Before I say what I want this topic to be about, I need to give everyone a little bit of background info.
There is this guy who I've known for the past 7 years. We've had math class together for the past three years, and two of those three years he's been nothing but a pain in the neck to me. But I've always been uncontrollably attracted to him. We have amazing chemistry, and I know for a fact that it isn't just in my head. Well, we started really talking this year (senior year) and the chemistry just grew, as did my attraction for him. We had this great relationship, an innocent, flirty one and we never did anything past a hug or a, "Hey sexy," comment. We hung out once (back in April) and he was tickling my neck, playing with my hair, saying he wanted to kiss me, etc. The only problem? He has a girlfriend.

So, now to the main point.

Yesterday, I picked him up to hang out. Our flirting had only increased since April, but it was still only innocent. We didn't even do anything except buy some dog food for my dog, and get something to eat (well okay, maybe not. We played the nervous game a couple of times, but I was driving so it didn't get too intense).
Then he invited me over.
I told him "No, I should probably go home".
He said "You have a little bit of time, don't you?"
I said "Yeah, I guess so," and went inside.

Once inside his house, we were just talking, goofing around. He said some sort of annoying comment, so I gave him the finger and said "F**k you."
He said, "Okay, let's go."
I said, "Okay, let's go."

He grabbed my hand and led me to his bedroom and told me to lay down. I sat on his bed, but the whole time I kept thinking about his girlfriend. I got up and put my shoes on, heading toward the door to leave.
"I have to go home," I said.
"No, you don't," he responded, "You can stay just a little longer, right? And plus, we haven't gotten to play the nervous game again." He closed the door shut, locking the deadbolt, "Does this scare you?" he asked.
"No," I responded.

He grabbed my hand, I took off my shoes and went back to his room. He ran his hands down me, playing the nervous game. Then he said, "Your turn," before getting past my side.
I ran my hand down him, his breathing growing harder, and I undid his belt, and gave him a hj. I stopped myself, though, and walked out, telling him that I had to go home. He followed me out and cornered me, we started to kiss, things escalated very quickly, but I pulled myself away and told him I really had to leave. The whole time I kept thinking about his girlfriend.

I go home and find out that he told his girlfriend, who then proceeds to call me asking me "How does it feel to kiss another girl's boyfriend?" I hung up on her.

I felt like total crap the whole day today, and math class with him was just downright torture. We didn't say a word to one another, and we sit right next to each other.

What I want to know is:
Did I mess everything up with him?
It wasn't entirely my fault, right?
Does he have a right to be mad at me?
What should I do now?

I want them to break up, but that's very unlikely, because then I'd really be winning, and obviously, his girlfriend doesn't want me to win.

Did I mess everything up with him?
Nope, If anything you just proved it's mutual.

It wasn't entirely my fault, right?
Not at all its a two person game, and it sounds like he followed you when you left. I think he wanted more.


Does he have a right to be mad at me?
If I was a guy I would be mad too. What a tease.


What should I do now?
Nothing, you said it yourself they are not going to break up.


Sounds like what you are really trying to say is should you f*ck him or not.
You kinda have two options...
1. f*ck him, which will probably make you seem like a slut considering you know he has a gf.
2. Dont f*ck him<---I say go with this one.

Let me clear something up before I get any more replies.

Did I mess everything up with him?
As in, will our relationship ever be the same. Will he get over all this drama someday?

Does he have a right to be mad at me?
As in, does he have a right to be mad because we hooked up. Not because I left just as things were getting hot and heavy.

What should I do now?
As in, should I let it blow over? Should I try talking to him about it? Should I never talk to him again?

I'm not trying asking if i should f**k him or not. I just don't want this one thing to ruin our friendship. But I'm sort of afraid that it already has.

For rephrasing all your questions.


He will get over the drama if and when he is not with this girl anymore. I think as long as they're together she'll stand between yall. He has no reason to be mad at you but he will be and it is because you left him hanging. If you had finished what you started do you think he would have told his gf? No, because that would of made him look bad he was just doing it to make you look bad. Yes, let it blow over. No, dont talk to him about it. Just be cool if he talks to you talk to him back if he doesn't dont sweat it.

great advice

Maybe he told his girlfriend about it because you didn't let him go further and all he wants from you is sex. He probably knows that his girlfriend will tell her friends and word will spread and it will make you look bad. Maybe he knew that you were trying to be respectful to his girlfriend by not doing anything, so locked the door and tried not to let you leave.

dundundun

You don't need the drama, and besides if he dumps his girlfriend to get with you then you'll have to live life knowing that he's more than likely getting a hand job from some other woman. (Well, maybe he'll tell you like he told his current g/f.)

your biggest warning sign that this boy is up to no good is when he decides not to respect your boundaries, he decided he wasnt going to respect his girlfriend by leaving her if he felt he had feelings for you. and then when he decided to make you look bad by telling his girlfriend you kissed him as if you were the one instigating it.

It seems like a giant game hes playing because so far hes had the control in all of the negative events that occurred.

I couldn't even bother pursuing a future with this fellow because hes up to no good darling.

Yeah, I agree with hypnotique on this. This situation is a pretty big flag telling you that this kid's just looking for a way to unbutton your pants. He still likes his girlfriend, but hey, some guys just can't control themselves around attractive women.

maybe you should use dis

None of these represent a change I can believe in.

this thread cracks me up. i love when people tell their stories and recount the exact words exchanged through a whole convo. i duno how they do it.

you dont remember conversations word for word? lol
i do it all the time as ive always been cursed with remembering everything.

i remember some if they are significant but i know some people who remember nonsense convos about nothing word for word

Sounds like a playa' to me.

truly this isnt all your fault you can only try to do the right thing so many times when you relay want what is wrong. he knew he had a girl adn he knew that you wnated him. it wasnt fair to you to make you have to hold back. if he was a real friend he woudnt have put you in that situation. he sounds like a jerk, you tryed and seams you fell that happens you cna only be good for so long... i wish you good luck but dik if you will be able to be is friend, you want more adn he isnt going to give it to you, you cna do better. adn so can the other girl cuz jezze he cheated adn she yells at you shes kinda messes up to dont you think?

This is all your fault. A little bit of his fault but almost completely yours. He has a girlfriend. End of story. Stop trying to convince yourself otherwise. And stop asking us stuff, that you already know the answer to, in a hope that someone will make you feel better by saying it is not all your fault which it is. Tip of advice in the future. Dont get involved with guys who have girlfriends.



...moron...

I agree completely.

^ lol

Theres no need to try to attack the OP by calling her a moron and then try to have the text blend in as if no one would notice.

Have ever even been in a relationship, kid?