Age is just a number. I don't think there should be any rules restricting people from dating because of their age.

I think I'd rather stick with people my age, 4 years difference max. It's just .. weird to be dating someone that could know so much more and could easily take advantage of you.

[latinprep12]

I think I'd rather stick with people my age, 4 years difference max.

Thats what i go by. i wont want a full grown woman who knows alot and can go to bars while i stay home. well i rather stick to 4 yrs dating minors isnt cool either there in the age of being with friends, going places and playing hop scotch.

i think me and kat will look cute. even though were not far from age differ and yeah she also said age isnt nothing, but a number [i agree]

[Aoiro]

I'm not...
And I wouldn't.
I oldest I would date would be 3 years older than me.
It might expand later on in my life.
But not now.

[nyred]

its not like i would have sex, i was just saying. every state has different laws about that. like the sex part.

[MischievousLove]

i live in jersey & I think like most of the other states (except obviously for hawaii) adults over 18 cant date anyone under 18 (its either that or u cant date anyone two years older or younger than u but then again my best friend said they changed it to 4 years so freshmen can date seniors but idk) so i stick with guys who r around my age range. im 14 so ill date 14-16 year olds. the oldest ill date is 17 but my best friend whos 15 was dating a 22 year old from the place she worked (shoprite) & they had sex a couple times & hes in jail now for a couple years for being a "sex offender".

[nyred]

yeah cause in your friends case, thats illegal. they tried to changed the law in hawaii but the bill never got passed. but the change was only going to be to 15 not 14. so yep. idk cause 14 is low and like its no wonder all these kids in hawaii are hit on by old people.

[lilliannnn]

In the U.S. (minus Hawaii, I guess) it isn't illegal for a minor to do anything BUT sex with anybody 18+. Only the sex is illegal. And then, it's really only illegal if you press charges...

[mai_z]

In the U.S. (minus Hawaii, I guess) it isn't illegal for a minor to do anything BUT sex with anybody 18+. Only the sex is illegal. And then, it's really only illegal if you press charges...

haha nothing's illegal until you get caught.....

[iheartjohn]

^ Haha. True true.

[nyred]

yeah. i was only talking about the sex part in like the states... cause i know everywhere in the U.S. its not illegal for minors to date adults. If the parent has a problem with it, the parent of the minor can control the situation. But in Hawaii if your under 14 and get pregnate by an adult, its against the law. stupid guys in my neighborhood are just werid..they are like 20+ years old hitting on random minor girls. and there were 2 rapes in my area during the same week. but not all guys are like that. i hope.

[yukichan]

^ Isn't Hawaii a state?

Then that would mean.. Hawaii's legal age for having sex with a minor, the minor has to be 18. :o

I'm confused.

Yes, Hawaii is a state..

I'm moving to Hawaii.

LOL..

so can 14 year old date like a ...50 year old?

If both the 50 year old and 14 year old like each other I guess..


I live in Hawaii, but I never heard of that before..Hawaii has some strange people in the government..

[aznhunnie6o1]

Last year, when I wasn't in highschool yet, a teacher at my highschool dated a student and had sex with her I think. Then he got arrested.. I think.

[silver-rain]

My boyfriend is a year and a half older than me, so when we first started going out, he turned legal while I was still 16

Haha, yeah same here. When my boyfriend turned 18, I was still 16, so I kept teasing him and telling him that what we were doing was techincally illegal...

[nyred]

I learned about it just a few days ago..I always wondered about the law in Hawaii because my older sister and people brought it up a lot. So i did research and stuff. My parents are shocked at this as much as i am. They think its kinda nuts.

[x3chrissyx3]

I certain age range is okay in my eyes.

When I was 14, I was dating an 18 year old.
^ I don't think that's horrible...only 4 years, come on.
Plus, if you have consensual sex, it's no biggie.
(unless the boy or girl decides to be a F**K and be like yo, I got raped.)

When my friend was 17, she was dating a 27 year old
^ I find that less acceptable than the above for some reason

Now I'm 21 and my husband is 24

I've never dated anyone my age, lol.

[latinprep12]

I certain age range is okay in my eyes.

When I was 14, I was dating an 18 year old.
^ I don't think that's horrible...only 4 years, come on.
Plus, if you have consensual sex, it's no biggie.
(unless the boy or girl decides to be a F**K and be like yo, I got raped.)

When my friend was 17, she was dating a 27 year old
^ I find that less acceptable than the above for some reason

whoa!!!! 14 and its cool to date a 18yr old? ppshh thats not a good sight to see. i cant see that it seems and sounds like a father and his daughter, because theres a big age gap there and 17 and 27? god da*n

[*suddenly she*]

well thats a good fact and i understand what you mean, but i dislike some females that are 15,161,17 females who date 20,21,22 yr old guys i hate it, but i wonder if R-kelly will be a regular guy out there? or is he still a bad guy for the video? 

