sex before marriage is morally wrong because it promotes an already growing population rate that cannot be controlled due to lack of parents. If you love somebody and are dedicated to each other, you dont exactly need a piece of paper saying you are married, when u just know ur with the person u will be with forever you can seek the blessing of God on your coupling. but you can not be divorced either way you choose to be married, because it is adultery for both you and your new partner.

Personally, I don't think the parents care about their kids that much if their going to say it's okay. I mean what about pregnancy? What if the child is ready, but she doesn't have a job yet? I guess all the support and everything goes to the mom to care for. And no, I don't think that's encouragement. It's more of like "I don't care what you do" statement. Hm... And HELL FCUKING NO I wouldn't tell my kids it's okay. Shoot...I'll beat their asses.

well.. my parents(actually it's just my mom) she tells me that it's normal.

but just don't do anything when you're without financial aid..
just in case a condom breaks and everyone's happy.

Hm.
I don't think it's okay, but yet I sort of do.
They're saying they want you to be ready and not.. not ready, XD and that shows that they show concern for you.

But yet, some kids might take it as encouragement.. which isn't good.. a parent "encouraging" their son/daughter to have sex, even though they pretty much aren't, but some kids might take it the wrong way and see it as encouragement.

i think its ok if their parents to say its okay...lol?

would i tell it to my kids?
i think ima say something like this "i know u wont listen to everything i say,but if u do intend to do it,just make sure we dont find out"

^ Okay, tell me where you live so I won't raise my kids near your neighborhood.

i think its better then having the parents lock them away until their like 30..but thts just me

Sure, if I ever have kids they can have sex when they think they are ready. If they get pr3egnant or get STD's, their life. Learn from their own mistakes.

Well in the states kids have sex even when they are not ready... and yes i think i'll tell my kids you can have sex when you are ready but i would't encourage them and tell them to go screw anyone..

yea cause if not they are jus gunna b rebellious and think there iz somethin exciting about it cause ur not allowed to do it

kids should not have kids.....

If you're ready to have sex and you're not married, then go ahead and have it.

I see no reason why parents would be "encouraging" their children to have sex if they're telling them about protection. That's smart, not bad.

i dont even care what my kids will do. they can go out get pregnant get HIV, get drunk, shoot ppl......shoot themselves....i dont care...it aint my problem.


HAHA JK!!

i'd tell them to wait till marrage or i'll kick em out. settled.

i guess im ok with that.


i wouldnt tell my kids that..but still..i can see the logic behind it.

This is a foolish notion on several levels. First, teenage pregnancies have been down over the past 15 years despite "moral" messages about sex before marriage on the decline. It's due to the increase of condom sense. (sorry, bad pun) This is hardly contributing to the population problem. Most reproduction in America is done in the 20's, a time when the parents should have enough responsiblity. If indeed the population growth rate is the problem, then the problem lies in developing nations where the birth rate has yet to decline with the death rate, creating a huge distance between the b and d curves. However, the problem with human population isn't a problem of rates. It's about the carrying capacity of the earth, it's K value. Human population is already over that level, if American standard of living is applied, and American resource consumption rates are applied to everyone. As we know this isn't the case, and efforts to control birth rates have all been foolish measures with little or no impact. The problem of population growth lies in consumption, and should not even be broached in a debate about premarital sex.

I don't think they are encouraging it. I think it has a lot to do with when you tell someone not to do something - it makes them want to do more so then if you tell them they can. It's not like the parents are saying 'Go have sex!' It is just letting them know that in reality it is there call on what they do and when they do it. No one can really control what you do except for you. I know tons of kids that have sex even though their parents says don't. I think a parent would rather have their child confide in them. That way the kid can get whatever birth control they will need.

As for what I would tell my kids. I don't know exactly. I don't really plan on having any, but I would probably tell them the same thing my parents told me.

wow...what an akward position a child would be in hearing that from their parents.

i am assuming that "my kids" will have sex before they get married. I am also assuming that i will want to know as much about their lives as possible; so in saying they can have sex when they are ready- i might throw on, but you should talk to me about it. mixtape- im basically just saying right on.

I'd just tell them to have sex when they're ready... as long as it's not at like.. 12 or something

what if the kiddos start fornicating before you tell them its ok?

sticky situation

No pun intended?

heck no.

do you really think that if someone doesn't have sex their whole lives, then they will die, or not function right? cuz if you do...well then you're wrong, but if you don't, then that whole statement isn't right. and besides, you can have intimacy and love without having sex. no?

but anyway, definitily NOT going to tell my kids its okay to have sex until their married.

if you assume that your kids are gonna have sex before marriage, then they probly will becuz you're not doing anything to stop it.

What's wrong with sex before marriage? Sex before marriage != wanton promiscuity.

i wouldnt say sex is a required function for one specific being to live, but i would say your["saint" ruth's] view of sex is radically conservative.

good point there^. If they are to "function" on their own, you assume they will have sex. funny how that works out.

and if you are 'definitly NOT' going to tell your kids its ok, tell us why?