What happens when you feel like you're family isn't your family anymore? Whether its because of an overall unfamiliarity or a falling out, what do you when you feel so far removed from them, that they no longer are much of a priority?

Is it possible to bond with people who aren't related to you in such a way that they replace the need or want for the family you already have?

Discuss.

I actually don't speak to my mom anymore due to her controlling husband. I actually have lived with my aunt for almost a year and my mom hates the closeness that my aunt and I have always had. I think that I won't ever speak to my mom again just because of all of the shady stories I have heard about her. Sucks though because I can't be there to teach my lil bro certain things or to watch my lil sis grow up.

must be some really shady stories........



i suppose friends can replace family. i always hear people saying that about their friends, that they are like family. so i'm guessing a lot of people feel that way. i don't get how personally, but that's me. i've never had a friend i cared about even 1/16th as much as a family member other than my girlfriend. but i duno cause i have a tight family. maybe if my family sucked then i would be able to attempt to replace them with unrelated people. i feel sorry for a lot of people who aren't close with their family.

It was just stories of how my mom kept my dad out of my life when she knew how much I wanted a relationship with him.

My family outside of my mom I am very tight with though.

This is going to sound awfully cliché, but for me, family is where the heart is. I do not have a lot of family and I certainly don't have a lot of "close" family. I come from generations of religious types and I am not at all religious. While they accept it, there's a huge, unspoken gap that will never be completely comfortable.

I have major emotional intimacy reservations and it's put me in position in life that nurtures solitude. As such, family is my son and I. After that is what I consider peripheral family - my mom, brothers and sisters and the like. My boyfriend is slowly becoming a part of my emotional family, and it is terrifying.

it's more like famILY.

derived from fam, which is a slang term of describing a group of people who love you no matter what. they support what you do, and they care for you.


my family is nice.. i wish they would just accept me.. :/

why don't they? Is it because you look like philjay?

I'm with Javonn (sort of, haven't seen the name philjay in a long time), as far as wondering why your family wouldn't accept you.

wait from what i've observed it seems like your mom accepts you pretty well

i mean you say you talked pretty casually to your mom about your first anal experience and giving your first blowjob and ish, unless you were joking I don't know

i don't believe friends can replace my family
no one can replace my brother
no one can replace my mom, aunts , my uncles
unless this/these friend/friends is someone you can trust, someone you can rely on in times of need or any tough situation you may go thru

Family is a hot latina wife and 2 daughters, and FOUR RINGS BITCH

Family is the people that you love and at the same time want to kill because they annoy the crap out of you.

family isnt just who you have relation to. anyone who treats you like family and loves youjsut as much. someone who thinks ofd you as family can be even better than family. you shouldnt classify people by there rilation to you you should by haow they treat you think of you and waht you think of them

They say friends are the family you choose but i just dont see that. I have friends that are really close to me but they will never be family. Family is #1 in my book and will always be. There is nothing that they could do to me that wouldn't be forgiven. We may have some tough times sometimes but family always comes first.

i don't have any direct contact with my family; my older siblings are cold, heartless people, my mother has passed on, and my father in a mean, abusive man. needless to say, my family is quite disfunctional. my little sister and grandmother are the only two family members i am consistantly in touch with.
over the years, i have met people that i respect, look up to and feel affection for. i love them: they're my family.

i can understand how some people are closer with friends than they are with family. i have friends that are like family to me and people i've grown up with that i call cousins. for now, the friends are just like family. i don't think i could ever replace my family but i can definitely see myself becoming very distant with them in the future.

edit- to answer the first question: i tend to distance myself emotionally and sometimes physically. i distract myself from whatever the problem is and i spend less time around the house.