161, ahaha.
okay, i'm just being stupid.

there's a girl i know who's fifteen and is going crazy over a twenty-one-year-old.
and a fourteen year old.
she avoids the bubble question. it's kind of scary.

*smacks girl*

[tmauze]

i'm moving to hawaii! really though? i thought in all states, except if it's a two year or less difference, sex was illegal between a minor and an adult?

[latinprep12]

161, ahaha. 
okay, i'm just being stupid.

there's a girl i know who's fifteen and is going crazy over a twenty-one-year-old. 
and a fourteen year old. 
she avoids the bubble question. it's kind of scary.

*smacks girl*

lmao i just saw that my bad =]

[latinprep12]

my boyfriend is 3 years older than me. when i'm 17, he's 20. what the hell is your point? what's so not right about it?

a big a** age gap thats my point. you was probably having your middle school prom and he was prob graduating from high school and idk i just dont support that fact. its ok to date 4 or more yr apart

[sugar_baby246]

a big a** age gap thats my point. you was probably having your middle school prom and he was prob graduating from high school and idk i just dont support that fact. its ok to date 4 or more yr apart

3 years isn't exactly a big a** age gap at all because when you're 34 or something and are married to a 31 year-old, it's not really a big deal.

[nyred]

3 years isn't exactly a big a** age gap at all because when you're 34 or something and are married to a 31 year-old, it's not really a big deal.

yeah thats true. my parents are like 5 years apart. but when your young, people make a big deal about being older/younger than the person your going out with. its kinda silly.

[Paradox of Life]

My grandma and grandpa are 10 years apart and they didn't seem to have many problems. I don't think age matters. Love is love aka mental compatability and the number of years you've existed on this planet should have no impact on it.

[3ssx]

same in canada... =/
you only have to be 14.

[nyred]

okay, so hawaii isnt the only one in north america who has that law.
i wouldnt be suprised that you only have to be 14 in canada because
they are pretty leaneant(sp). like with the movie ratings, t.v ratings, etc.
i remeber they couldnt show one degrassi episode where manny gets
an abortion in the U.S. because it was innapropriate or w.e but still,
14...i mean they already let EVERYONE date ANYONE, they should
make the age be like 18/17 for sex because i mean when you turn
14, are u supposed to be looking forward to being able to have sex with an
adult? Id want to be like 17/18 because your like an adult already and it
seems more normal if you know what i mean.

[iheartjohn]

whoa!!!!    14 and its cool to date a 18yr old? ppshh thats not a good sight to see. i cant see that it seems and sounds like a father and his daughter, because theres a big age gap there and 17 and 27? god da*n

Max, my fiance is 18 years older than me. Do you have a problem with that?

[Ington]

whoa!!!!    14 and its cool to date a 18yr old? ppshh thats not a good sight to see. i cant see that it seems and sounds like a father and his daughter, because theres a big age gap there and 17 and 27? god da*n

I'm 14 and Felicia's 18.






Anyway, my parents are 10 years apart. Sure, if you're in third grade and your boyfriend is 19 and in college, ten years is a big f**king deal. But later on in life, its nothing at all.

Especially when you're like Felicia up there and don't even look young. Felicia's freaking... 23.

[latinprep12]

Max, my fiance is 18 years older than me. Do you have a problem with that?

18 years? wow and no i dont got a problem, but its just that all the good-looking girls are taken by the older men and us young teens get the leftovers : girls in the back of the class for example

[jsmooth4ever]

Well in MD if you are 17 you are still a minor and still can be charged with rape it is true yeah you could date at any age really but crossing the line like haveing sex before you turn 18 is considered rape by law when you turn 18 you are considered an adult now when I see a man thats 21 dating a 16 year old I think why cant he get a person their age.

[mai_z]

18 years? wow and no i dont got a problem, but its just that all the good-looking girls are taken by the older men and us young teens get the leftovers : girls in the back of the class for example

max, max, max....stop contradicting yourself! There's nothing wrong with dating someone older than you. After highschool, unless the age gap is like 30 or 40 years, it's not that big of a deal.

[nyred]

max, max, max....stop contradicting yourself! There's nothing wrong with dating someone older than you. After highschool, unless the age gap is like 30 or 40 years, it's not that big of a deal.

you said it perfectly.

[iheartjohn]

I'M SORRY FOR BEING ATTRACTED TO MEN WITH EXPERIENCE!!!!!






