I live with my boyfriend that I have been with for a year. I have recently had much reason to suspect that he has a wandering eye, so I made a fake profile, a girl namaed "mandy" on myyearbook.com and emailed him on it to see if he would flirt back. This is what was all said.

"Mandy" - Hey there. I was just browsing around trying to find some friends in the area and came across your profile. You seem badass, so I thought I would add you as friends. So do you go to school around here? Btw I am Amanda and I am a Chinese food fanatic too! Write back whenever you can. C ya. ;)

Him - how goes it? im new to this site, so im still figuring out how to work it, but i would like to add you as a friend. you seem badass too.

"Mandy" - This website kinda sucks honestly lol. Lots of dumb stuff on here but I just use it to keep up with friends. Anyways so do you live at home? I'd like to get to know more about you.

Him - yeah, im not to impressed with it, but i wanted to check it out and i met you so its not all that bad. so tell me about you and then i'll tell you about me. i will tell you that i checked your photos and i like what i see ;)

"Mandy" - Well I I live with a couple of my friends, and I'm thinking about going to school for a career in graphic design. It's kind of dorky but it's what I enjoy doing. And I LOVE music but I don't think I'd be a good musician.
Aww thank you! A cutie like you has to be seeing someone I bet, huh?

Him - that sounds cool, where were you thinking of going? ball state?
i lived with a few friends too, but they didnt want to work or help pay rent or do anything around the place so i sent them on their way.
haha, yeah, sorry, but im free to do as i please...how about you?

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So what do you think? He's at work right now and doesn't get home until 7am and I'm planning on confronting him as soon as he gets home.

dump him
He obviously cannot be trusted.

wow

what you did is so incredibly sneaky/bitchy/immature that i almost think it overshadows his one statement that he was free to do what he wants.

this is a really weird situation. i hope he somehow knew it was you and it gets thrown back in your face. i can't stand girls who do this kind of shit. if two people are at this level of trust, they shouldn't even be in a relationship.

so in conclusion, you should break up with him. and if you don't, then after this he should break up with you.

Kick him to the curb!

100% true, this might be a little bit more exceptable if the relationship was only like a month old, but even then its wrong to do. You've been together for a year, you should trust him, even if he is wrong. If a guy did that to you i can bet that you would be all in his case.

^exactly


yeah for real

in a perfect world he shouldn't have said the last statement, but it doesn't even really mean anything. so what if you say that to some random person online you know you'll never do anything with? probably a lot of people (if not most) in relationships have mildly flirted here and there with no real intention behind it, but just for the sake of curiosity about how serious the other person is.

I have been tipped off by exactly 6 other people that are his friends...in the past few months. They told me that he sneaks around behind my back. I HAVE TRUSTED HIM, up until recently. I told all those people that they were crazy for thinking he would cheat on me, and then I went on to talk to him about it. He pleaded that he was only seeing me, and that there was nothing wrong in the relationship. I believed him 100%!!! BUT a few days ago, I came upon the broswer history (which he usually deletes, obviously because he has much to hide...I accidentally came upon his myyearbook profile that he went on as a different name, so I wouldn't find it. That is when I decided to make the fake profile.

Now, I understand that what I did was sneaky...but you guys have to understand that there is a difference in being sneaky for no reason except for the fact that a girl is insecure and suspecting....and knowing which red flags you need to recognize and being able to tell when someone is straight up lying to your face. THAT is when I feel it is justifiable to do whatever you feel you need to do in order to find the truth. Ever watch the show, Cheaters? It's the same concept.

I would have never made a fake profile or anything of that nature if I hadn't had a true, gut feeling he was up to no good.

And frankly, I am proud I can actually listen to my gut and not be naive like 99.9999% of other girls out there who are suckers and get cheated on all the time, because they so blindly believe that you should and can trust your everyone you date, even if they do a million shady things and there are hints left and right nonstop that he is betraying.

And yes, I shouldn't be with him....but this is how I HAD to find out. I tried to talk to him, but no dice. He straight up lied, and I knew it, so I did what I had to do. And I'm so glad.

Also, guys come on to me all the time. I seriously get hit on and flirted with pretty much every day, and every single time...I tell them that I am taken. That is what I believe a person in a serious relationship who LIVES with their significant other should say. I deserve to be with someone who will not LIE and say that they are single when they are very much not single.

I'm not trying to control him. I don't own him. Really, if he wants to see other girls, he can, but I'm not going to be in the picture if that is what he wants. He tells me everything is perfect and that he sees no one else, so that is what I expect him to not do, since that is what he told me. I just want to have a boyfriend that is committed and doesn't lie, and if that is what I want, I deserve to have just that. I trusted him and he took advantage of that. Am I just supposed to trust him anyway. What if she were real, and he emailed her again wanting to meet up and they had sex, would I be obligated to trust him still? No. This is where I cross the line. I don't want a boyfriend to be telling other girls he's single, and like I said, I deserve to have that.





An ex did do that to me before, actually. And honestly, he had every right to.

Change my mind
This is what you should do.

Keep talking to him as your fake person.
Then ask for him to meet up with you.
Then when he does, he will see that its been you the whole time and you can start demanding asnswers without him denying it

Theres a chick at my school thats named ashley brook...
but on topic...

This is stupid...I mean absolutely retarded...he is free to do as he pleases right...he has his own mind...am i wrong...no...didn't think so...Wow OMG hes talking to a chick he just met online.not really THAT big of a deal is it...



It is

He didn't say he was single from what you wrote so why would you even say that...
smh...
no trust, no love, no deal...

~dUcEz~

Sneaky, sneaky.
This whole setting a trap for your boyfriend thing is very treacherous.

I don't like how you seem to justify your actions by believing yourself to be smart for thinking up this fake profile.
99.9999999% of other girls don't get cheated on all the time.
You sound proud that you did this, though obviously not of the fact that you discovered firsthand of your boyfriend's supposed wandering eye.

The healthy thing would have been address those reports from the six other people face to face with your boyfriend.
Let him know that you don't want to be wasting your time with someone who cannot commit.

The silver lining is that he did admit to 'you' that he is in a relationship.

Maybe you should just save yourself all the worry and leave him.

Okay, my opinion of this all. That even though you were sneaky you had people that were friends with him tell you that he was sneaking around. So yea it may be wrong and immature that you made a fake profile to see if he would flirt back, but then again he flirt back. And he even made the first move by saying that this chick was good looking.

Oh also on your logs of him with your fake identity, is that he said "yeah, sorry" like he was in a relationship, but yet he was free to do what he pleases?

I don't know, it kind of confused me. I wouldn't be proud of finding out that your boyfriend has been cheating on you also. And I think if you bring it up then you shouldn't bring up this whole fake person thing, bring up the "proof" you have from the people telling you he was looking around at others.