Premarital Sex, Yes or No? Options

[*AngelicEyz00*]

see, the thing with sex is that, if a guy does it, no one will ever know except him and the girl, if he doesn't boast about it to his friends. For a girl, there are so many risks, and when she gets married in the future, and she has her wedding night, her husband will know, and then it'll be hard for him to trust her. I mean, if she got raped, sure, he'd believe her, but if she was willing, then it's harder for there to be trust in their relationship. Guys tend to get off easy on a lot of things. So the answer for me is no.

how will the husband know if she's had sex before if she hasn't said anything?

[tomorrow_nvr_com...]

I think its wrong, end of story!

[*AngelicEyz00*]

i don't see much wrong with it, but i guess that would be cuz of the environment i grew up around

[TPVolleyballer05]

I had been having sex since I was 16 and I've recently decided to become a born again virgin because the bible says that that is God's intention. Sex is God's gift and it is not meant to be used until you find that perfect partner and after you are married.

So I say, no, premarital sex is not ok. And I think two people can be even more intimate and more trusting of each other if they hold off on sex. Once sex comes into the picture, all these problems and trust issues start coming up... it's not worth it... plus it's probably a message from God that you're doing something wrong.

great great great point!!! girl...you have touched my life!! I am abstinant...a lesson that I had to learn the hard way which was taught by my older sister....and now Roxanne....and yes i dont think premaritial sex is right (okay...that doesnt make any sense...but in other words no to premaritial sex)

[sweetlyz]

its all up to each individual .. but i presonally believe that its alright, but as an act of real love ya`know? i also believe that there`s nothing wrong with waiting till you`re married, its a very sacred thing .. so i can understand that.

[br0kenheaRtsz]

i am for premarital sex.. as long as your not over doing it.. having sex before marriage is fine as long as its with someone who means a lot to you

[darkcoldplace]

YEA!!!!!!!

this is considered spamming dont do it again this a warning.

[SupraS15]

For those of you who are saying premarital sex is bad... what if like both peeps are in school and they're trying to save up to get married but haven't yet (and are planning to)... and they are *ahem* doing it... -__- Still bad? =/

[ul0vejoy]

Answers vary depending on person's beliefs. Well for me, the answer is no.

yea, i think it depends on what you believe and all..
but i dont think premarital sex is ok.

but ehh.. whatever floats your boat, right?

[*krnxswat*]

For those of you who are saying premarital sex is bad... what if like both peeps are in school and they're trying to save up to get married but haven't yet (and are planning to)... and they are *ahem* doing it... -__- Still bad? =/

Well, that still is premarital sex

[mistahpho]

lol iono

[MrTurtle]

i say yes it is as long as you have protection and neither party is being forced into it.

[silver kiss]

yeah sex after marriage now doesn't mean anything anymore, i mean so wat marriage(it doesn't mean forever anymore)? cuz there can always be divorced and get another partner. so wat the point?
this doesn't mean i support havin' sex casually though, just if u feel like it really the time , it really the feeling then it up to u, don't let some rule or tradition get in ur way... follow ur heart

[zoner014]

[FONT=Times][SIZE=1][COLOR=green]i think it is fine to have sex......i have done it once when i was 15 it isn't all that great...my gf and I were haveing dry sex before and it was pretty much teh same....so we decided that we weren't going to have sex anymore and we stuck to dry sex. But what is everyones take on oral sex....is that still against the bible?

[ryfitaDF]

its not ok because its in the bible and blah blah blah but people do it anyway so... yea

the bible also says have faith in god, but who really does that now a days, anyway?

[twistedfate]

i don't see why people have to get married in the first place. i'm fully aware that what i've just said has shocked most of the female romanticists, but surely, marriage is just a bunch of paperwork, and just because you've had a ceremony and signed a few papers shouldn't really make you "love" your partner even more than before. If a couple gets on well enough without getting married and lives happily ever after, surely that's just as beautiful as any other married couple doing the same thing. Marriage is just an agreement made by the law - that's what I sometimes think anyway.

THANK THE MIGHTY BEING OF CREATION(whoever that may be) Houstan we have lift-off. Even though i am a female romanticist, I believe that if you really love the person and feel that there is a commitment there, you use protection, and both parties consent, then more power to ya. Like you said, just because you get married, doesn't mean your gonna love them more than you did two seconds before you said your vows.

[scooter]

i think its ok if youre in love

[Got Shibby?]

For some it's not okay because they are not ready/religous. For other it its ok. It all depends on the person.
For me, it's not really a big deal.

[kirbymuixo]

There are many viewpoints out there, some of which include the opinion that sex is all about making love and intimacy and that it should be okay because of the fact that two people just want to express their love to each other, regardless of whether they are married or not. Another viewpoint would be due to religious reasons, such as the fact that if you're a Christian, you would believe that one should abstain from primarital sex until one gets married. God had created sex as a sacred act that should be enjoyed between a man and a woman after marriage, but not before marriage.

It really depends on what your standpoint is on this situation and what you truly believe in, and everyone should be entitled to their own opinion. If you believe that it would only be proper to hold off on sex until marriage, so be it. If you believe that it would be okay to have premarital sex just to express love and committment to your significant other, so be it. But if you were to ask me, I would say to hold off on sex until marriage, and that would be from my own viewpoint of this situation.

Aside from that, you would also have to consider the consequences of having premarital sex. You could possibly contract sexually transmitted diseases from your sex partner or have an unwanted pregnancy, possibly leading to an abortion. You could decrease your chances of these problems with the use of protection, like condoms and such. But statistics show that even these methods of protection would not always work 100% of the time. The best method for prevention is abstinence.

[islandkiss]

I don't think it's okay.. you'd be in risk of getting STDs and putting yourself in a whole lot of stress by getting pregnant. not to mention.. you might ruin you're future.

[swteznitemarez]

eh... maybe when you're like 20sumthin... man, i'm prude

[mouse_3k]

doesnt matter......their decision, not mine.

[wayne]

doesnt matter......their decision, not mine.

damn.. we should end the entire thread right now! lol u like... gave a thug-ke answer. hahaha

[dreamerOi]

i think 85% of my friends had sex already 5-10% got pregnat. 3% actually kept it. the rest had abortion, put up for adoption, etc. but i think you shouldnt cause you never know what can happen and if you do i recommend you keep it. cause blah blah but yea longggg

[JasonAkAWolf]

i think 85% of my friends had sex already 5-10% got pregnat. 3% actually kept it. the rest had abortion, put up for adoption, etc. but i think you shouldnt cause you never know what can happen and if you do i recommend you keep it. cause blah blah but yea longggg

true true....I think most of my friends that are under 18 have had more sex than I do.