I wouldn't say it's a justification, but at least a reason for why adultery may occur in some cases, is simply the dying off of emotions/feelings. People change, feelings change, and though it may not have been the best choice circumstantially for someone to go off and find someone else before first severing relations with the marital spouse, people should not be blamed simply for no longer having feelings for a person

true. but then why does that person not do/say something about the dying feelings?

by not just directly calling for a divorce before going off to to rendezvous with someone more emotionally compatible, I think that though the person may not be INFATUATED AND SUPER IN LOVE ANYMO, that person still cares about the marital spouse. thus, they cannot bring themselves to outright end the marriage and/or hurt the opposite party. just because someone isn't in love with someone, does not mean they cannot care about the other person.

Someone's needs aren't taken care of and for lack of better judgment decide to NOT TALK ABOUT with their marital spouse. this requires a serious reason that I can only attribute hypothetically to the fact that maybe some people are just in a fundamentally flawed relationship with people they cannot communicate with.

is it right? I don't think so. but is it understandable? in my opinion, yes. not all people are cold-hearted pigs and after 20 years of marriage are able to come out and say that they no longer love their spouse. it takes an extremely strong person to be able to admit something like that to a spouse, and the truth of the matter is most people don't have that sort of courage.

To avoid any NJPs or Court-Martials, I would stay away from that. You never know when the btch goes crazy and starts popping off at the mouth. She won't get in trouble because shes a civilian, but you definitely will. Ive seen it happen. Whatever the relationship with her and her husband, if she's trying to get with you and shes married, its trouble. She'll only do the same thing with you.

This is one of the big reasons I left.

But then again, the world is not black and white. There are shades of grey that need to be considered when talking about relationships.

As far as adultery goes: I definitely think that it is justifiable. It is justifiable under certain grounds though. Some people feel that just emotionally connecting with someone is cheating, so they go ahead and cheat back.

That said, I'd rather someone cheat on me physically every single night than emotionally cheat on me. As long as they were coming home to me I'd be alright.

Adultery is terrible.
Marriage is a commitment to another person. A promise that you will hold eachothers feelings above all else, that you will always be there for that person FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
I know most people don't go into a marriage thinking "well, if it doesn't work out I can always cheat", but there are other options.
Talking, counseling, and if all else fails divorce. Even if you are being cheated on two wrongs don't make a right. Go your seperate ways before you start scrogging some one else.

I was always taught that marriage is a sacred union, even if you don't believe in God, at one point in time these people REALLY loved eachother, or really thought they did. Love is still something sacred, right?

adultery may be forgivable, but never justifiable. there is just no such thing as having a legitimate excuse for cheating imo. if you no longer have feelings for your significant other, deal with it or leave. if you have "needs" your significant other can't satisfy, suck it up or leave. if you are infatuated with someone other than your significant other, ignore the temptation or leave.

i'm aware there are many different situations in which one can possibly be placed, but none would justify physical cheating to me. i might forgive my spouse for cheating, just because i'm a forgiving person, but that doesn't necessarily mean i would stay with this person and/or accept that his act is justified or excusable.

Are you married?

It occurring while deployed is just deplorable on the husband's part in my opinion. My boyfriend's wife cheated on him while he was in Iraq about this time last year, and on Thanksgiving posted a Myspace bulletin that she was leaving him and getting a divorce. (Without telling him personally first.) It brings out the worst in people I think. She later had the nerve to say she only cheated because he was never around. Though, he was in the army when they married, and she knew full and well he'd be getting deployed again.

I don't know, I guess i have a bit of a double standard in that area. The people who cheat while their spouses are deployed should have their reproductive organs removed with rusty tools in my opinion.

LOL Yep.

So the husband jacked it up. That truly adds a whole new perspective to things. Well from my personal experience, words of wisdom:

When a female Marine gets cheated on, they get very bipolar. One week, shes saying its over and she wants to move on. The next week, she'll tell you that she and her husband are going to try and make it work. And it keeps going in a cycles.

Now take notice of your surrounding. When you're surrounded by men, having a female companion is fantastical. It lightens up your whole day. Whether we admit it or not, we long for that female companionship. So then our perspective gets really narrow. We start thinking that this is the only way we can be happy.

The Here and Now. He cheated on her. Shes looking for answers. We don't know what kind of answers shes looking for. Revenge? Closure? Or just piecing back the relationship. Yes, deployments have an effect and makes everything different. If you for sure know that she wants to move on, and that she wants it from you... just don't get caught. But if she's swinging moods left and right over the course of the month, step back. Step the F back.

Personally, I had to step back. Btch was crazy. I'm glad I did. Girl is now still in, just had a child from her ex, living alone. It breaks my heart. Meanwhile I am typing up this unintentional long essay in the freedom of my computer lab at my college, sitting next to this girl I'm about to hollar at, soaking up all this fantastical FREEDOM! Because I can! Because I stepped back.

This situation is routine drama in the Corps. When you come back and if and when you choose to get out, your vision will expand to the point where you'll be laughing at this subject.

f**k no it isn't justifiable, what a bunch of lousy human beings.



but yeah it's always justifiable when you're in a situation that needs to be justified.


nah really though, i am not for cheating at all. i have never cheated physically and never will i don't think, but i brush the line of emotionally cheating more than i'd like. i think there's plenty of situations where things can be justified, but that never makes it anymore right. i don't see a huge difference between a situation being a serious relationship and marriage. the ring doesn't make things worse imo, the only thing that makes things "worse" are if there is a family/kids involved. that's kinda too much for me to stomach, but i won't say it's 100% not justifiable becuase there just isn't any 100% to anything involving relationships.


so yeah, i think it can be justified.

No, I'm not married.

The Post-9/11 Veterans Educational Assistance Act of 2008 or “New GI Bill” has been enacted into law.

It will go into effect August 2009.

Dude, they will pay all your school and give you rent (BAH) at sergeants rate. You don't have to worry about work. Just go to school, get that paper and live comfortably! Get out I say! No more massive worries of infidelity and UCMJ.

http://www.gibill.va.gov/