He comes to visit me & my mom every 2 weeks or so from lousiana, he camed last night with my brother because today my brother is turning 17.
the point is that I have a new hairstyle, & I understand that alot of people are not going to like it, & I thought my dad wouldn't really care as long as I was happy. but no he doesn't work like that its always about his happiness.he called me gay & said I look like a girl because I straightened my hair & spike it up from the back (picture on myspace) WTF was I suppose to say? I just told him that it was my hair & not his. now my brother is using my dad's comments against me! so I got mad & punched him, & all of a sudden IM the bad person.
I really hate my dad cause he just can't accept me the way I already AM.
so yeah I've come to deeps thoughts that sometimes I really do want him dead.
I'm a bad son, but he's a HORRIBLE dad.



mauricio cruelty.


someone take me with me you!

hmm, it sounds like there are deeper issues with your father, other than your hairstyle. you should definitely talk with your dad about how you really feel because it doesn't sound like where you're coming from. and maybe your father is also going through some problems as well, so i think you should really have an in-depth talk with him.

he probably didnt say it in an "i hate you" way it was probably just him thinking he was funny . . . my dad does that allll the time

yes theres alot more problems & its always because of me! I hate him!!! so much!



MY OWN DD CALL ME STUPID, GAY, & A GIRL!


MY OWN DAD!!!

So what? Who cares that your OWN dad called you those things? Words are just words and someone is always going to think negatively of you, so you just have to deal with it. Like Heathasm said, maybe he said it in a joking sense and you just need to cool it. You already said you were thinking people wouldn't like your haircut, and your dad happens to be one of those people. Parents don't agree with everything their child does and they express that in different ways. Some with saying nothing, some with saying something, some even take it physical. Besides that, I'm sure if your dad is thinking it, others are probably thinking it too but not voicing their opinions to you.

If there are so many problems with your dad, why not grow up and talk to him or even a therapist or someone about it, instead of simply claiming that you hate him? That makes you seem like a child. Many kids have it way worse than their fathers calling them stupid.

Saying "I'm a bad son but he's a horrible dad" does not justify the fact that you want him dead, by the way. To me, it only reveals your immaturity.

uh well maybe you should grow some balls. pretty much everyone has issues with their parents at some point so i think that you're preaching to the choir and no one will really care (or feel bad) about you at all.

but, you`re not really gay?

lol f****t

are you so insecure about your hairstyle/sexuality that you have to take out on other people by punching them?

If your dad has a problem with your hairstyle, you can swallow your pride and change it, or you can keep it and deal with him, or you ca get the f**k out of the house. It's up to you.

Don't be a little bitch.

Okay so let me get this straight. You hate your dad because he called your hair gay? I think you really need to get your priorities straight in my opinion its wrong to wish death upon someone else specially if that person is your dad, but then again i value family much more than others do.

I'm sure your dad loves you dearly he just wont approve of your physical appearance and i think thats partially because if he's anything like my parents he's stuck in the 70's-80's.

Maybe if you could be a little more specific as to why you so strangly believe that he dosent accept you over all.




Its still mind boggling how you hate your dad because he called your hair gay and told you you look like a girl.

When i cut my hair short my mom said i looked like a d*ke with out earrings. i didnt hate her then, oh and another thing is at least he's making the effort to come and see you and your mom. (even if it is every two weeks)

Thats life.

if you and your dad are going to destroy a relationship entirely because of hair, then seriously, sit down and talk. really, it'll help.

um, maybe the fact that his OWN FATHER said those things is the reason why they're so hurtful? yeah words are just words and people have an easier time dealing with remarks when strangers say shit, but when it's your own goddamn father saying such crap about you how can you NOT let it get to you? he's his own FATHER for goodness sake. how would you like it if you were already insecure about yourself and your father couldn't even accept you for the way you were, then gave you an "OMG YOU ARE GAY AND A GIRL !!!11" in a "joking" way. real lovely.

besides the fact that the whole "I HATE YOU and I WANT HIM TO DIE" is extreme, it's a pretty normal response to an event like this. i'm sure you've cooled down by now and can see that his death doesn't really result in anything beneficial to the both of you and as much as you dislike and disagree on what he said about you, i'm sure you don't completely hate him or wish him death. I agree on all of the suggestions for an in dept talk, etc to at least get everything cleared up. if in the end, he just can't accept the way you are, then you'll have to move on. good luck with everything

