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 Sep 5 2005, 08:01 AM
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 <3  Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493  |
if your bf tells you he was fooling around (innocent stuff) with another girl. is that cheating? or i don't know what to do. i mean he doesn't let me go near any guys but he can even fool around with girls, and he even went to this gathering with mostly girls, at first he said he wasn't going so i was relieved then the next day he messaged me and told me the gathering was a blast. whenever i talk bout my guy friends like ONE of them, he gets all worked up i don't think that's really fair. i dont' know what to do
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Sep 5 2005, 09:24 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Even if he did have a blast, it's common sense for a guy to tell his girl that it was a drag without her. If i were in your situation, i would dump him. I can't stand other girls touching my guy. He's treating you unfairly.. why does he get to play around with other girls but you can't with guys?
Talk to him. Unless his "policies" change, i don't think it'll be worth it to stay with him, since this is only going to continue happening in the future. |
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Sep 5 2005, 10:14 AM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Yeah, I would talk to him first. It is not fair how he can hang around with girls, but you can't even mention them. And, if he doesn't change soon, maybe you should dump him.
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Sep 5 2005, 10:44 AM
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He sounds a bit possessive. If he's not comfortable with you even talking about a guy friend, he's probably not comfortable with the relationship. I'd bail out before it's too late.
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Sep 5 2005, 11:23 AM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
^ yeah.
SOMETiMES this is how abusive relationships start. he cant stand you talking to other guys, he tries to make you not talk to other guys and shit. he wasnt cheating if he was wrestling, if it was just that; wrestling. but if it was fooling around/wrestling then you need to tell him he cannot be feelin all up on other females like that. |
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Sep 5 2005, 12:20 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
you need to lay down the law in your relationship.
it's not fair that he can go hang out with a whole bunch of girls while you have to stay away from guys who are just friends. he seems very controlling...some guys like that screw around with other girls on the side and make sure they have a girl (you) that will always be there. or he just wants to be with you so when something "better" comes along he can dump you for her. i'm not sure if those possibilities apply to your relationship but you really need to talk about this. it's completely unfair  |
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Sep 5 2005, 01:31 PM
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It`s not fair for you. Talk to him first, but if he won`t listen, I would dump him.
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Sep 5 2005, 01:35 PM
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 M.a. x. Group: Member Posts: 1,913 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,641 |
im a guy and from a girls point of view i think ^ what she said is the best thing said...talk 2 him and if agreeing on a basic level isnt working tell him to pack his stuff and leave
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Sep 5 2005, 01:38 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
i'd be mad... its just FLIRTING and flirting isnt really cheating [unless it was like "HARD CORE" flirting] i would make a big deal out of it b/c if your a boy in a relationship THEN your foolin around w/ another girl; thats not cute...
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Sep 5 2005, 01:45 PM
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 Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
a guy can be pretty possesive because of many reasons.. he either really loves you and afraid to lose you or is just strict.. the best thing to do is talk to him.
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Sep 5 2005, 01:45 PM
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Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
OOOPS DOUBLE POST.. SOMEONE DELETE THIS ONE FOR ME..
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Sep 5 2005, 04:14 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
all of you are probably right, sometimes he seems so sweet sometimes he's just plain controlling and pocessive. i'll try talking to him about it.
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Sep 5 2005, 06:01 PM
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Yeah, I would say talk to him. It's not fair at all that he gets to have more priveledges (sp?) in the relationship then you do.
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Sep 5 2005, 09:18 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
great now there's another problem, i talked to him about it everything went fine. and then when i brought up the topic that homecoming was coming, he said that i couldn't go with any guy, just friends (girls) to the dance. and he has his like a month from mine, and i'm sure he'll be asking another girl to the dance (we live in different places) because that's what he did last year
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Sep 5 2005, 09:22 PM
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dump him. he's definitely no good. i think it's stupid and selfish for him to say that YOU can't talk or hang out with any other guys but HE can. DUMP HIM.
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Sep 5 2005, 09:22 PM
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 sheryl Group: Member Posts: 120 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 142,179 |
there's def. sth going on. i suggest you better start telling him it's bothering you or just break it off with him. i mean he obviously doesn't respect the fact that you need or have guy friends. he's not treating you fairly
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