Depends how attatched I am to the person.
But yes I have been cheated on and I was willing to forgive him but he ended up dumping me anyway.

would i forgive him? yes.
would i take him back? no.

i believe that if you hold a grudge against somebody, you'll still giving that person control over your life. the grudge will produce feelings of jealousy, hate, envy, etc. but the worst part of a grudge is that you're only hurting yourself - the other person doesn't feel the pain you feel. so you're just holding yourself back by holding that grudge and that unresolved grudge will eventually carry on to future relationships/situations because it's like bottled anger; you have to release it eventually (but perhaps it'll be misplaced). so i would and i did forgive him; i wouldn't forget, but i'd forgive. but it's easier said than done. admittingly, i went through a day of anger/frustration before i calmed down. but i realized pretty soon that i haven't truly 'moved on' if i couldn't find it in myself to forgive him. forgive & learn.

i also believe that what is done once can be done again, so that would be the end of it. you hurt me once, i'm not going to let you hurt me twice. and frankly, i deserve somebody better, somebody who is loyal and only needs me. plus trust is a very important part in any relationship, and you just shattered my trust for you by cheating. i can't be in a relationship with somebody i don't trust. and there was obviously something not right for the cheating to occur in the first place, so my take is that perhaps it's better to just move on.


he doesn't deserve you. you'll find somebody better, m'dear =]

Well, i think i already posted here before but i saw the comment above me and it got to thinking more.

I believe i was cheated on. Not sure the exact details because i dont want to ask.

I have forgiven him though and till this day we are really good friends.
So im glad we are friends again, still i wonder what happened that day that our relationship changed but i dont feel the need to ask him.

i think the worst is not knowing. like some people would rather not know about the details or whatever (out of sight, out of mind?), but i'd rather know. personally, it stops me from running around in circles inside my head. i mean, it still hurts to hear the other person say it even if you already kinda figured the details out, but at the same time, it provides a sense of closure for me. like shit happens, okay, done, move on.

and i am really glad that you guys are really good friends & you were able to forgive him! that is very mature =]

I'd most likely be able to forgive him. I'm generally a forgiving person who doesn't like having drama with people. I'd forgive but I would never forget. And i wouldn't stay with him either.

If a girl cheated on me, then she is out the door no questions about it.

It doesn't matter the reason if your girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you, you have to forgive that person, because just God can judge them, so just forgive them and don’t treat them bad, I did that and the guy keeps looking for me everywhere, asking himself why he did that to me, he just want to come back with me and I don’t want to because I’m not going to be with him after that, not because I hate him or something like that, but just because he has to learn that people feels bad when someone cheat on them.

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it depends, if it was like a loger term cheat, i would never forgive him
or even a one night stand (sex) i wouldn't forgive him too

but if it was like a kiss, i would make him feel guilty and id have my eye on him,
esepcially i would think im not good enough for him

,unless if he cheated on me for a guy, i dont think i would be mad

Sorries just wouldn't do it, my heart would be obliterated to travel through , its like moving mountainsssssssssss

^ just leave me
just leave me be!

I'll piss his ass off.
but if i ever forgive him then i would never really entirely trust him anymore

I've done the second chances thing before. I'm through with that shit. I'm cold blooded these days.

I would, but it would be really hard to trust him.

I don't know how it'd work out, honestly.

I've been cheated on two and a half times.

I forgave one of them.
The other one I didn't talk to for about three months and then he appologized to me, after that our friends forced us to talk to each other because they felt it to awkward to be arround us.

The half guy I loath to be around
(half being he tried to cheat on me with a friend of my mine who stopped him.)

I've been cheated on. A couple times. It would never have worked out anyways.

But the time it mattered the most, was when my current boyfriend cheated on me. Twice, and with his ex girlfriend(who had previously shattered his heart). He kissed her the first time, and he told me about it, without me asking him about it. The second time was about a month later. His Ex pushed herself on to him in a moment of weakness for him, and they had sex. His best friends had gone from the house to get soda or something or other so neither one of them knew. Days later my boyfriend confessed to me, crying his eyes out, repeating the phrases "I hate myself so much" and "I don't deserve you" several times over. Despite him cheating, and despite my hurting, I calmly asked him to tell me what happened. He did. About ten minutes after that, he told me he had something else to tell me. Me, being the pessimistic person I am, thought it was something else, equally horrible. He said to me, "I haven't been able to tell you this, because I haven't felt I deserved to since I was keeping that from you, but Gina, I love you." That was the first time he told me he loved me, and ever since then, he has worked his hardest to regain my trust. He refuses to talk to his ex now, and we love each other sincerely. We haven't had a problem since.

So, yes. I believe that under certain circumstances, it is indeed forgivable.