Well, that felt good to get off my chest.

[latinprep12]

^ that's what i'm trying to say.

max, stop contradicting yourself for the sake of kissing ass.

::looks around:: whoes ass?

and all im saying is when your a young teen and date someone whoes in the 20's it isnt right to me, its alot of that in newyork and i never liked my friends doing it.

[f]eleeza you got a point, because i also know girls devlop before guys mentally
btw when you hit 18 or 19 or w/e and i know its ok to date someone whoes 40 or 50. alot of superstars do it

[miss barnes]

umm i think when both are under 21 then 4 years is a little old. when you get older then i dont think it matters. the oldest ive dated was 17 (when i was 14). now i'm talking to a boy thats 17 and ill be 16 in 3 days so i think it just depends on the situation

in mississppi where the boy im talking to lives at..its stat. rape for us to do it and here in tennessee its not but we dont care and it hasnt happened yet plus my birthday is almost here

[latinprep12]

well read this. this is the laws in fla and you might see what im saying everyone has a differ outlook on stuff, because of there backgrounds, where they live and all. but read

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Default Minor Dating Laws In Florida
I am dating a 20 year old soon to be 21 and I am 15. We are not have sex we are just dating. What are the laws on this, could he get in trouble? We live in Florida. Will the laws be different when I turn 16? If you could tell me the laws for him being 21 and me being 15 and also the laws of him being 21 and me being 16. Thanks
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You are not of the age of consent at 15-years-old. Therefore, your boyfriend is breaking the law if you are having any kind of sex at all. Because you are so young, I'd advise you to wait until you are at least 18-years-old, when you become a legal adult. For more information on consent laws, go to this website: http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/un...ent/index.shtml.

Good luck.

Im 16, and my boyfriend is 20, were planning on moving out together soon with in about 7 months, what i want to know is, is this illegal to do in the state of Florida? I have a mother and a father who doesnt like this guy and were engaged but cant get married until i turn 18. Is this illegal? someone please help! i've tryed to look up the info under Florida statue laws ch. 39 and 60 and still found nothing. if anyone has any input please help!

Dating is not illegal, but some types of sexual contact could open him up to criminal liability.
Click on link to teen marriage laws and scroll to FL and see if neighboring states may be better.
http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/un...aws/index.shtml

this is from a other site i go on

[Cwlplover]

My friend's 15 but likes this 21 year old...It's not that bad though. I don't think so. He's a GREAT guy...Into God...Would never intentionally hurt her.

If only it wasn't illegal. ;)

[nyred]

before actually dating someone older than you, you should make sure you know them well enough. then you wouldnt get into problems with the law. your friends should hang out with that person, and then you should hang out with the person..or ask the older persons friends how he/she really acts because that could help determin how a person really is i.e what they do if they get mad, if they have a temper, etc. but thats just my opinion.

[mzislandpinay]

it's okai to date at any range of people.. but i mean to have lyk sex with them is pretty akward.. a 14 and 20 in beD? hmm... doesn't seem right...lol

I'll stick to boys that are lyk 15-18 are fine with me.. lol

[*xcaitlinx*]

Hey... isn't it considered rape (maybe it's just in New Jersey) if a minor and an adult are more than two years apart and they have sex?  So if she's 17 and he's 19, it's okay or if he's 18 and she's 16 it's okay, but nothing else.  I know that no matter what anyone says or if it was sex with consent, it would still be rape.

I like that idea, it keeps 12, 13, and 14 year olds from getting itno relationships with pedophilic college students.

Rin-chan

yup. atleast our state has some common sense.

i think a 14-year-old dating a man in his 20s or 30s is simply gross and raunchy. that's like...dating your dad! ew.

[nyred]

yup. atleast our state has some common sense.

i think a 14-year-old dating a man in his 20s or 30s is simply gross and raunchy. that's like...dating your dad! ew.

excuse me. it isnt even wrong. dating is LEGAL in all states no matter what age. its just the sex. so get your facts right. and my dad is 50 and im 13 so no,its not like dating your dad. i dated someone in their 20's. its no big deal. and its not like we ever had sex. again, im saving myself till marriage. sorry if i sound so mean. i can be a bitch.

[nyred]

DOUBLE POST. people will hate me for it. screw em.

[bad_girl]

until i went to a summer camp in portland this summer, i never knew that there were rules about dating anyone older.. my god. we dont have that in HK!! i think sex is 18 or so... ppl do it anyways. haha.

[nyred]

my sisters bf lived in HK. yeah its only u.s. that has these rules i suppose

[toria66622]

my boyfriend iz 9 months younger than me:) but I love him to death

[sebulbaslovechil...]

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