Again, who cares if it's his own father? He's the one that is insecure in the first place and you can't blame your insecurity on other people. If he's already that insecure then it will be pretty much the same whether a stranger says it OR his father does because either way someone is hurting his already non-existent ego. It's not even a matter of his father accepting him for the way he is either, it's that his dad doesn't like his damn haircut. Boo f**king hoo. It's not like his dad said something ACTUALLY hurtful like "You're the worst son ever, I wish you were never born, you are horrible at everything you do, and I hate everything about you including your gay, girly hair." Anyways, Kyrogenix said it perfectly when he said
Plus he said his father and him have MANY problems besides just this problem, suggesting that things like this have probably happened before, and suggesting that he probably didn't think much of him before he made the comment about his hair. So why should he care if someone who he already doesn't like says something about his hair? I say he needs to grow up.

again, it's because he IS his own father. his father should be someone who can he RELY ON and ACCEPT HIM FOR WHO HE IS, out of all people. instead, his father really helps him on his insecurity by calling him a girl. yeah sure, his father isn't SUPPOSED to lie about shit and say he loves the way his son is if in fact he doesn't, but you have to at least realize this is hurtful to his son no matter what. this isn't even about ego, it's about the fact that a family member can say such hurtful things to you. and if you don't think being called a girl is hurtful, then LAWLS. he cares because it's his f**king father.

well maybe you should quit being such a queer. i had the unfortunate luck to click on your myspace and to see how much of a f*g you really are. you're better off with a vagina.

Have you ever thought that maybe him and his father aren't close in the first place? And not all families are close to the point where it would be hurtful when a parent or sibling says something. Some kids couldn't care less about what their parents say or their opinions on them. That's life. I never said the dad should lie or something so I dunno what the f**k you're talking about...Maybe the dad didn't think he was being hurtful when he said it in the first place. Maybe he actually thought his son had some balls and would take it more light-heartedly. But we'll never know. All I'm saying is that he should grow up and talk to his dad about it or get over it and get used to the fact that people, YES even his own father, are going to say hurtful shit.

HAHAH Tung, your reply cracked me up!

well they were close enough to the point that what his dad said hurt him.

obviously not for this guy, so that's not his life.

I mentioned lying because by saying that fathers should be ones accepting of their children, I didn't mean that they should just lie or bullshit about what they feel to soothe their children.


so yes, what his father said was hurtful. whether or not he has the balls to take what his father said is another matter, as this guy obviously couldn't handle it.

In all honesty, I do believe you're blowing it out of proportion.

First off, words and violence are two completely different things.

Your dad said what he did because he's insensitive, and probably close-minded about what styles you indulge in. And as people have mentioned, that's life.

So you weren't gifted with parents that are oblivious to everything except your happiness. Deal. Not a lot of us are. In fact, a lot of us take a lot of criticism from our parents.

It's how you choose to take it and respond. Growing up and maturing entails acquiring the ability to kick out useless criticism and learn from the constructive ones as well as understanding the mentality of the person said criticism is coming from.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't be phased, annoyed, angered, etc. I'm saying that you shouldn't get all hot and bothered over a comment you know was ignorantly crass and rude in the first place.

As for your brother, beat him at his own game. The boy sounds like an ass, so I'm pretty sure there are tons of potentially pwnage insults you can throw at him.

WOW! I am not going to lie, the gaydar is definitely going nuts over this one. I think that you are gay, and if not, then you are definitely bi. Any other guy, could care less, because as heathasm said, he probably was joking around. I am sorry, but if you aren't gay, or at least curious, then I would be extremely shocked.

yo his dad did it for the lulz the end

It's a little extreme to punch your brother just because he makes fun of your hair. I think you take yourself a little too seriously. If it looks gay and girly, then it looks gay and girly, and if you have a problem with looking like that, then change your hairstyle, otherwise, let him have his own opinions. You can't hate everybody who decides to criticize the way you look.

I mean, really, is that the only reason you hate your dad? Is he violent? Did he ever beat the living shit out of you and did you ever need a restraining order against him? Does he get drunk every weekend and terrorize your family? If not, then please suck it up and sit down, dude.